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Are any Mners on here super rich?

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Felixss · 21/04/2023 11:09

I don't mean upper middle at least a few million. What's life like what staff do you have? What's your daily routine like?How do you earn your money investments etc. Being nosey.

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AnneinNovaScotia · 21/04/2023 15:27

We have a cleaner who comes once a week (has done for past 20 years) and a dogwalker. No other outside help. used to have a landscaping service but dh prefers to do the gardening himself now.

lostinfusion · 21/04/2023 15:28

lol @bettyjane - was about to post the exact same thing.

It was amazing, have my tickets to see it again & can't wait

LemonSoap1 · 21/04/2023 15:29

DH and I are worth around £8 million. Kids privately educated from kindergarten. House in country with 3 acres, tennis court, orchard. 3 cars one of which is over 100k I think (I don’t drive it).

If you met us in the supermarket you would never know as we are both really not flashy and have ordinary accents. No skiing, no big holidays, no dinner parties. I am a jeans and woolly jumper type. My dad was a police officer, DH had a similar modest background (well, far worse as he had a nasty step dad) but won scholarships. He is a qualified chartered accountant but works in private equity. All our money has been earned by DH. I have never had a cleaning lady. I hate having people in the house other than family. My biggest luxury is knowing we can see a GP privately if local surgery says it’s a month before you can get an appointment and our big oak gates, entry com and long driveway. No one can just knock on my door, no neighbours, bliss. We don’t feel rich. We don’t feel superior to anyone in any way. It’s all on the back of DH education and working 7 days a week for 25 years.

This is all true.

Ersorrywhatnow · 21/04/2023 15:32

A cleaner once a week, that’s it. Babysitters but kids are too old for child
minders. They go to State schools but do have subject tutors, and a music teacher who come to the house. Don’t believe in Private Education.
We have one house which we live in, one car new but not a luxury brand, and the one thing we spend the most money on is probably travel.

JoanThursday1972 · 21/04/2023 15:33

Felixss · 21/04/2023 13:22

I particularly liked the car list haha.

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I wondered where the husband had gone in the De Lorean. 1975?

Ersorrywhatnow · 21/04/2023 15:34

We do have a dog Walker 3 x a week, both work. I volunteer in top of that. DW volunteers for a food bank, we’re aware how lucky we are.

MonsterMunchengladbach · 21/04/2023 15:34

we have someone from a detailing company come in once a month to give the "the fleet" a wash and wax

Is "the fleet" a euphemism for your fanny, @onefinemess?

MonsterMunchengladbach · 21/04/2023 15:35

They go to State schools but do have subject tutors, and a music teacher who come to the house. Don’t believe in Private Education

PMSL @Ersorrywhatnow.

Ersorrywhatnow · 21/04/2023 15:35

We make our kids wash the fleet - aka the one car! We live in a city, no need for more than one car …

IClaudine · 21/04/2023 15:36

Alarae · 21/04/2023 15:15

My work involves advising people who have wealth of £10m+. Generally has been created from building up a business which has been sold, or has become large and they take a very decent salary/dividends from it which have enabled them to diversify their wealth into other investments.

One family, dad, son and daughter, probably have a collective wealth upwards of £500m, if not a lot more. The dad has a £XXm house in Oxfordshire and liked to pootle around in a Fiat 500 until he upgraded to an Audi TT. He lives on his own but has a housekeeper. Spends most of his time 'administering' the family trusts (holds c.£150m) and rubs shoulders with Oxford's finest to get early dibs on investment in start up companies (one such investment was about £8m and became £80m about 7 years later).

Son and daughter live in London, both get c.£1m each from trusts left behind from the maternal side. They also get a few hundred thousand from the main family trust, at times with lump sums if needed (both recently got about £3m for their homes). One is attempting to set up his own business (very much loss making, seems more to be having fun under the guise of networking) and the other works part time since having kids. Both are married to fairly comfortable partners but nothing close to their levels of wealth.

Dad is a bit of a grump, son and daughter are absolutely lovely.

In my experience, those who are super wealthy (£50m plus) are lovely, down to earth people. You wouldn't know they are wealthy and they don't show it off on purpose (such as obvious designer labels). Those that are within the bracket up to £10m tend to be quite penny pinchy, boastful about wealth and perceived status. I wonder if this stems from insecurity as while a few million is a lot, realistically it isn't enough to support a flashy lifestyle for very long.

My job very much feels like I'm working in a bubble most of the time. I am decently paid for what I do but very much poor in comparison to my clients.

Serious question Alarae, but is it wise to post details of your clients' wealth like this. I doubt they post on MN but they might recognise themselves if they do and not be very happy!

viques · 21/04/2023 15:37

BigChesterDraws · 21/04/2023 13:27

But you have a job….when do you do your yoga and diamond shopping?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4775030-how-bad-is-this

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Bit of a cheapskate with the replacement engagement ring wasn’t he? My personal take on the Murdoch breakup is that he only spent £3m on her ring. When you think about how much money he has, in percentage terms it’s a bit like someone on a better than average wage buying a ring from Argos.

StopGrowingPlease · 21/04/2023 15:37

onefinemess · 21/04/2023 12:24

I'm not exactly on the Sunday Times list, but I do OK.

No staff here at the Messy Mansion, just a cleaner, gardener/handyman who does the general maintenance, and we have someone from a detailing company come in once a month to give the "the fleet" a wash and wax.

We call it "the fleet", but it's really just a small collection of runabouts, there's my Rang Rover, the X6 we tend to use for the dogs, my husbands "boy's toys", a Lamborghini Aventador and a Ferrari 355, he did buy a Delorean a few years ago, but there is something wrong with the doors so he doesn't drive it anymore, we also have a Model X, which I bought on a whim because I thought the inside looked lovely, it isn't, and I'm embarrassed to admit that I've never driven it since it was delivered, its sitting at the back of the garage collecting dust. I'll have to do something with it over the summer.

House wise, we have one in the UK, a villa in Mauritius and a house boat on the Thames. There are also my parents old cottages in Devon which were an inheritance, but we don't count those as my sister and her family stay there quite regularly and we never know if there will be an empty one for us to use.

Daily routine would be breakfast, then Yoga with my instructor. I'll check my emails and browse Mumsnet with a coffee until lunch time. We usually eat out, so I'll meet someone for lunch at a cafe then a little shopping after. Evenings are couple time, where we normally go to a restaurant for dinner and drinks.

I grew up "poor", typical council house in the Midlands, but I married rich. I met my husband when I was 29 and not long divorced, he was a client at the solicitors I used to do admin for. He comes from money, serious money, although most of it has been split through inheritance with his sister. My husband used to work as a trader in London before Covid, now advises banks (worldwide) about funds and risks and stuff, I think. It's something to do with money anyway.

Most of my friends are similar to me in terms of lifestyle, only one has ever had a job, all the others grew up rich, married rich and have no concept of cost or affordability. If they want something, they get something. I was in the diamond quarter not so long ago where one of my friends spent 36k on a necklace! That's more than I used to earn in a year! She bought it because it "looked so cute on her".

Being rich isn't as good ad people think it is, you get used to it so quickly and "luxury items" quickly just become "stuff".

I’d rather have ‘just stuff’ than to be struggling to pay rent and buy food.. 😩

LemonSoap1 · 21/04/2023 15:38

@Alarae I agree with @IClaudine your post is quite detailed, maybe ask to have it deleted?

SpeckledlyHen · 21/04/2023 15:41

Tortiemiaw · 21/04/2023 12:46

Intrigued by you growing up in a council house and your parents also leaving 'cottages'?

There are also my parents old cottages in Devon which were an inheritance,

MyFaceIsAnAONB · 21/04/2023 15:43

… bit embarrassing @BigChesterDraws 😂 pretty obvious that was a piss take, no need to advance search…

PollyAmour · 21/04/2023 15:45

Bragging about how wealthy one is - surely that's considered to be rather vulgar by the truly rich?

Showdogworkingdog · 21/04/2023 15:45

I got to know a woman at my yoga class who had been in service her whole working life to super rich people. She’d met her DH at work, he was/still is as far as I know, a butler. She was a housekeeper/house manager. Her most recent employers owned a stately home in the UK countryside, a home in the south of France and another home in Barbados and they split their time living for weeks at one property before moving to another. She didn’t tell me what her employers did, but she did drip feed me enough tidbits for me to channel my inner Marple and discover they were essentially landlords on a massive scale.

According to her, her employers, though wealthy, were usually miserable with it, paranoid and cynical and distrusting people’s motives, convinced people were out to get one over on them. This applied to employees, family, each other…

I mean, I wouldn’t mind finding out, but it sounded a bit of a sad life really.

mackthepony · 21/04/2023 15:45

I wondered where the husband had gone in the De Lorean. 1975?

^^

Yes Doc 😄

tailinthejam · 21/04/2023 15:46

I'm not filthy rich, but my friend is.

KiwiMum2023 · 21/04/2023 15:47

BigChesterDraws · 21/04/2023 13:27

But you have a job….when do you do your yoga and diamond shopping?

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4775030-how-bad-is-this

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With her £2k ring 🤣

GasPanic · 21/04/2023 15:47

I think a lot of people from a poorer background find it difficult to understand rich.

They see it as a bed of roses, when all it is mostly is it's own particular set of issues and a lot of goalpost shifting from worrying about stuff most normal people would understand to worrying about different stuff that they probably wouldn't. There isn't much peace.

People who get rich off their own back largely do it because they happen into something lucrative and like doing it. They rarely stop when they become rich, because although that's a nice side effect, it isn't their reason to be. A lot of self made people are obsessed with work in a completely dysfunctional way.

People who inherit wealth can often have dysfunctional lives that are without focus or purpose. Human beings mostly need to have something to drive them forwards, otherwise they stagnate.

Be careful what you wish for.

Fingeronthebutton · 21/04/2023 15:50

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It can happen. My friend was an odd job man. He married into a family who are so wealthy that their private jet is parked on their estate and there is a pilot on 24hr call.

Iloveautumncolours · 21/04/2023 15:55

tescocreditcard · 21/04/2023 13:27

I sussed it when you said he was a super rich client at the solicitor you were doing admin for. Like a super rich person with family money would marry an admin clerk from their solicitors office who grew up on a council estate.+ 😀

Things like that do happen. My sister is a cleaner, one of her clients is a single lady who is very well off. Her ex-husband owns several insurance companies and is loaded. He had an affair with the previous cleaner and is now married to her!
Its a sad story really because his ex-wife (my sisters client) never got over it and is now a lonely, albeit rich, woman in her 60’s living on her own.

XelaM · 21/04/2023 15:56

In my experience, those who are super wealthy (£50m plus) are lovely, down to earth people. You wouldn't know they are wealthy and they don't show it off on purpose (such as obvious designer labels).

Totally my experience and I know many multi-millionaires and work with the ultra-rich. Usually you wouldn't be able to tell they are super-rich and they are very nice and down-to-earth people for the most part.

pollykitty · 21/04/2023 16:01

My parents are rich, I’m not. They made a mint selling a company close to retirement age (25 million I think) and no, before you ask, they have not shared the wealth in terms of just like transferring millions but they have helped out all of their children and grandchildren in various ways. They own two huge houses, including one in Florida on the water, a boat, a fancy RV, lots of cars. They have travelled extensively and always first class since then. For my family, they bought us a car out of the blue one Christmas about 5 years ago. They let us pick out anything to 30K. They had recently visited (I’m American) and I think they genuinely felt sorry for us driving around a 14 year old Mazda with no AC lol. Then shortly after that they paid off all their kids’s mortgages. Ours was about 120K left. Which was the nicest thing ever. My dad is generous to a fault imho and my mother is terrible with money, this is going to sound vile but he’s not well and I suspect after he passes away she will go through all the money. I know for a fact he has left it all to her. No I am not bitter before anyone asks, not having a house payment is like winning the lottery to me. But I have watched my mother turn into a completely different person with the money. She acts very stingy and entitled now and it’s tiresome to be around her.