I was just reading this thread: www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4821404-weird-man-on-running-route-how-to-handle-public-sharing-of-my-image?
and feeling furious on behalf of the OP about how women are socialised to Be Nice and Kind, and when it starts to go tits up everybody minimises it.
Then I thought, that's just happened to me (albeit in a less scary context) at work this week.
Earlier this year, I was involved in advance booking/arranging a series of things, which required sorting things out online. A non-internetty colleague asked me for help to book their thing and they wanted to have a date this summer, which I was happy to do. Put through the booking, all approved by line managers, purchase order sorted by admin office.
Last week, they emailed again to say they needed to make changes. I replied saying Yes, the thing can't be cancelled but changes are allowed, go ahead.
Then they emailed again on Thurs/Fri asking what were the administrative rules, could this go through XYZ budget, could I contact the relevant admin office on their behalf, etc. I don't know what the fuck I was thinking, apart from a desperation to clear my inbox so I could concentrate on Phoebe. So instead of saying "Look, just sort it out yourself" I fired off an email to the admin office with the query.
Monday's reply from the admin office is that the colleague's date for the thing, it turns out, is outside the allowed dates (this had not been mentioned by admins at the time of booking) and in fact the cost should be reimbursed (not indicated by whom or what the fuck to do since the thing is past cancellation date). Basically, if colleague had just gone ahead with unchanged thing, and I hadn't so helpfully made the enquiries colleague had asked for, the thing would have just gone ahead. Now I have a big fucking headache ahead. And presumably it's ultimately my headache because I was the so helpful numpty who made colleague's booking in the first place.