Is it just us with nothing to do this Easter?

[IsItUs]

This long and lovely Easter weekend? Feels like it. Feeling a bit lonely.
We can find something to entertain ourselves but we'd have loved an invite of any sort.
In recent years we've been prolific hosters. BBQs, drinks, pizza, special occasions. Various different families. Nothing special, we're not loaded, house is modest, but we like seeing people. They always make noises about inviting us back but never do.
We were recently attending same event as one family we've hosted a few times (never reciprocated) and they suggested we all eat out after. The event was in their home town. We were chuffed, as they'd actually suggested it even if they weren't hosting. Except they bailed on the day as "too tired". I suspect they'd hoped we'd say "come to ours". I've only heard from this friend since when she tried to sell me her MLM wares.
Last summer we decided to stop hosting for a while as it gets expensive and is a lot of effort with busy lives. We kind of hoped someone might suggest we visit them at some point or a meet up. Anything would be welcome. Any suggestion or invitation so it doesn't feel like it's only us who wants to see them.
So having not hosted for 9 months or so, we've been invited to do nothing.
None of this was over a short period. It's been years since we had an invite. I understand people can be lazy and busy, but everyone we know?
Feeling bit sorry for ourselves. I know we could host again or suggest something and have friends to see but why always us?
I don't think we're unlikeable, we've been on weekends away with some of these friends (organised by us), but there's just no attempt to see us otherwise.
We've tried with newer friends but decided against proffering repeat invites in the hope they'd suggest something next but nada so it fizzles out. We feel jaded by it now.
We're in our 50s and both self employed with no local family. We have teenagers, as do nearly all the families we have hosted.
Anyone else with B-all to do this weekend?
We'll make the best of it, but at mid-50s I think the chances of us making some good friends to have nice sociable occasions with are slim.
Anyone else in the Norma No-Mates boat?

It's definitely just me

Us too. One teenage dc.

I think Easter is a bit like Christmas in that lots of people are busy with family.

We're not up to a huge amount to be honest

Nope. I get it. I don't have a huge family, in fact officially just DD and my DB. I have extended friends that are like family, but I feel this Easter everyone is doing a huge family thing. for some reason that's bugging me this year.

Me and DD went to a huge shopping centre today and blitzed some stuff for her, I've mowed the lawn and washed the patio, whilst she's playing at the neighbours and it just feels a bit flat.

It’s not just you. Its just me and the kids this long weekend.

We’re just messing around, doing whatever suits us.

Sweet Fanny Adam's here too!

Nothing here either. Not that we do much to celebrate Easter normally but it's gorgeous weather here and my social media is full of people in pubs having a great time. My husband has just left for working abroad the next 10 days. I'm still recovering from COVID so feeling a little sorry for myself and missing him and he's only been gone 4 hours!

I'll be gardening tomorrow and chasing ds to finish his homework. Then Ds is off to his dad's on Sunday evening.

I'll be painting the front of my house on Monday. Maybe go for a run. Not exactly living the dream !

I’m not doing anything either and feeling quite down. I hate hosting things but it would be nice to have my children here. They are at the other end of the country. I can’t remember the last time I invited anyone to the house other than family. It’s just too much work. Sorry.

Thanks all. I think Easter long weekend and lovely weather has exacerbated it but actually this is all the time for us.

I feel sad as I've put in effort but feel we get nowhere. If we don't invite/host we wouldn't ever see a soul socially.

As someone said, feels flat. Hope you all get lots of chocolate tomorrow at least!

My DS is studying for mocks after the holidays, and I went out yesterday, straight into a traffic jam. So I’m staying in until Tuesday.

Stay off social media. We're just chilling. So much pressure again.

I agree with staying off social media. We've got nothing planned. Everyone we know seems to be on holiday. We will chill at home and maybe make homemade pizza. I planned roast lamb but Tesco sold out so pizza it is!

The IL's have COVID so are staying away. I have no family I see so we're jet washing the patio tomorrow.

Not doing much here either.
Will meet up with friends for some food tomorrow.
It's too hot here to do anything nice outside.

I absolutely get it OP. We don’t host often because DD14 is neurodivergent plus the house is small & a tip but I still feel it would be nice to be invited to things! My friends tend to see me during the day eg cuppa, breakfast or lunch but DH & I don’t get invited for dinner, BBQs etc. I had such a good social life when I was younger & do miss partying! I think folks are generally do much busier than they used to be & of course the cost of living is astronomical.

So not do!

We don’t really see friends either, everyone just seems so busy with their lives and our friends live a bit further away, and both our mums are working tomorrow. So we’re going to a local event with my DSS and then coming home to chill in the garden if the weather stays nice.

I hear you op
In the only one on both sides who hosts
Or I was...!
I now only do a get together on boxing day
Mums coming for lunch tomorrow but that's it
Not religious so the day isn't significant for us, really
I do like lamb though! :)
I shall sit in the garden in the sun 🌞

I get it too OP. Currently sitting in on my own, DD1 is gaming and DD2 at her Dad’s. I don’t really have the kind of family which does meals together etc. DP is away for the weekend and I’ve realised that ‘our’ friends are really ‘his’ friends because I moved to live with him and so he knew them all years before they met me. It feels really shit to be honest.

I’m seeing a friend tomorrow morning but I’d really love to go out tonight!

We don't have anything planned apart from gardening and pottering and cooking a big leg of lamb. Perfect 😊

I do appreciate all the comments and it's made me feel less like the only one.
DD16 and DS15 will both see friends over the weekend and they have great social lives. They don't have any cousins, and my parents passed away 5 years ago.
As they spread their wings it highlights our lack of social life. I'll keep making an effort with new people and maybe one day we'll find friends who keep in touch with us like we do with them! I don't mean daily but just the odd "how are you" or "let's get together" would be lovely.

I don't host as I have kids with additional needs and find it too stressful. It's why I don't reciprocate.

We are not doing much either tomorrow. Roast dinner. Lazing around.

Now is the time for a friends audit.
There is a difference between doesn't host but arranges activities, doesn't arrange but will do stuff you suggest and then people who do lots of stuff but never invite you.
If you want to broaden your social circle I always find doing some activities and hobbies helps especially walking groups and languages.
But yes it sucks to realise no-one is reaching out to us. Use it as motivation to do some new things

Yes @radishandbrie exactly. We totally understand some have reasons not to host and would be happy with a meet up being suggested. However we usually never hear anything. Not really a two-way friendship when I write it down! Have had one couple recently say "we'd love to come round and see you soon". I didn't invite them.
I think we've kind of done the audit as by stopping hosting we've not seen anyone really in 9 months.
I've joined a couple of local interest groups so I'm trying.
It's cheered me up that others get it.