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Etiquette using breast milk in baby food as a guest?

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Humdrumdum · 06/04/2023 18:18

We're going to stay with family and I use breast milk in breakfast for our baby, usually scrambled eggs or porridge in a pan to make sure the extra nutrients being missed are chucked in.

They're fine with us cooking for ourselves but would it be weird if I did it there with their pan and bowls or am I overthinking it?

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PoppyBlunt · 06/04/2023 19:20

Maryandherlamb · 06/04/2023 18:29

I wouldn't mind it, but I think it would be odd to some people and they wouldn't like it. If it's just for a short time can you just use normal milk?

Normal milk 🤣🤣🤣

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 06/04/2023 19:20

@SpringIntoChaos not really, I breastfeed my DC, but I wouldn't put it in a coffee mug and give it to someone who was not a family member. I have donated excess to NICU, but it is tested and removed from source when it goes to those DCs like a blood transfusion, but I would feel the shudders about nursing a stranger's baby. It's a bodily fluid, however miraculous.

CottonSock · 06/04/2023 19:21

@SpringIntoChaos yes,but she's asking how people would feel about it and people are telling her.

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Paella2022 · 06/04/2023 19:23

I can’t articulate why, but this would give me the ick and feels a little bit smug. Sorry. Just don’t do it for the couple of days you are there- your baby can have breast milk from your breast!
I wouldn’t want to be asked either as I couldn’t give a logical no but I would want to say no…

Simonjt · 06/04/2023 19:24

We a strictly dairy free household, so I wouldn’t want it purely for that reason, but in households where dairy is consumed, it surely wouldn’t be a problem if the household isn’t Jewish.

HelpsHeal · 06/04/2023 19:24

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 06/04/2023 19:20

@SpringIntoChaos not really, I breastfeed my DC, but I wouldn't put it in a coffee mug and give it to someone who was not a family member. I have donated excess to NICU, but it is tested and removed from source when it goes to those DCs like a blood transfusion, but I would feel the shudders about nursing a stranger's baby. It's a bodily fluid, however miraculous.

Presumably you would give that guest coffee in the same mug after it's been washed though?

SparkyBlue · 06/04/2023 19:25

I honestly couldn't be arsed breastfeeding any of mine but some reactions on here are mad. It's absolutely not a bodily fluid like saliva or sweat it's milk for a baby. OP it's just baby milk I would find it weird if someone found it weird.

SpringIntoChaos · 06/04/2023 19:25

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 06/04/2023 19:20

@SpringIntoChaos not really, I breastfeed my DC, but I wouldn't put it in a coffee mug and give it to someone who was not a family member. I have donated excess to NICU, but it is tested and removed from source when it goes to those DCs like a blood transfusion, but I would feel the shudders about nursing a stranger's baby. It's a bodily fluid, however miraculous.

But she's not putting it into a coffee cup and expecting anyone else to drink it, is she?? She is LITERALLY feeding her OWN child 🤷‍♀️

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 06/04/2023 19:30

HelpsHeal · 06/04/2023 19:24

Presumably you would give that guest coffee in the same mug after it's been washed though?

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No, same as I don't use the mug we use to collect urine samples when needed, even after it has been dettol'd and washed. If I needed to put BM in anything, that receptacle would not be in 'general use' and would be DS's pan/bowl/cup/ spoon etc. However that is not unusual way to think about crockery, utensils et al in a Kosher home. We have a blue 'set' for dairy and white for Parev, incase we have guests who don't want to be 'milky' so maybe that's why I feel this way, who knows. OP asked and I answered.

dew141 · 06/04/2023 19:31

I'd give it a miss. No issue with BFing but seems a little performative/unnecessary to mix it with scrambled eggs at someone else's house.

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 06/04/2023 19:31

@SpringIntoChaos

"If I needed to put BM in anything, that receptacle would not be in 'general use' and would be DS's pan/bowl/cup/ spoon etc. However that is not unusual way to think about crockery, utensils et al in a Kosher home. We have a blue 'set' for dairy and white for Parev, incase we have guests who don't want to be 'milky' so maybe that's why I feel this way, who knows. OP asked and I answered." No need to shout at me FFS.

multivac · 06/04/2023 19:32

This thread is bizarre. She's not planning on serving scrambled eggs a la breast milk to anyone else; just using a pan and washing it up afterwards. Come to my house, and your scrambled eggs might be cooked in the same pan in which I sterilise my menstrual cup. Cookware doesn't have a homeopathic memory of what it's been used for.

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 06/04/2023 19:33

@multivac Op asked for people's views, that's what they are getting...

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 06/04/2023 19:35

Sorry but 'come to my house, and your scrambled eggs might be cooked in the same pan in which I sterilise my menstrual cup. ' this made me retch!

Happyhappyday · 06/04/2023 19:36

YABU for ever bothering to do this. Just use normal milk or skip it. It sound like a huge and largely pointless faff.

multivac · 06/04/2023 19:39

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 06/04/2023 19:35

Sorry but 'come to my house, and your scrambled eggs might be cooked in the same pan in which I sterilise my menstrual cup. ' this made me retch!

Not my problem - but guess what? You wouldn't even know....Shock

grivelling · 06/04/2023 19:40

I don't know why but I would also find it a bit grim for someone to cook with their breast milk in my house. A bit performative and if you're already feeling sensitive about it just give it a miss for a couple of days.

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 06/04/2023 19:40

@multivac that's why I'm glad I keep Kosher [win]!

grivelling · 06/04/2023 19:40

@multivac oh god no

Mummynew08 · 06/04/2023 19:42

multivac · 06/04/2023 19:32

This thread is bizarre. She's not planning on serving scrambled eggs a la breast milk to anyone else; just using a pan and washing it up afterwards. Come to my house, and your scrambled eggs might be cooked in the same pan in which I sterilise my menstrual cup. Cookware doesn't have a homeopathic memory of what it's been used for.

This reminds me of that divisive thread about whether one uses the largest mixing bowl as the vomit bucket.

Both DH and I use the mixing bowl as the vomit bucket and so did our parents before us. Neither of us thought anything of it till I read that thread. And yes we make cakes with it. Of course it gets cleaned thoroughly in between.

HelpsHeal · 06/04/2023 19:42

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 06/04/2023 19:35

Sorry but 'come to my house, and your scrambled eggs might be cooked in the same pan in which I sterilise my menstrual cup. ' this made me retch!

I don't have a menstrual cup, but I was thinking similar. Far worse than breast milk has been in some of my pots and pans.

Anything you cook in them subsequently is sterilised anyway

Mummynew08 · 06/04/2023 19:43

Just in case I wasn't clear @multivac I 100% agree with you esp the homeopathic thing

multivac · 06/04/2023 19:43

grivelling · 06/04/2023 19:40

@multivac oh god no

Smile Sorry-not-sorry!

Legocurlers · 06/04/2023 19:44

Dinopawus · 06/04/2023 18:56

OK I'm going to be that poster. Milk is wrong In scrambled eggs, whichever mammal it comes from. It makes them tough.

I'll leave now.

I was thinking this. It reminds me of my DM who used to put milk in everything when I was a child. Grim.

PipinwasAuntieMabelsdog · 06/04/2023 19:44

@HelpsHealKosher Laws tell us that 'things' are changed by what is cooked in them. Maybe that's why it gives me the errk