When would you be comfortable letting your baby spend the night at their grandchild?

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At what age?

If you visited them from another city and stayed in a hotel, would you be okay with your baby staying there overnight or would you like him/her with you at the hotel?

Don’t feel pressured. There’s no age you have to leave them overnight. You don’t ever have to do it if you don’t want to. You don’t need to give a detailed explanation for saying No. Just say something polite and repeat it if they ask again”Thank you for your offer, but neither of us are ready for that yet. We’ll be fine”.

My first was 4 weeks, second 12 weeks. They both spend a lot of time with their grandparents though, and I trust them completely. Everyone will feel differently though, it needs to work for you

Age 2-3 for an overnight But only if they know the grandparents well and it isn’t the first time babysitting.

Think my ds was about a 1 month old when he stayed with grandparents for a night. They again at around three months for a night and then 1 night every week due to work from 6 months.

Same.

Mine stayed at 4 months but my parents live locally so saw us all the time

Depends.

dd3 stayed for 3 nights at my parents when she was a week old.

I was rushed back into hospital though (she wasn’t allowed back in with me and her father was useless) after having her and my mum and dad were great as grandparents. I am glad as my dad died just over a week later.

exs mum not a chance

I think you have to focus on what is best for your child. It's unlikely it will benefit them to stay overnight with people they don't know very well - even if they are grandparents.

7 weeks for us

But we are very close with my husbands parents and I really trust them

My dcs stayed at grandparents overnight from about 12 months old.
They were happy and it wasn’t an issue.

IF they had been unsettled, then I would thought twice. But not in our case.
Maybe it helped that they were both at nursery by that age so used to be with other people/not at home??

Mine all primary age have never done this. But I would be happy with the older ones doing it now. So from about age 6. Before that they are too needy and would be hard work for the grandparents, so it is not fair on them.

In that case I absolutely wouldn't

I reckon this probs depends on your child. For DC1 it probably would have been about 3yrs old tbh. However she still doesn't want to sleep over there (even though she's very close to them and they live right by us). DC2 is 1.5 and definitely wouldn't want to leave him yet.

@runsense
That is good then. Do they ever stay with you? Because then that would give them a better idea of routine and so on.

My eldest stayed with granny for one night at about 2.

Never been back overnight. And she is mid teens. It went ok though nothing bad happened. It was not something granny wanted to do really.

I stayed with my grandparents for two weeks age 3. I had lived with them and my parents for some months the year before though so somewhat different.

Both my kids have stayed overnight at 8 weeks old with grandparents and my SIL for big events.
Both were/are good sleepers and new these people very well.

When they're old enough to ask.

If you're anxious, you have your answer.