What kind of granny will you be?

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I'll be taking any grand children skating, wind-surfing & mountainbiking. I'll give them ice cream for tea. And you?

God knows. I had DS when I was 18, hopefully he doesn't follow suit or I'll be a gran at 36.

If I am ever lucky enough to be a granny I just want to be able to give my daughters a break and be as supportive as I can be without taking over, I had no one to help me and I struggled, I really want to be able to make things easier for them, clean the house so they can take the baby out or look after the baby while they have a break. I hope I'm around to do that for them

An old one. A really old one!

A very tired one! I'm due to become a nanny at the end of this year and altho I'm happy about it I probably won't be that hands on. My daughter lives over 2 hours away and I have younger children myself (6&8) and after bringing up two family's I'm just about baby'ed out. I'm excited for them for sure but I'm not overly excited about becoming a nanny

Hopefully half as good as my MIL is. The bond she has with her grandchildren and step-grandchildren is amazing.

She manages to do it whilst not treading on parents toes, not showing any favouritism, and just generally being wonderful.

Im very lucky. My Nana, MIL, my exes mum and DH’s first MIL have shown me the path to go. I just hope I can follow it!!

I had my son at 22 . Don't want to be a granny at 42😂🙈 I think I will do my best but I probably won't want to have them too much when I become a grandparent. I have a three year old and a almost 15 year old and by the time they are raised I will have been a parent longer than I haven't 🙈 I need a break from kids .

Not planing to be too involved at all to be honest. Hopefully will still be young and healthy enough at that stage to do lots of travelling rather than childcare.

I would hope I'll be as I am as a parent and as my mum was as a grannie.

Interested, taking them out for walks, talking to them.

I only hope I have grandchildren while I can still enjoy them.

I am 52 and my Ds's are 17 and 13 so not a given

No plans to be actively involved much. Obviously help out in real need but I’m not a child person and my children know that!

I had a bit of a moment a few weeks ago about how much I would love to meet and look after my DC's DC when they eventually have them. I just felt so much love for the beings that haven't been created yet because I love my DC so much. I'm going to look after them before they go to school (obviously not full time but one day a week if I can). I'm going to pick them up from school one day a week when they go. (All of this assuming it's OK with my DC!) I want to really know them, know their personalities and be there for them. I want a positive loving relationship them and support their interests. PILS and my DP aren't exactly the best role models so I'm going to do things my way (again assuming they align with my DC's. What works for them is my priority. Being there for them).

I'm a granny (I'm 55) to a nearly 2 year old.
I love it.
I dropped to supply only at work so that I could do child care and have him 2-3 long days a week as my DD and her dh are nurses so they often need care til very late so I get to put him to bed.
I do soft play, trampolining, toddler groups. We plant and dig the garden, we read endless stories as he already loves books, we bash on my piano ( it pains me a little but I want him to want to play!) We get filthy and messy and we have fun.

My DD and me are so similar in outlook that it's been very easy to be his Granny, and I work with children so it feels natural. I send pics of his days with me, and always feedback how the day has gone.

I don't give advice unless asked, but my DD is parenting him pretty much the same way I did her, and they are fabulous parents and he's a dear little boy so we are harmonious :)

I feel lucky that they live close by and I am able to help out, because it's a privilege to be entrusted with him.

I genuinely don't understand those who say 'I've done my bit, not helping'
I knew I'd love any grandchildren, but I was absolutely staggered by the overwhelming love I felt when he arrived.. child of my child. It is a very special relationship.

I will spoil them rotten!

I won't be a grandma I don't think but if I am ill be the one letting them try on my makeup and heels, feeding them pizza and playing them metal music.

🤣🤣🤣

I became a grandma at 39 , 5 months after my last child was born. It's lovely I do lots with my 2 granddaughters now 9 and 5. Sleepovers , day trips , I take them to school when I can. I rarely go a week without seeing them . I'm not needed for childcare as my dil works less than me so I'm seeing them because I want to not because they need me to have them .

Really hope I’ll be retired if my DC decide to have their own children so that I can help out as much as my DC would like. What being a parent has taught me is that it having people support you can greatly reduce your stress; the unexpected sick days, endless school hols etc. I’d like to be my DCs back up when it’s tough.

I want to be the fun nanny, lots of cool trips, cinema, bowling, soft play, laser tag, swimming, cycling, hiking (if I still can).

Given I had my 1st at 35 I'm hoping that my eldest (9) will buck my trend! I'd love to have the chance to enjoy them in a way you can't with your own!

I will babysit whenever I am asked. Have them for sleepovers, help whenever their parents need me too. Buy beautiful clothes from beautiful shops and a huge Victorian type rocking horse for their 1st birthday.
I will never interfere ( I don't now) , and will never give advice and only go round when I am asked.
Luckily we have a great relationship, so hopefully it will always be like that.

So we are nanny and grandpa. Midlands NOT granny.

Think we fab to be fair. Have our grandchildren overnight one night a week from 6 weeks old and had pre schoolers the day before and after.

Took 7/4/3 year olds to the outdoor pool and it was pouring with rain bloody great fun you know you are alive. We do picnic pizzas and DVDs. Parks and ice cream. Dh has them digging vegs for evening meal. Bloody brilliant fun and get to hand them back 😂😂
Very lucky to be a huge part of their lives as we know how quick it goes

Oh we are retired and mid 50s so 'young!' As we had ours fairly young

only go round when I am asked

That's what I did. And then discovered that they were a bit sad that I didn't spontaneously give them a call and see if they were around and it was convenient for a brief visit, as the in laws do.

Don't believe everything you read on mumsnet. Turns out some adult kids actually like their parents to want to visit them.

StillMedusa

What a lovely post.

Agree you never think you can love anyone as much as your children and then you get grandchildren who you love utterly completely and as much. It never ends

And there are two of you. As I'm alone, it's pretty intense looking after my DGCs.
It's made me wonder how on earth single mothers cope. I know my age is a factor, but not having someone else take the lead for a bit so I can have a five minute breather, does make it a lot more tiring, physically and mentally.

I hope I will absolutely trust my dc to be great parents and not give any advice unless it's asked for. I never had any grandparents so it's not a relationship that I have experience of, but I think I will probably be a soft touch.

Gardening, baking and prone to drinking sherry just like my own I suspect! I can't wait!