My sister recently told me about the life 360 app, where we can use a personal code to see where each other are, so tracking eachother. It appears to work pretty well and she is now on time out of the house when I pick her up for work .. because she can see how far away I am 😂
I mentioned the app to DP and asked if he would download it so I could see where he is - for context; he works quite far from home, and he often rings me when he’s on his way home to start dinner (because we like to eat as a family before kids go to bed) and sometimes I end up missing his call, then he misses mine, then he’s got no signal ect ect. So I suggested he should download the app, then I can see how far off home he is.
he also works very late some evenings and I’m a bit of a worry wort being home alone so I feel like I get a bit of comfort out of being able to see where he is essentially. I explained all this to DP and he immediately was defensive about downloading the app. At first he said he didn’t want to faff around downloading it, I said I could do it for him, he then said he didn’t want other people tracking him, I explained it’s a code that’s only shared from me too him so only I can see.
I mean, I know he can say no but it was the defensiveness that caught me off guard.
and as a huge plot twist (sorry) I recently found a ring in the house in the kitchen, and thought it might have been left by one of my friends; but I asked my friends, I asked my family and everyone I could think of and no one recognises it. I even put it down to possibly DD toddler maybe pinching it from nursery, I asked nurse us and they didn’t recognise it either but I assumed it must be someone’s that we know and kept it in the cupboard until figured out. We’ve never found out.
the defensiveness about me knowing where he is made the ring situation poo back into my head and now I just feel like I’ve lost a bit of trust.
he asked how I would feel if he wanted to know where I am all the time. But personally I don’t care, that’s fine - I’m either at home, at the shops or at work - I have nothing to hide. I feel like he does.
I feel caught between a rock and a hard place as I get that I can’t demand to ‘track’ him all the time but equally.. why not when he’s only ever supposedly working, working late or at home?
I sort of wish I’d never asked, it was initially just a question and I didn’t think I’d mind if he said no. But his demeanour has made me mind 😩