To never go on holiday again...

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I wouldn't be fussed if I never went on a holiday again. Don't get me wrong, I'm incredibly grateful that I have the option but I just think they are such a faff. My husband loves them and I never enjoy myself....too many clothes, finding stuff to do (that's inevitably expensive)....maybe I'm a miserable cow! Just come back from a week away and I'm knackered and have loads of crap to unpack/wash/put away and a weeks worth of work to catch up on.

Anyone else not get what all the fuss is about?

It is all the organising planning packing unpacking and washing when back that grinds my gears.

I'm sorry you sound miserable to me...
Firstly why do you need loads of clothes and expensive activities?
If you find that stressful...don't do it.
I go away with hand luggage only, never take dressing up type stuff,heels make up etc
A holiday is supposed to be about what you find relaxing,or refreshing...for me that's shorts,t shirt, no fancy stuff for a week or so.
Lying in sun with a book all day and eating in simple beach bars.
Home with minimal washing...
But if it's the type of holiday you are doing then look for a different type or let your dh go on his own...

HA 😂

Never stayed anywhere other than your home or family?
never with a partner? When you were a child? With a friend? Never ever?

@Youheshetheysaid nope. We were never ever taken on holiday as children. I never went on holiday with my abusive exH and I've never been with friends. I've never even stayed with family at their house since I left home at 15 (to live with abusive exH)

I've booked a cottage for 3 nights in July though. Buts it's only an hour down the road. I'm really looking forward to that

There's a thread about Yeovil?? Where is it?

Yep I know what you mean OP. I enjoy a weekend by the sea but haven't got the enthusiasm for long haul holidays anymore.

Howling 😂

Absolutely hate holidays. I can just about manage 1day a yr to visit my friend.

My experience so far of holidays is that with children aged 4 and under they're not really a holiday, as such, at least not for me anyway. Maybe a change of scene more than anything else. However, now that my youngest is nearing 5, they have edged more towards being enjoyable, in the sense that I don't have to be on tenterhooks quite so much, as he's not so very little anymore. We have just come back from 10 days in Majorca and I must say, it was lovely. The weather was great, the food fantastic and lots of fun times in the pool and activities roundabout, plus some beach days. I did really enjoy this latest holiday and would go again. As a mum, you also need to be looked after on holiday so anywhere that feeds you, and gives you drinks, and enables you to watch the children being happy and busy whilst you kick back is going to make a massive difference to your experience.

There are things that make me anxious about holidays - travelling in 2020/21 was particularly shit, and even last year we were still worrying about Covid paperwork. Unnecessarily in the end (thanks for that, France). But lovely when we got there. Lying by a pool, reading a book, having nice food and drink and enjoying the sunshine are not generally stressful activities though I must say. Nor is sightseeing and walking, though it can be tiring. Laundry when you get home is a PITA but then hopefully you haven't done any for two weeks.

I guess some people find any sort of change of scene or routine stressful, everyone is different. When DD1 was a baby and we went to Devon for a few days and suddenly it was like moving an army it didn't really seem like a holiday and just the same shit but elsewhere and therefore more stressful.

Personally I like routine but too much routine and being in the same place all the time is stressful in itself (thank you 2020 and 2021 for confirming that).

Good grief!

That’s huge! Enjoy!

@ballerinagirl have you lived in same town all your life?

I've literally ended relationships over people not wanting to holiday. Couldn't imagine not doing it

Yes I have. Sad but true. I've never travelled further than an hour down the road.
Ironically my favourite programme is a place in the sun lol 😂

so funny, well made me laugh !
we holidayed end August in a farm cottage in the Maidens, owner farmer left us a Landranger map, ‘from Yeovil to Frome’ - although we all loved Longleat and the splendour of Stourhead, this was the abiding reference to a week away, blink and
you miss it (Yeovil or Frome)

@ballerinagirl so were you fibbing on the thread about furthest north you’ve been and furthest south you’ve been, you responded? 😐

* ballerinagirl · 14/04/2023 17:08*
Tobermory north
Brighton south

That does seem very sad to me. I could go on holiday every week if had the option, I love going somewhere new and exploring.

Not trying to catch you out, just curious why you say this on this thread but something very different on another about travel

Or even not new and involving no exploring

a change of environment and a mix up of routine and in my case….. someone cooking and cleaning for me!

I always feel like I need another holiday after I have had a holiday. All the travelling and packing can be tiring. Trick is to book a few days off work to recover after a holiday.

No I wasn't. I was born in Tobermory and moved to Brighton when I was 6 months old. I've not left Brighton

Brighton…. One of my favourite places. Must feel like your on holiday during the summer!

Do you have children OP?

I have found holidays a lot more relaxing with either just me & DH or with adult DC.

I agree it can feel stressful if you are trying to keep young children occupied .

We normally chose a self catering holiday (we use VRBO but similar to AirB&B) and have very simple food in our accommodation such as bread and cheese and wine and then eat out the rest of the time . Always try to get somewhere with washer /dryer so we just pop clothes in part way through the holiday so can both take less and also don't come home to dirty washing .

We spend a lot of our time just sitting on our balcony / garden or in the accommodation relaxing - I read and DH takes his laptop or Amazon stick to watch films. Or we just have a wander around the town we are staying or somewhere near by and have our lunch . All very relaxed .

Maybe this isn't your kind of holiday though .

Can you analyse exactly what parts you enjoy and what you don't ?

yes, it can be a strain with three excitable kids and lots of washing / organising either end - it was always the journey, travelling I found tiring, and a husband whose hobby was complaining, exhausting.
we had a walled garden, real old English, honeysuckle, peonies, roses, etc - we would go off to Cornwall at May half term, with a quiet garden, return early June to everything having burst out in glory, wonderful.
Our house felt rather alien for a while, as though it was sulking, soon as the cats came in miaowing, dinner in the oven, neighbours coming round, the usual, its good to be home.