Grudges you continue to hold

[OneFrenchEgg]

Just drive a different way home, past a car wash and remembered how I refuse to use it on principle 😂
Years ago, I was in a hurry and no one in front - as I drove in, and was being 'washed' by one of the chaps, the one in charge allowed someone to jump the queue as they were 'in a hurry' and 'just wanted a spritz' - nope, they reversed all the way back, had everything, and I sat fuming at the the queue jumpy enablement.
Refuse to go back, I'm sure they are disappointed 😂

This happened to me at High School. Called me Rubber Lips and I still despise him 40 years later. If The Purge ever becomes a reality, he’s at the top of my hit list

School mum who detested my Dd due to jealousy. She facilitated her Dd inviting the whole friendship group to her 9th birthday party but only Dd was not invited to stay the night. The girl pranced around all afternoon rubbing dd2 nose in it about the fun they would all have on the sleepover but that she would have to be picked up. Dh brought dd2 (usually a calm undramatic type) home in tears and Dh was furious. Who does that to kids?! As Dd said she would prefer not to have been invited at all. I will always hate that bitch.

Oh dear most of these are minor. I have many grudges. I never forget.

Teachers, school kids, shops/restaurants, work colleagues.

I have met a serious amount of liars, manipulators and just assholes, and they do not like to be stood up to by a woman. So, ya, too many to mention. 😂

Years and years ago when I was still a student, my sister told me that an older girl from school started a fight with her on a bus. The other girl won. She told me her name and I recognised it. I went about for years thinking this older girl had battered my sister.

Fast forward to present day, the same girl’s daughter started at my daughters nursery. My daughter repeatedly would ask for me to arrange play dates with this little girl while the mum was within ear shot. Or walk along talking to her as we left the building. And I would awkwardly float along behind her, avoiding any chat or eye contact with the mum.

One day I mentioned this to my sister and we got talking. As the conversation progressed, my sister mentioned something about this girl’s appearance and it didn’t make sense to me. So we ended up down a rabbit hole of Facebook stalking the girl in question and it turned out I had the completely wrong person in my head. And was being an awkward weirdo with a girl who had no idea that this grudge ever existed. I was mortified.

A guy who used to be friends with friends of my husband, and he’s also the brother of good friend of my family. Him and his wife were always really rude to me for some unknown reason, which I’ve never figured out. Haven’t talked to them in years but I’m in the same Athlectics club as him, although he runs at a much higher level then me. When he runs past me while I’m using the track I always give his back the finger. Gives me a lot of satisfaction, esp since he’s not supposed to be using the track when our group is using it.

Oh I do have a weird one.
A girl I went to school with and knew well told a friend of ours that she was going out with my then boyfriend, I was with him for over a year at this point.

she since married a friends brother and I still can’t stand her. What a weirdo.

@WickedWitchOfTheEast87

thats shocking and abaolutely cold! 😱😱 how did you resist the urge to wring her neck! I hope you told people what she did the utter bitch!

It was extremely hard not to wring her neck.
My 6yr old was better informed on how to behave than this 48yr old woman was.
I told everyone I knew about what she'd done, including her ex-husband and adult children.
It was the loss of those beautiful babies that broke our hearts, the loss of the money from their sale wasn't as important, but it didn't help either.

I just thought of another, my deputy head of year when I was in year 9. I suffered with heavy periods and came on a week early, I had no spare clothes with me and it was so bad that I needed to change so I went to my deputy head of year (head of year was off sick) explained what had happened and asked her if I could go home (it was near the end of lunch time so had one lesson left for the day) she said no and told me to turn my knickers inside out! 😯🤢 I was so upset I went to my form tutor and told her what happened I will never forget the disgust on her face she wrote me a note giving her permission for me to go home, spoke to a senior teacher about it and he signed the note and said I could go home.

When I got home my mum had just finished work I told her what happened and why I was home an hour early my mum was pissed off, she phoned the school and spoke to my deputy head who had the cheek to angrily tell my mum she had told me I couldn't go home and I would have an hour detention, my mum shut her down and told her that she was disgusting for saying that to me and expecting me to do that and told her as a woman she should have understood. My mum also told her that if she ever did that to me again she would be meeting my mum in person and making an official complaint and by the way there will be no detention as she will not be giving her permission.

I thought that was the end of it but it wasn't. Deputy head was clearly pissed off so the next day when I went back to school she kept me behind 20 mins at home time (teachers were allowed to keep students for a 20 minute detention after school without notice) and told me I would be having another two 20 minute detentions after school so basically trying to give me an hour without getting parental consent. My mum was livid when I told her. She phoned the school asked to speak to whoever was senior to my deputy head which happened to be one of the deputy headteachers of the school. My mum told him what had happened how livid she was and she wanted to make a complaint and if they did not deal with it quickly and put deputy head straight she was gonna cause world war 3 over it. To the credit of the deputy headteacher he completely agreed with my mum and said he had daughters as well and that it was totally unacceptable especially as I had excellent attendance and didn't make a habit of this. He told my mum he would deal with it.

I never did find out what he said to my deputy head of year but after that she never said a wrong word out of place to me and I didn't have to do those other two 20 minute detentions. To this day I have never forgiven my deputy head for what she said and her behaviour after it. All I wanted to do was go home have a wash and change my clothes, she was an utter bitch!

@Harmonypus You deserve a medal for your self control. What did people say when you told them?

The majority had similar responses to you, but one or two said this woman clearly had nothing to do with it, and the cat was going to kill her kittens anyway. I've written those people out of my life too!

Wow, some of these have been LOL and others, like the one above are outrageously awful.

I've got plenty too, but the one that hurts the most is when a good friend's DH, who was a professional photographer, first agreed to give us a wedding present by taking our wedding pics. Until two days prior to the wedding, when it was obviously way too late to get anyone else, he asked if he and my friend and their small child and their new born could camp in our field behind our house. ( we ran an animal sanctuary.) "They wouldn't bother us .. we wouldn't even notice they were there .... " They smoke so much dope they probably would have come and expected us to "party" with them at 3am.

Since my wonderful DH and I felt really strongly that we wanted to enjoy the newly married feeling in peace and quiet I was unusually for me assertive enough to tell them no, that didn't work for us and explained why.

So the fuc*er didn't come. Full stop. Over a dozen other friends travelled the 450 miles and back on the same day, though others stayed at a hotel overnight, but he left us bereft of any magical reminders of our day. I've been polite, even pretended to be friendly-ish - for my friend's sake, but I've never forgiven the petty little shit.

Especially as my bridesmaid (little terrier with a feather boa collar & lead to match my outfit) was killed just two months later in a freak accident and I would so much have loved to have photos of her, then and now!

The dr who gave my child a drug she didn’t need knowing it could kill her. And it did. I will never, ever forgive that dr and hope she is tortured by what she did and how she lied to me about how that poison was safe. I don’t think she is sorry at all about what she did and the pain and damage she has caused to my family. There is a special place in hell for that woman. I hope she burns in it.

The coroner who presided over my child’s inquest. I have never met a more unsympathetic, egotistical, disgusting excuse for a man. Arrogance and ignorance are a rancid combination. He nearly broke me.

i wish nothing but misery on these two disgraceful excuses for people.

The face was priceless.

He then went on to park outside another person's house for a while. This prompted a further driveway. The ultimate outcome is better parking for our whole street, as there are now lots of dropped curbs and consequently fewer cars parked on pavements. The neighbour realised that he can park on his own parking space, there's plenty of room for his wife on the driveway and if there's occasion to get the motorcycle out, he can manage that just fine. It takes a special kind of w@nker not to have realised that when he saw my other half with baby under one arm, buggy under the other arm, holding my toddler by the hand and carrying all their stuff to where our car is squeezed in between two others halfway down the street, on his way to childcare drop off on the daily. Hence I will continue to hold my grudge.

Oak Furniture Land, for sending me a parking fine in the post when I spent 'too long' spending over £800 in store with them, and refusing to intervene because I'd also visited SCS in the same retail park on the same trip. The parking fine company turned out to be far more reasonable than OFL and rescinded the fine.

The Range, for a policy banning unaccompanied under 16s from entering. It resulted in me and some friends being kicked out when we were 14/15 and doing nothing wrong. I'm well into my 30s now, and have neither forgiven nor forgotten.

My mother has been holding a grudge against lasagne because it gave her food poisoning in 1996. She can't even bear to hear the word.

I have a number of grudges against the council, but the bastards keep threatening me if I don't pay up for their shit services, most of which are irrelevant to me anyway. My particular gripe is that car drivers are allowed to go to the tip 30 times a year. As a van driver, I'm only allowed to go once a month, even with my own household waste. We've been doing the house up, waste has built up on the driveway because it won't all fit in my van, and the neighbours are grumbling. I'm buggered if I'm going to pay some waste disposal person extra just because I happen to drive a van.

Jesus Christ @Bucketoftwohorns I’m so sorry. Bloody hell. 😢

@Harmonypus what horrible bastards glad you cut them of as well. What your ex friend did was cruel I bet she wouldn't have done that if you had a Rottweiler and it had just had pups, lets hope one mauls her it would be karma!

@a1poshpaws wow that is petty and quite horrible after what happened to your flower girl I wouldn't have spoken to friend or her husband again for that.

@Bucketoftwohorns 😱😱😱 that is absolutely shocking and vile! I'm so sorry for your loss ❤❤

I hope there are 2 places reserved in hell for the doctor and coronor! I'm shocked at the amount of horrible comments and things that posters have said about doctors and nurses on this thread, you'd think people in the medical profession would have some empathy!

Oldest grudge: 1975, falsely accused of writing a nasty note to someone at school. Someone somewhere knows it was them.
Most recent: terrible job at a terrible council with a terrible manager and terrible wastes-of-space spouting homophobic, sexist, judgemental rubbish. The whole place gets a wide variety of raspberries every single morning as I drive past on my way to my best ever job. Extra luxuriant raspberries on Fridays to last the weekend :).

My former next door neighbour, utterly hateful spiteful bald angry man.

We lived in terraced housing, I could hear them use the bathroom through the walls. Yet, he had the audacity to bang on the wall like the hounds of hell were baying for admittance when my children were being normal children playing volume.

The loathsome worm woke me up from a post night shift sleep as well. I hope he’s lost more hair nowadays. Foul creature!

I’ve still got a grudge against the young girl that came to work in my office about twenty years ago. She decided that she liked the desk that I worked at. I came into work one day and she’d literally swapped all of our stuff round so she sat at my desk. She’d moved all my work, she’d been through my drawers and moved my personal things. When I stood open mouthed and speechless the stupid little twat had the brass balls to ask if I was angry with her because she was younger than me.

That was the last straw in a long line of idiotic behaviour. She thought she was something special because she was young and had been a model and batted her eyelids at everyone. Yes I’m aware that I sound jealous, no I’m not exaggerating and no, I’m not jealous, I have a modicum of self respect. I complained but didn’t get anywhere and then when I was away on holiday they made me redundant. Just wish they’d told me before I’d gone, I’d have enjoyed my holiday even more.

Totnes, for making me waste hours of my life stuck in traffic jams.

@Bucketoftwohorns I’m so sorry to read about your daughter and it’s awful that those two individuals let her (and you) down so badly.

Love this!!! 😆
Gosh, I’ve had so many bad experiences with businesses that still make my blood boil to this day!

My mothers next door neighbour stole her gate when she had to leave her home of 60 years to go into care.

Question is shall I steal it back?
8 hour round drive but probably worth it.

Dobbyn Scott, worse manage I've ever had. So sexist she bullied most of the women out of their jobs, I didn't quit and she hated that so would constantly accuse me of theft, mess with my pay, and start rumours about me. The worst though was when she fired a 17 year old because he refused to work the day after his mum died. She is, was, forever will be, a vile bitch.

I don't do grudge and anger. No, I'm not a Saint. I used to do them. I can still get anger and grudgy, though. It's human.

I have just learnt a better/healthier way to deal with them over the past 20 years.

I have tools and techniques for dealing with them today through many years of various ongoing therapy in specialist areas and a 12-step program.

Some of the grudges I used to hold were ridiculous. Some were understandable.

A lot of the anger and resentments were down to a dysfunctional childhood, recreated in adulthood until I finally got out and got the help I needed.

This thread has given me a smile, though. Some of these I have done. There are still places I wouldn't go even though the grudge has gone. It's a principle sort of thing.