Etiquette using breast milk in baby food as a guest?

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We're going to stay with family and I use breast milk in breakfast for our baby, usually scrambled eggs or porridge in a pan to make sure the extra nutrients being missed are chucked in.

They're fine with us cooking for ourselves but would it be weird if I did it there with their pan and bowls or am I overthinking it?

Yes, but milk and eggs are checked re disease. and it is a choice the hosts make to eat those bodily fluids. I would think my friends were a bit odd if they started drinking my DS's milk tbh

How on earth does pasteurisation make a difference in this case? 😂

I think it’s totally fine, OP.

How would they even know, unless you announced it? 🤷‍♀️

Would you eat from/cook in a pan that a friend had spat in? Pasturisation and the host's choice to eat animal products makes the difference

Yes. I mean I’d wash it first. But then zero issues.
Do you only use disposable cups when you people over for tea and coffee?

The hosts should be given a choice to decide what they want in their cookware though surely, in their house? We are Kosher veggie, I'd be pretty annoyed if one of my friends used none kosher dairy or cooked meat kosher or otherwise in our pans without telling me

OK I'm going to be that poster. Milk is wrong In scrambled eggs, whichever mammal it comes from. It makes them tough.

I'll leave now.

Not paper cups, but the volume is a bit different to a slight it of saliva on a fork or cup rim to me.

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I think people have a very sanitised view of animal products. Having been in a milking parlour, chicken sheds, abattoir etc they are not very hygienic. Lots of fluids.

Just take a small pan of your own to use. I would not care but I just ask DH and he made a face, so guessing men might not like it.

It's fine OP. I would do what youre describing without hesitation, except my expressed BM was so precious I wouldn't have wasted any by cooking. If my host had a problem with it I'd have treated them to a ranty lecture about:

1. Big pharma/formula companies de-normalising breastfeeding in the Western world, to the detriment of babies
2. Misogyny and sexualisation of women of childbearing age leading to breasts being seen purely as seductive appendages
3. The artifical hormones that are pumped into milking cows (I do still drink cow's milk in moderation but naturally produced human breast milk is less cruel to "manufacture", is my point)

But, no family member hosting me and Dd would ever had made a peep because they'd already know this is how I'd react.

I wouldn't object from a hygiene or ick point of view. I own washing-up liquid and am capable of using it. I would think you were being a bit precious though. Are you expressing just to have milk spare to use in food? Seems like a big faff for little benefit. Are you doing normal breastfeeding as well?

People saying "it's a bodily fluid" are being misleading. It's not wee or pus. It's supposed to be drunk by (baby) humans, it's not waste.

Not when it's sold fresh from the farm. Disclaimer: am not located in the UK, no idea about variations in rules. At any rate, the fresh stuff tastes amazing.

I wouldn’t care, but I think that some other people would. I’d probably just use cows milks for ease. Not like it’ll make much difference in the grand scheme of things.

Are you comparing breast milk to spit?

Utterly bizarre 🤦‍♀️

For me there is a huge difference between cows milk and breast milk, namely the processing milk goes through before it gets to me. I have family who live on a farm and it used to turn my stomach that they used cows milk straight from the cow! I think they should be given the option, at least you can relax then knowing they are OK with or make alternative arrangements

I wouldn’t bat an eyelid. It’s clean, human food.

Not straight from the cow like beer from a keg, but the milk was put in a bucket and brought to the house 😅

🤷‍♀️ I do think you have a point that there is a psychological aspect to ´clean’ as well as a material/physical hygiene aspect. And different people are going to feel differently about this idea, particularly if they have restrictions around what foods can or cannot touch their cooking items which they choose to follow, like religious rules or choosing to eschew animal products.
It is quite tricky with this scenario though because it’s really not fair to imply a breastfeeding mum giving her baby breastmilk is disgusting. It happens too much and it can be really hard for mums who choose to breastfeed past the first few months, especially if those attitudes come from family.
I think most people would have some way of making a pan clean again physically but also psychologically/ritualistically. I’d probably opt to set the object aside and cleanse it to a standard I was happen with (both for hygiene and psychological/metaphysical reasons) before putting it back into circulation.
Sorry I hope I managed to write this sensitively. I’m not trying to minimize the importance of kosher laws in anyway.

And totally agree with this!!! Who puts milk in scrambled eggs???

For the sake of a few days I would make the eggs without milk.
I bf two kids and would find this a bit grim.

I'm honestly aghast at some of the responses here! 🤦‍♀️ FFS the OP isn't suggesting she's going to scramble her own shit in a saucepan! It's MILK!! It is actually designed to be drunk! She's not shitting in it prior to adding it to the pan! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

You do use things that have had their spit on every time you use a glass or a fork..