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Etiquette using breast milk in baby food as a guest?

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Humdrumdum · 06/04/2023 18:18

We're going to stay with family and I use breast milk in breakfast for our baby, usually scrambled eggs or porridge in a pan to make sure the extra nutrients being missed are chucked in.

They're fine with us cooking for ourselves but would it be weird if I did it there with their pan and bowls or am I overthinking it?

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Lordofthebutterfloofs · 06/04/2023 18:19

Your massively over thinking it

Okunevo · 06/04/2023 18:23

It's washed up in hot soapy water. If they are fine with their utensils and glasses touching your mouth, then what would be the problem with a particular food?

Eann · 06/04/2023 18:23

Do it but don’t tell them.

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worried4698643 · 06/04/2023 18:24

Lordofthebutterfloofs · 06/04/2023 18:19

Your massively over thinking it

This !!!!

Eann · 06/04/2023 18:24

Or maybe take your own pan if you have space in luggage. Because while it should of course be fine, I bet anything the man of the house would be uncomfortable with eating out of a pan that your bodily fluids have been in.

Suetcrust · 06/04/2023 18:27

My only thought on this …
are the nutrients of which you speak not lost in the heat?

Maryandherlamb · 06/04/2023 18:29

I wouldn't mind it, but I think it would be odd to some people and they wouldn't like it. If it's just for a short time can you just use normal milk?

Desperatelywantinganother · 06/04/2023 18:29

Suetcrust · 06/04/2023 18:27

My only thought on this …
are the nutrients of which you speak not lost in the heat?

If all nutrients were lost in heat then we’d all starve eating cooked food….

HolyShmoakes · 06/04/2023 18:31

Desperatelywantinganother · 06/04/2023 18:29

If all nutrients were lost in heat then we’d all starve eating cooked food….

Bazinga!

Jibo · 06/04/2023 18:31

Assuming you're only cooking for the baby and pouring in expressed BM from a bottle rather than squirting it straight into the pan/bowl from your boob, I doubt they'll even notice. Crack on!

SunshineAndFizz · 06/04/2023 18:33

Overthinking, I'm sure they won't notice. If it's bothering you just use cows milk for this visit.

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 06/04/2023 18:36

I Extended BF both DCs, still am with DS. I would say for a short visit, I would abandon cooking with BM and just feed before a meal and give a smaller portion. I just think that it's a little intrusive to put your BM in others' cookware without asking your host (possibly making them feel uncomfortable) or take a small pan and a spoon with you and explain why.

FootnerFanatic · 06/04/2023 18:39

As long as you're not serving them up scrambled egg made with your breast milk then I don't see why it would bother them x

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 06/04/2023 18:40

BM is amazing, but it is still a bodily fluid and I just would feel weird about having bodily fluids that weren't mine in significant volumes in one of my pans. To me it's different to saliva on cups and cutlery, but I can articulate why.

TwigTheWonderKid · 06/04/2023 18:41

It find it curious that so many people consider it weird to put milk from a human body in a saucepan but not weird to put milk from a cow's body in a saucepan.

Eggseggseverywhere · 06/04/2023 18:41

You are suggesting breast milk in their pan not your actual breast!!

SleepingStandingUp · 06/04/2023 18:42

I mean, are you squeezing in fresh from your breast into the saucepan?? Otherwise why would they mind? Just tell them so no one tries to nick babies porridge

IfYouDontAsk · 06/04/2023 18:43

Being completely honest, I would find this a bit grim. If it’s relevant, I breastfed both of my children but I’d still find it weird and yucky if a guest did this in my home. I can’t really articulate why but probably, as others have said, because it’s a bodily fluid. Though I happily eat and cook with the bodily fluid of a cow so I guess that makes me totally unreasonable…but I wouldn’t really like it if a guest did this (though I’d not say anything if they did).

HelpsHeal · 06/04/2023 18:45

Any milk is a bodily fluid. Is bodily fluid from a cow somehow less offensive?

That said, it seems an unnecessary faff to me and I probably wouldn't bother for a few days.

UWhatNow · 06/04/2023 18:45

HelpsHeal · 06/04/2023 18:45

Any milk is a bodily fluid. Is bodily fluid from a cow somehow less offensive?

That said, it seems an unnecessary faff to me and I probably wouldn't bother for a few days.

Cow’s milk is pasteurised.

Fleebeee · 06/04/2023 18:46

Making foods with BM is fine, negligible health benefits if it’s heated to a high temp but if you’ve got some spare then do it. But why just not leave it when you’re away? A few days will make zero difference. And it’s a lot of faff.

Desperatelywantinganother · 06/04/2023 18:47

Bring a plastic plate/bowl for the baby and add the milk to that rather than to the pan? Would work for porridge made in a microwave. Might not work for scrambled egg unless you’re willing to microwave that too.

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 06/04/2023 18:47

UWhatNow · 06/04/2023 18:45

Cow’s milk is pasteurised.

This.

Tinysoxx · 06/04/2023 18:48

Unless they are vegetarian, they will have bodily juices of animal flesh in their pans. Eggs obviously are unfertilised body juices.

MintMa · 06/04/2023 18:49

Yabu for adding milk to scrambled eggs.

I wouldn't worry about using their pans and bowls though. You could always make porridge in the bowl, in the microwave to use fewer pans

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