What age would you let your child attend funeral

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Genuine question.
My eldest DD is 8 and a half.
My grandad passed yesterday, I remember when my other grandad passed I was 7 and wasn't given the option about attending funeral ceremony or the wake afterwards, I was just told no and went to school for the day.

I spoke with her yesterday when I returned from hospital, she was obviously upset and we had cuddles and I briefly just explained how he was poorly and he was quite old (late 80s)

Genuine question, how old is old enough /or how young is too young in your eyes to attend ceremony and/or the wake.

Mine were 10 and 7 and a half when they went to their grand dad's funeral.

Not sure to be honest. I was about 10 when my granny (great gran) died and wasn't asked if I wanted to go. Doesn't funeral I went to was a friends dad, I was 14.

My nephews went to their dads funeral and it was so, so hard for them. Hard enough for us adults to bury a 35 yr old man. Youngest was 9 and eldest 11. They both did great and I'm sure they are glad they went.

If you think she wld be ok and she wants to go then let her. My sister gave her boys the option. Her 4yr old went to a friend though.

They decided not to centre you when one off their parents died and, as an adult, you're cross about this?

They decided not to centre you when one off their parents died and, as an adult, you're cross about this?

I'm guessing you know all about the poster's relationship with their late grandmother. How close they were. The impact she had on them etc ? Didn't think so.

From birth. I think it's an important part of life.

My children were 2 and 5 when my mother died. They meant the world to her, couldn’t imagine leaving them at home.
They put drawings and a cuddly bear in her coffin.

Any age, unless it's a particularly traumatic bereavement where the immediate family have requested no children.
When we were kids a family friend lost a toddler and they arranged a crèche at the funeral including for their own children as it was particularly awful and they wanted their adult friends with them. We had babysitters. In their judgement that was the most appropriate for their own children in a shitty set of circumstances.
Ordinarily I'd say children should go to funerals and mine have been to family funerals most years since birth (big family).

My sil's children attended great grandads funeral, one was a toddler the other 5, their dad sat near the back with the younger so he could whip her out but actually she and her elder brother behaved beautifully, he had the two hymns in advance at his request so he could learn the words too. It's all about preparation though, need to ensure they know what will happen especially 3-6 age group

I vividly remember my first funeral of my hound cousin at 7 years old.
I was upset but I was fine. I was glad I could experience it so I could make sense of the loss

ignore the word hound 🙈 typo.

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