Friend using my Prime account

[Codliveroil89]

Friend keeps sking me to order things for her on my Prime account. This is about 2-3 items a month, sometimes more, eg at Christmas. She always pays me straight away, that's not an issue.

I order to her house - or her mums/sisters/sons house if it's a gift. I now have 5 different delivery addresses for her on my account. She messages me to ask me to check the eta on the day of delivery.
I begrudge her using my Prime. It costs me around £95 a year.

AIBU to be annoyed at her using it ?

I feel like her secretary sometimes.

You need to learn to say no to this woman.

I wouldn't ask her to pay half as you'd still be her secretary. Maybe suggest she pays for prime for a few months given you've been paying for both of you for a while!

You won't see her again if you refuse to let her sponge off you.

Well she is CF. But you have major boundary issues and she knows this and is exploiting it.

Wise up and learn to say no.

I don't understand the problem here, you're paying for it anyway..

My dad texts me regularly to order him things on Prime. He sends the link, transfers me the cost and it takes me about 10 seconds to do..

🤷🏽‍♀️ I don't get it.

Presumably that's not a store that has strict rules on who can use the discount. How is that relevant to the OP who says it's not allowed in her case?

I've worked in retails where that would not have been allowed, what a surprise that not everywhere is the same

Is there a particular reason that your dad doesn’t do this himself.

Unfortunately it's not as simple as sharing the cost of a Prime subscription. Amazon have cracked down on this recently and you can only share with one adult (and I think up to 2 children, might be 4) plus they have to live at the same address as you. I know this as I got Prime recently and wanted to put my DD on it, but she lives at another address. I already share with DH.

If DD sends me a link to things she wants I will happily order for her and she pays me back, but this is my daughter. She's helped me too in the past, lets me into her Disney + etc.

The Amazon ordering does involve effort because the 'guest' customer doesn't get the delivery updates so I see what you mean about feeling like a secretary if your friend orders a lot, seems she is taking the mickey with other accounts too. You'll have to make a stand as it's obviously annoying you.

Obviously the dad can't afford his own Prime, or maybe just doesn't want to pay. If his DD is fine with it then why not?

Obviously the dad can't afford his own Prime, or maybe just doesn't want to pay. If his DD is fine with it then why not?

Not obvious at all and I wasn’t asking you.

I think I’d be a bit brutal and tell her it stops. She can get her own freeman’s account and just tell her it’s far too time consuming. She’s taking the piss.

It is obvious, and you are rude.

It is obvious, and you are rude

It is not obvious, that is why I asked and I would still like that poster to clarify.

Which bit are you finding rude, me telling you to butt out of something that was clearly not directed at you ?

Well yes! That is how a thread works, people chime in with their opinions. The poster you asked may never come back to reply to you, that's what often happens.

A lot of people help family members with sharing accounts, I do it myself, it's normal.

Change the password!

Well yes! That is how a thread works, people chime in with their opinions. The poster you asked may never come back to reply to you, that's what often happens.

A lot of people help family members with sharing accounts, I do it myself, it's normal.

You are not expressing an ‘opinion’ you are expressing fact by asserting it’s ‘obvious’ and also attempting to undermine me in the process.
Unless you have mind reading capabilities, or you are socking for that poster, you cannot answer the question.
I can think of other reasons my dad might do this and they are not related to him being unable to access a prime account, that is why I asked that poster for clarity.

You could literally have solved this after the first order, change your sodding password! She has access to your payment details, you’re a mug allowing that

change the password now, if she asks tell her she’s welcome to get her own account but you’re not allowing her access to yours

That's not a friend that's a leech

I just don’t think these types of pisstakes and/or begrudgings occur with people who actually love each other

Dd uses my Prime, but has her own card stored so pays directly, I don't have to worry about whether I've got enough to cover her purchases before she pays me back. Your friend could at keast do that.

DD also has my login details for Amazon so doesn't bother me with her stuff at all, I only ever notice it if I look at my orders. Not suggesting you share your details though! Definitely put her card on though.

Didn't read all your posts, sorry.

Put an end to this. Change you passwords/security details on everything. Use 'lost card' excuse where you can, use Amazon clamp-down for that.

I hadn't realised they'd done that. All dd's stuff gets delivered here anyway; just remembered dh uses my Prime occasionally too. I guess that's my limit then. Tell her you jave family members who need it more who've been using it longer than she has so she'll now have to get her own, sorry.

Just say No. It's not rocket science 🙄

Why is everyone telling you to say it’s cancelled?? The person who will look spiteful/foolish when it comes out that you haven’t cancelled is the OP.
Instead either tell her you’re sorry you can’t do it any more, or have a look and see if you can validly share your account with her so she sorts her orders out herself.
Don’t be the one to lie because you’re uncomfortable telling the truth.

@Imtryingnottobother there really is no need for all the weird aggression

OP, I’m more concerned that you need confirmation from complete strangers before tackling this.

You obviously know she’s taking the piss but you’re too afraid of other people’s opinions to take action. You need to learn that it’s ok to say no to people without providing a string of excuses. Those posters tying themselves in knots making up daft lies are equally sad and need to attend assertiveness classes.

Does it really matter if she thinks you’re a cow for stopping it? If someone is a ‘user’ why would you care about their opinion?

Trust your judgement and learn to say no and move on.