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What’s the shortest marriage of anyone you know?

228 replies

Username721 · 07/03/2023 21:04

Just being nosy, really!

How long is the shortest marriage you’ve seen and why did it end so quickly?

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MrsMullerBecameABaby · 07/03/2023 22:18

I know two couples who failed to properly move in together after the wedding and (in very different ways) essentially discovered irreconcilable differences trying to agree all the details and never properly lived together before getting divorced.

In one case they met working abroad, away from where both grew up and hadn't agreed where (geographically) to house hunt once married (how do people "forget" to discuss which country they'll live in? They both just assumed - in one case that they'd "move home" to start a family and in the other that they'd stay where they met...) They had a huge wedding and got swept up in the details of that, not of life afterwards.

In the other case they'd met at university (living in different house shares) and moved back to live with respective parents to save for the wedding and deposit. They were already expecting their (only) joint DC when they got married and then tried to move in together but had a series of escalating fall outs over furniture and decided that they weren't compatible!

Ihatethenewlook · 07/03/2023 22:18

determinedtomakethiswork · 07/03/2023 22:05

I wouldn't have thought that she would be entitled to that.

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To be clearer he bought her a business which he put a huge amount of money into, which included a property which was in her name. I guess you could argue that this doesn’t make it his asset, and you’d legally be right. But he wouldn’t have invested his savings into his partner if he’d have known she was going to leave him for another man a few months into their marriage.

lapasion · 07/03/2023 22:19

Six weeks until the official breakup announcement, but we suspect it happened during the honeymoon. Couple had met at uni and been engaged for years. Wedding was huge. Definitely one of the biggest I’ve been to. Lots of cousins and aunts flew in from around the world. Really traditional and posh wedding. I was made to wear a Laura Ashley style bridesmaids frock. Few weeks back from the honeymoon and they told everyone it was over. We never did find out why. About two years later, almost to the day, she remarried and got really arsey when people couldn’t afford to fly in from Australia again. And this was in the 90s when it was way more expensive to do that kind of trip.

I used to work at a wedding venue and some of the veterans had great stories. Apparently there was one couple who just had a massive screaming row on the dance floor seemingly out of nowhere, which spilled outside with both families threatening police. The newlyweds spent the night apart and she left the hotel alone in the morning. Best part was, one of them tried to get a refund claiming this and that had gone wrong. Nope. It was just your crappy relationship.

NotMyDayJob · 07/03/2023 22:24

About six months. They got married in the summer, quite a lavish do, sort of a destination wedding but in the UK. Then she supported him through major surgery and then left him pretty much as soon as he recovered. As I recall there was a new man on the scene not long after. I was never clear if she only went through with the wedding cos the surgery was looming, she looked very very happy on the day, or if once everything had settled down and they were back to normal life she realised she didn't actually love him. They are both very happy now from what I can tell so hopefully it's all worked out

KillingMeDeftly · 07/03/2023 22:25

On the wedding night. Semi-arranged marriage, lived in different countries, only met each other a few times before the (very lavish) wedding and after the ceremony they went upstairs to change for the honeymoon and he told her he was gay, had been living with his boyfriend for a number of years and only married her to stop his mother from nagging him to get married.

sazzy5 · 07/03/2023 22:25

A friend who introduced me to my DH, she got married and definitely wasn’t wanting to. They went on honeymoon but came back separately and they annulled their marriage.

PuttingDownRoots · 07/03/2023 22:26

Went to two weddings with the same groom in 18 months.
Groom was still paying his share of the first wedding... marriage had lasted 8 months.

DailyMaui · 07/03/2023 22:27

six months.

The wedding cost £45,000 too...

GreatContinental · 07/03/2023 22:27

Friend bought a house from a couple who didn't make it through the honeymoon

Brand new build on an estate they had just missed out on. The day before completion the solicitor range to say that did they mind if some stuff was left as neither of the sellers wanted it- they said they didnt mind thing being left as everything was new and unused and it was going to be their 1st home

They moved in to find absolutely everything left- including wrapped wedding gift.

In the wheely bin was milk dated a few days before etc wedding.

megletthesecond · 07/03/2023 22:28

6 weeks. Bride found out he'd been shagging someone else.
I talked a friend out of wedding 3 days before it was due to go ahead. Lots of bad omens, she was relieved to cancel it. Turned out he was a convicted rapist. They split within days, she married someone nicer.

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 07/03/2023 22:31

Three weeks, it was a close relative and awful at the time.

The had lived together for seven years before getting married, a big wedding which cost a fortune and an amazing honeymoon.

Came back and the wife said she didn't want to be married and left.

They are both now happily remarried (to other people) with kids 🤷‍♀️

PenelopeRidesAgain · 07/03/2023 22:31

Three weeks. He was still married to someone else!

PearCrumbleCustard · 07/03/2023 22:32

Houselamp · 07/03/2023 21:08

Just less than a month,
They were both cheating on each other- but were both very angry when they found out what the other was up too.

😕

QueSyrahSyrah · 07/03/2023 22:34

Well this thread is making me feel much better about my 20 month marriage. At least we squeezed an anniversary out of it.

CandyCaneLane0 · 07/03/2023 22:36

10 weeks, she'd been having an affair and even snuck off during the wedding to see the other bloke

MrsMoastyToasty · 07/03/2023 22:36

I know one bloke who was married 6 months (never met his wife, but she was having an affair).
He later married someone else. Divorced her, then remarried her. They are now separated again.

winterbegone · 07/03/2023 22:37

My cousins big wedding lasted 3 weeks, apparently he changed after the wedding and became bossy, ordering her to do his ironing so she left him.

ToWhitToWhoo · 07/03/2023 22:38

3 months. They were an obviously ill-matched couple, and no one expected the marriage to last- but it was even shorter than anyone expected. Both had lasting second marriages with other people.

Lunaloud · 07/03/2023 22:40

I think it was 3 days. Friend confessed her feelings for her friend and workmate the night of his stag, no cheating she thought shed regret not telling him. He went through with the wedding but walked out before they were due to go on honeymoon. They have been married almost 20years now.

FortyFacedFuckers · 07/03/2023 22:46

Family member met someone else on the honeymoon, she stayed with the new man & groom flew home alone

KeepingTheWaterOut · 07/03/2023 22:46

A great aunt's marriage lasted 6 weeks. She was in love with someone, but her parents had spent a lot of money on her education and thought he wasn't good enough. Lots and lots of pressure to end the relationship. Meanwhile, someone her family had known for a long time was also keen on her. She cracked under the pressure, split with the bloke she loved and married the second one. Apparently he was lovely, knew she was lukewarm about him but thought he could win her round.

Parents pushed the boat out for the wedding, as a "reward" for choosing the "right" bloke, but she didn't look happy on the day.

She didn't want to sleep with her husband, he was prepared to wait till she was ready, but she walked out after 6 weeks.

She ended up using her education to have a career, remained single, and had a good life. By the time I knew her she was quite old. She dressed flamboyantly in glorious colours, and was involved in the local am-dram company. I thought she was wonderful.

I don't know what happened to either man.

Nimbostratus100 · 07/03/2023 22:47

3 days - my friend was widowed on her honeymoon - car crash

Nimbostratus100 · 07/03/2023 22:48

Lunaloud · 07/03/2023 22:40

I think it was 3 days. Friend confessed her feelings for her friend and workmate the night of his stag, no cheating she thought shed regret not telling him. He went through with the wedding but walked out before they were due to go on honeymoon. They have been married almost 20years now.

who have been married 20 years?

jannier · 07/03/2023 22:48

Married at 2 he left the reception and the marriage by 5

Pallisers · 07/03/2023 22:49

PuttingDownRoots · 07/03/2023 22:26

Went to two weddings with the same groom in 18 months.
Groom was still paying his share of the first wedding... marriage had lasted 8 months.

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