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What kind of granny will you be?

116 replies

lljkk · 08/04/2023 18:28

I'll be taking any grand children skating, wind-surfing & mountainbiking. I'll give them ice cream for tea. And you?

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stayathomer · 08/04/2023 23:53

I’ll be helpful as much as possible, will love the kids to bits but tbh I won’t be great at minding as at only 42 I already have a dodgy back and knees and can’t imagine being able to run around or carry a baby. It’s why I feel so much for the mils quoted on mn that apparently don’t help enough- I’m like ‘of course not, they’re tired after rearing their kids!!’

80sMum · 09/04/2023 00:01

Noicant · 08/04/2023 18:50

If DD has them at the same age I had her I’ll be 76 and hopefully sitting in a nice comfy chair doing the crossword and not doing any childcare whatsoever.

Don't bank on it! You'll still be young enough to get roped in, somehow, I'll bet! 😊

thebaneofmylifeisacat · 09/04/2023 00:34

Sarahclara

Understand totally but I bet they adore you as you sound fab.

Weatherwax13 · 09/04/2023 00:38

I was very hands on the first few years till my health went wonky so I had to do a blanket rule of no childcare. Still feel extremely guilty although DDs have been so understanding. I still do emergency school pick ups if there's illness.
I see them every week. Play interminable games with them and always make them cakes. Buy most of their clothes and school supplies to help DDs out. Do massive Christmases and birthdays for them (in terms of fun not expensive gifts)
I didn't expect it to turn out this way, as I became a grandmother at 42.
I do suspect pretty much raising one GC for the first couple of years (in awful circumstances) contributed to my health condition. On the plus side we are a mutual fan club.
I'll be moving overseas again in a couple of years and as they'll be older the plan is for them to come for a month every summer. We can keep our close bond and DDs will have a break (and save on childcare!)

Dracuuule · 09/04/2023 00:41

I hope my dc settle down and have dc in their 20's as I'm an older mother myself. This way I hope I'll be fit enough to be of some use at least!

eloquent · 09/04/2023 00:42

Constant slightly tipsy, living my best life in Italy, they come and stay at my home regularly and they all adore me, but constantly roll their eyes at me 😄

Dracuuule · 09/04/2023 00:44

Oh and I'd be the kind of grandma that takes them on day trips, takes them to theatres and on adventurous trips and bike rides. We'll order pizza and have movie nights on sleepovers.

MyBloodyMaryneedsmoreTabasco · 09/04/2023 00:49

Stunned because I'm not expecting to be one. If I am, I'll be known as something other than gran/my, nan etc and very much on the periphery while paying for shoes, clubs or holidays. I will not be doing childcare and sleepovers will be rare.

TessoftheDubonnet · 09/04/2023 00:49

So much more fun than being a mum!

I'm still very fit and we have endless fun in the playground. Look forward to teaching her how to ski.

I'm an artist and we are doing wonderful artsy stuff together. Yesterday we painted Easter eggs. I can't wait to take her to modern art museums.

She's a sponge - soaks it all up. I wish I'd not been so tired when my boys were little...

LadyGAgain · 09/04/2023 00:52

Dracuuule · 09/04/2023 00:44

Oh and I'd be the kind of grandma that takes them on day trips, takes them to theatres and on adventurous trips and bike rides. We'll order pizza and have movie nights on sleepovers.

I pledge to be this too. This is what my own children are lucky enough to experience with their grandma/nana.

Mammyloveswine · 09/04/2023 00:57

As a teacher I'll end up having them in the holidays but that's ok by me!

I'll want to help out!

Blanketpolicy · 09/04/2023 00:58

I'll probably be in my 70s, so I'll be the kind that cheats at Ludo 😈, feeds them too much chocolate and they won't let me take them out in the car because my driving is becoming a problem 🤣

LadyGAgain · 09/04/2023 01:01

Blanketpolicy · 09/04/2023 00:58

I'll probably be in my 70s, so I'll be the kind that cheats at Ludo 😈, feeds them too much chocolate and they won't let me take them out in the car because my driving is becoming a problem 🤣

Awesome

thebaneofmylifeisacat · 09/04/2023 01:56

Amazed not more grans/nans here as I was a young mum on mumsnet back in the day!

Where are you all ??

Lovely thread op

ComputerWifeKaren · 09/04/2023 02:18

worraliberty · 08/04/2023 18:57

I'll be Catherine Tate's Nan, but with an even filthier laugh.

This. I also plan to have rainbow coloured hair and batter young 'uns with my handbag if they misbehave. House full of cats. Old age might have to drag me kicking and screaming but once I’m there, I'll be disgraceful Grin

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lljkk · 09/04/2023 02:29

ChiChaNaYubi · 08/04/2023 20:05

I will hopefully be on a booze cruise in the Caribbean spending my divorce money and having wild sex with my toy boy, Carlos.

lol !!

( Reality is I'd be a bit horrified if any of DC becomes a parent soon. )

Should in reality I turn out to be too infirm to go skiing & scuba diving... I'll be party to hours of daft role play and making mud pies in the summer in the garden. I'll teach them rude words in foreign languages and invite them to teach me the latest techie things. I'll invite them to build forts in my living room and challenge them to lego building contests (which naturally I will lose with pretend poor grace).

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catinboooots · 09/04/2023 03:35

Ok so DS1 is 22 and I'm 43 so hoping to be a nan before I'm 55.

I will spoil them rotten, buy them ponies and teach to them to ride.

I hoping my mum gets to be a G-Nan. My nan had such a special relationship with DS1. I think she died when he was 10.

Nowthatlovehasperished · 09/04/2023 04:34

I'll bring them books and read to them. Take them to the park and NT houses. Build dens with them. Teach them about nature.

Mocky · 09/04/2023 04:49

I really hope all you would-be grannies aren't pestering your DC to get on and reproduce.

I hope you let them know that they are sufficient in themselves.

Blanketpolicy · 09/04/2023 06:08

Mocky · 09/04/2023 04:49

I really hope all you would-be grannies aren't pestering your DC to get on and reproduce.

I hope you let them know that they are sufficient in themselves.

Mine is only 19 so I am very firmly in the make sure you're careful stage! I can't imagine either pressing for dgc OR the need to let them know they are "sufficient in themselves". 🤔

MissMogwai · 09/04/2023 07:33

I became a grandma much younger than I thought. I have a close bond with my little grandchild and have regular sleepovers, take on days out, swimming etc.
it's nice to do all those things that pass by so quickly again, revisiting beautiful stories and games, and listening to another little voice chatter.

That said, I am still early 40's ish so work full time and have a life of my own. The balance works for me, and I hope my DD feels like she has support and a break. I do respect her rules, they are similar to mine at that age so no problems there!

My own parents helped out on occasion but rarely any overnights and it soon petered out as the children got older. They aren't close now.

QuintanaRoo · 09/04/2023 07:35

Sadly I’m never going to be one. Only have one dc and she has so many chronic illnesses she would be extremely high risk in pregnancy. She’s mid 20s and says she knows she can’t risk having children.

DinosApple · 09/04/2023 07:47

I'll be hands on and do whatever my age and health allows. I adore kids, right from newborns up.

Now if the DDs have them when I did I'll be around 53 and still working, but DH will be very much retired by then so can be hands on. He'd enjoy it, definitely.

Mil became a grandma for the first time just before her 80th birthday and she totally rocked it! So if I'm an older gran I've a great example to follow.

Oblomov23 · 09/04/2023 07:51

Like my mum, only more daring. I'm solid, reliable, caring, sensible, talks about emotions. But no nonsense. But also daring, scariest rides and bunjee jumping etc.

Natsku · 09/04/2023 07:53

Well I hope I'll be like my mum, taking them skiing and running and all active things like that but I fear I won't. But mainly I hope to be involved and helpful, babysitting when needed and sleepovers and whatnot. My neighbours are inspiring as grandparents, they regularly look after their grandson for a week at a time when his parents have to travel for work and play so much with him (and invite my ds round to play with him so much that ds calls them grandparents too!)

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