What do you yearn for?

[Happysalley]

Ever since I can remember, I've wanted a beautiful home. It doesn't have to be grand or fancy. Somewhere rural, quiet, safe, and enough bedrooms so me and the dc can have one each. An extra room for a yoga studio/sewing room would be the icing on the cake. A decent garden, flat and secure, and full of plants.

I've lived my entire life in council flats and I know I'm incredibly lucky to have a roof over my head. Even so, I still spend hours nosing on rightmove or looking at other people's houses and imagining what it would be like to live there.

@DarkDarkNight - you put that perfectly. That’s also what I yearn for - to meet and love and be loved by someone, now I finally understand who I am.

Most of all, I would like my DDs to be happy - they are in a miserable phase at the moment and I’m properly worried about DD2 who seems depressed and nothing I do seems to help.

For me, I’d like to run away for a bit and when I get back, all of DP’s DIY projects would be done. I actually already live in the country, but I don’t think anyone would yearn for our house due to the half finished DIY in every room. He doesn’t like me trying to finish anything and it drives me crazy!

To be slim.

Not so much material things, although enough money to be comfortable would be nice. More like my health, which is in decline, I miss being able to go on long walks with my family, and having the energy I used to have.

I came here to say this. The 90s.

😅👍

Freedom

Yes. Life is a parabola and I’m sliding down the other side now.

Indeed.

Why are people nostalgic for the 90's? What was better than it is now? Genuine question

Lack of intrusive social media and 24 hour rolling news on mainstream channels. I miss a tech free society.

From my perspective

Race relations, I wasn't doubted as English due to my skin colour

Possibly treatment of women because that's been inflamed by something that shouldn't be an issue

workplace culture - it was okay to do your job and keep politics and private life to yourself

general help with things - you were signposted to a human, not an app

lower population, which brings vast benefits

less pressure about how you look at work, though I hope that's wearing off again

Oh, yes, I don't watch news but rolling 24 hour news is quite damaging to society

My Dd to have no mental health problems.

For me. To not have to adult every day. To not have to listen to others woes. I do listen and try to help where I can but I'm exhausted. There's no room for me anymore and I don't know who I am.

Money. Not millions, but enough so I wouldn't have to work anymore. Or do a lower paid job that I actually enjoy. Its actually pathetic how often I fantasise about this!

To be slim, i have no willpower to diet and as much i try and exercise i give up as i hate it so much.
For things to be better for everyone, food and energy prices to come down, jobs and wages to go up etc.

I'm very lucky to have a happy, healthy family and a nice home. I feel very fortunate. The thing I crave most is solitude. I don't get it as much as I need (I'm a real introvert). I feel so peaceful when I'm alone.

A base. Feel a bit discombobulated. Living between two places. Neither really feels like home rn

Nice weather! Absolutely sick of rain and snow now. Roll on blue skies and sunshine!

Peace. I don't want any 'stuff' or even fulfilment. I just want peace. After nearly 18 years of having to deal with an abusive man, and the aftermath (we had a child), I am so ready to have peace. No drama, no gaslighting, no guilt, no accusations and undermining. Just peace.

Said child moved out to live with sad man recently and I can feel the dust beginning to settle now. It is glorious, even though I should feel sad that DC moved out. Obviously I miss DC very, very much, but they had become an extension of their father and a weapon he was using to abuse me. At least now, they aren't being put through that, and neither am I or the rest of my family at home.

Sleep.

A kitchen table fitted into a big bay window.

A cottage next to the sea where I can enjoy hearing crashing waves.

My waistline to return - lost in 2010 and much mourned.

To return to the 90s.
A horse.
A cleaner.
To not having to decide what’s for tea every god damn day.

For someone to look at me and kiss me like you kiss when you're 19 and carefree and full of passion.

To own my house myself, not to have a half share with DH.
To have someone I trust to live in my house and look after my dog ( who wouldn’t be happy) while I go on holiday.
To be in love again.
To see my adult children more.

Good health and youth, which would mean going back some years.