I parent and work, date and am financially stable. I have acquaintances/friends who are really struggling financially, I understand life is hard, mine can be too. I front loaded a lot of my responsibilities, didn't travel for years on end or study multiple degrees/juggle career changes. I didn't follow some artistic dream, I followed a practical path. I m relatively financially stable now and still careful with money.
There is a group of relentlessly b1tchy "friends", who have realised I m financially stable and feel entitled to twist what I say and do, to soothe their own jealousies. I m sick of it. I ve distanced myself from so many of these frenemies. A slightly bonkers woman who I met on the street out walking, even said it to me, it's because you are mortgage free and the rest of us are stuck facing into x number of years tied to these mortgages.
I get it, but you know what, I paid mine too. I didn't win the lotto, I put the years in. I m still parenting and paying for kids, and fending for myself 100%.
I m just sick of people trying to twist what I say or do, to find a hook to hang their jealousy off. I understand its scary being broke as hell in your 40s, but I can only fend for myself. It's the twisting and the disengenous communication that I m sick off. Trying to pry into my private life or dating life to generate gossip etc. I think lots of people have really lost the plot.
It's sad, because you just distance yourself from all the negative people, grey rock them all, and your circle decreases.