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Can you get universal credit for being a SAHM if husband works f/t?

522 replies

faultywiring · 11/04/2023 12:25

I am a SAHM and dh works full time, only min wage but he does about 50 hours.
Would I be able to get Universal credit and stay at home dc are 5 and 7 both at school.
I don't want job seekers as I'm not looking for jobs but just wondering if UC was an option or if I'd be expected to look for work?

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Booboopotato · 12/04/2023 19:05

YES you can! I do! Dill
in application and you’ll soon know. But my hubby is full time and I stay at home

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 12/04/2023 19:08

Booboopotato · 12/04/2023 19:05

YES you can! I do! Dill
in application and you’ll soon know. But my hubby is full time and I stay at home

I wish we could opt out of the proportion of our tax that goes to people like you 😡.

Mumof3andlab · 12/04/2023 19:08

I don’t see the need for this post other than to provoke people. If you think you
mignt be entitled to UC use a benefits calculator online, do not ask mumsnet ffs 😂😂

OP you have to be a troll

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MonicaBingaling · 12/04/2023 19:11

MrsSamR · 11/04/2023 12:37

Why should you? I'm sure lots of people would love to be SAHPs but can't afford to. Why should hardworking people fund you not to work. Absolutely outrageous sense of entitlement.

This!!

im quite disgusted by her post tbh.

Hmm1234 · 12/04/2023 19:12

Use an online checker like entitled to. It depends on his earnings and which part of the country you live in

DungballInADress · 12/04/2023 19:14

Even when my children were small they means test your partners income - i thibk cutoff is something like £26k if you have 2 children, if your DH earns any more than that you wouldnt qualify

How do you deal with childcare? You manage. You beg, borrow and steal childcare from anywhere you can. You use breakfast and after school clubs. You find a job that that allows you to work from home when they are sick, you keep holiday days back in case of sickness, your DH and you alternate booking leave in holidays. Sometimes you'll earn only enough to pay the childcare.

Was the pain worth it? For me, yes. I have a flexible employer and a career that has led to a role where I earn a similar ampubt to DH. DCs are well-rounded and know that you work hard, you reap rewards.

Hunny22x · 12/04/2023 19:17

Hi I was wondering my maternity pay from work ends next month but I’m not due to back to work till September, my husband works full time about 40 hours and wanted to ask if we would be entitled to any UC after next month?
it’s stressing me out completely just thinking about it

Lozois99 · 12/04/2023 19:24

😂😂😂

people with genuine disabilities are struggling to get the benefits they are actually entitled to and this prick thinks she should be getting something for choosing to be a SAHM 😂😂😂

”we manage fine”

theres your answer

give me strength

Singapore4 · 12/04/2023 19:27

Hunny22x · 12/04/2023 19:17

Hi I was wondering my maternity pay from work ends next month but I’m not due to back to work till September, my husband works full time about 40 hours and wanted to ask if we would be entitled to any UC after next month?
it’s stressing me out completely just thinking about it

UC is based upon your earnings. There's a lot of misinformation on this thread it's not just solely your hours it's what you earn too.

Ring CAB for advice ask them to do a calculation for you.

Melbourne12 · 12/04/2023 19:33

Lol SAHP when both your kids are at school. Who are you parenting during those hours? 😂

A prime example of why people on benefits get such a bad name.

Wantthisfriend · 12/04/2023 19:36

Lots of comments here about 'people paying you not to work'. I wonder how many of those also support 'paying people to work', by giving them subsidised or taxpayer funded childcare... If ones job doesn't support childcare costs, its time to stay at home and look after ones children.
Anyway OP I can't give you an accurate answer, but I hope everything works out for you and your obviously hardworking partner.💐

Chatterbuginabox · 12/04/2023 19:40

Im a sp.
i still have 2 under school age. My parents are over 80 so no childcare support. I work 24hrs per week and claim uc for cc costs.

to make it work i had to rethink my whole career, found a job wfh in a parent friendly profession. dont give up on working, rethink it. If you step away from your career it will be 1000x harder to get it back again.

HistoryFanatic · 12/04/2023 19:41

Queenbee77 · 12/04/2023 18:20

This lady IS working. She looks after her two children and a hysbans. Unfortunately society dint recognise this as work. Go on an independant benefit calculator on line and input all your details. You will find out what you are entitled too.

I don't think UC will agree on your definition of work and employment.

Singapore4 · 12/04/2023 19:42

Wantthisfriend · 12/04/2023 19:36

Lots of comments here about 'people paying you not to work'. I wonder how many of those also support 'paying people to work', by giving them subsidised or taxpayer funded childcare... If ones job doesn't support childcare costs, its time to stay at home and look after ones children.
Anyway OP I can't give you an accurate answer, but I hope everything works out for you and your obviously hardworking partner.💐

You legally can't stay at home though. If you are a single parent it's impossible to live off of full benefits you now pay council tax too. So your point about funding childcare is invalid. It's not optional on UC you would be made to look for work.

Even if you get help with childcare so do 2 parent families too sometimes. As a single person you would get a 25% discount but you are still expected to pay a good chunk of council tax.

Suggesting we should do what OP is doing isn't going to help the economy either. What would it come to if we all took that stance?!

Melbourne12 · 12/04/2023 19:43

HistoryFanatic · 12/04/2023 19:41

I don't think UC will agree on your definition of work and employment.

😂 Nor will any sane person.

Looking after her husband? Is this the 1950s?

Kids in school (presumably from 9-3), so looking after them in the evenings and holidays like every other parent who works.

Booboopotato · 12/04/2023 19:46

@Idratherbepaddleboarding😂😂 N i understand your frustrations however maybe you shouldn’t be so quick to judge. I’ve worked my whole life in education and sadly had to give up my job two years ago because my autistic child is always being sent home from school, being put on part time tables with no notice and a list of never ending appointments so I was unable to keep a job and with a baby to care for too. I loved my career and will get back to it when life allows me to so perhaps reserve your judgements love

HistoryFanatic · 12/04/2023 19:47

Melbourne12 · 12/04/2023 19:43

😂 Nor will any sane person.

Looking after her husband? Is this the 1950s?

Kids in school (presumably from 9-3), so looking after them in the evenings and holidays like every other parent who works.

Sure it is just so she can laze and watch Netflix. 😁

Melbourne12 · 12/04/2023 19:48

HistoryFanatic · 12/04/2023 19:47

Sure it is just so she can laze and watch Netflix. 😁

100%. Get the kids out to school and back to bed til lunchtime with Netflix and tea.

Cherrysherbet · 12/04/2023 19:58

You need to find a job that fits around your dh. If he works days, you do evenings. If he works Saturdays, you do Sundays. That’s the way most people live.
You shouldn’t claim benefits just because you think you can’t find a job that is possible to do.

Start looking!

daydreaming4 · 12/04/2023 20:15

I just had a quick look for you on link it does not tell you how much but it states if children over 5 years your expected to work or look for work 16 hours per week.
I have been a stay at home mother, part time working mother and now full time working mother children 8, 12, 18 and 20 years eldest has special needs.
The childcare is the block for so many women would love to work. I have had childminders who have pretended my children were ill and asked for cash for childcare they never provided. (obviously I withdrew my children from that childminder)
I have had nurseries that charged full fee while closed for two weeks at Xmas. I have had a mother in law who was apparently too unwell to look after any of my children even once per week but was well enough to provide day care and night care for two of my sister in law's children so she worked full time from them being small babies.
Mother in law and sister in law would then make vile comments about me being full time parent.
My husband worked away for years sometimes not even home for a weekend so I could not even commit to evening work which I would have been happy to do.
I work full time but the juggle is difficult especially like you say the holidays. I try to take two weeks holiday in 6 weeks and husband takes two different weeks in this period. Thank god his workplace is closed for a week at Xmas and bank holidays. This frees me to take bank holiday work in NHS.
Prior to this I worked in hostels doing two twelve hour shifts usually on a weekend when husband was off however company never paid the correct hours and expected me just to wait another month.
My two youngest simply would not tolerate clubs for entire 6 weeks holiday and we could not afford it.
Breakfast club at school opens at 8am and closes at 4.30pm no childminders at all available in our area. Husband company let him have flexibility for 8.10am start and twice a week leaves early and makes the time up. I asked for 4 ten hour shifts instead of 5x 8 hour shifts.
A family friend helps twice a week.
Please remember not everyone has circumstances or family help.
I think it's terrible people stigmatise stay home parents so much this was completely the expectation years ago and it was women who worked full time that got stick (again completely wrong and unhelpful)
Stay home parents lose skills, pension, career progression and confidence.
All this lady asked was a simple question and to be fair and fair we should all be on a site like this the universal credit is based on household income not which parent works. If this lady was not claiming a means tested benefit the family are entitled to then her children miss out.
Everyone is finding times more expensive and stressful and no-one has job security for life
If you are stay home parent it's always beneficial to fit a bit volunteer work in and online courses keeps your skills and confidence up.
I feel because I have wore both hats stay home parent and full time working parent I can honestly say neither is easy and both are judged harshly.
Let's all give each other a break

Queenbee77 · 12/04/2023 20:17

Whats wrong with going online and checking out ehat she is entitled too. She is looking after 'tomorrows' workforce, her children! Perhaps she likes looking after her husband! Sorry about mis spelled words earlier....had just woken up. Lol. Funny nobody said anything about 😳that. But I got your back up with saying she was working looking after children. Why shouldnt you get paid for looking after your own children? Well.......

Queenbee77 · 12/04/2023 20:19

....do a course in childcare and set up as a childminder. You only need to take on one child and your own children ( since they are in school all day) and you can claim back the childcare😀.

Melbourne12 · 12/04/2023 20:21

Queenbee77 · 12/04/2023 20:17

Whats wrong with going online and checking out ehat she is entitled too. She is looking after 'tomorrows' workforce, her children! Perhaps she likes looking after her husband! Sorry about mis spelled words earlier....had just woken up. Lol. Funny nobody said anything about 😳that. But I got your back up with saying she was working looking after children. Why shouldnt you get paid for looking after your own children? Well.......

We all look after tomorrow’s workforce by caring for our kids. To be frank, she’s child free for 30ish hours a week, so when is she caring for them?

Are you suggesting people should get paid for looking after their kids? Surely this is a wind up. 😂

Queenbee77 · 12/04/2023 20:23

Not a wind up. You do get child benefit thou. So you do get paid to have the children. But its not much.

Melbourne12 · 12/04/2023 20:26

Queenbee77 · 12/04/2023 20:23

Not a wind up. You do get child benefit thou. So you do get paid to have the children. But its not much.

If everyone quit their real jobs to become a professional Mummy, the country wound grind to a standstill.

If people want to be a SAHP then crack on, but why should me and every other taxpayer fund their duvet days and mid morning shopping trips?