What do you talk about to your psychologist?

[BlastedPimples]

I'm not sure what to expect from mine. I know advice perhaps isn't appropriate from them but I don't feel like I'm getting much.

I talk about my circumstances.

What has happened to me and my dcs.

How I feel. Sometimes I'm optimistic. Sometimes I'm so very low to the point of feeling paralysed. How I wake up with fear at 4am. My plans for the future.

My psychologist listens. She says it's good I feel optimistic.

She says it's good I have plans.

She says my ex will never change. It's awful what has happened to me and the dcs because of him

I don't see what she is giving me is different to what one of my friends is giving me in terms of support.

Am I asking too much? I expected well, something different. Naive of me perhaps.

Psychologists are HCP registered with HCPC. BACP is a voluntary register for therapists and counsellors but I’m not sure that’s what OP is after. The problem with BACP listings is that so many list a bit of everything in their bio and there’s no indication of experience or training for each. OP is your psychologist private or nhs? If private are they HCPC registered (nhs will be)? If private I’d ditch them at this point because you’ve asked for a different approach and not got it. Obviously more tricky if nhs but you can still request someone else. If your problem is trauma based have a look at EMDR, otherwise as mentioned one of the more directive approaches such as cbt