Friend using my Prime account

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Friend keeps sking me to order things for her on my Prime account. This is about 2-3 items a month, sometimes more, eg at Christmas. She always pays me straight away, that's not an issue.

I order to her house - or her mums/sisters/sons house if it's a gift. I now have 5 different delivery addresses for her on my account. She messages me to ask me to check the eta on the day of delivery.
I begrudge her using my Prime. It costs me around £95 a year.

AIBU to be annoyed at her using it ?

I feel like her secretary sometimes.

Not sure if it's restricted to family members or not, but you're allowed to share Prime shopping privileges with one other person by sending them an invite. That's if you were feeling charitable- which it sounds like, for good reasons, you're not.

At the level she's using it through you, you'd definitely be justified in asking for a contribution, although I can see how that's awkward. Maybe tell her to invite you to a fancy restaurant? It's not just the money off, it's all the work you've had with it too. And ud definitely Crack down on the store card.

"I can't afford to pay for prime anymore so I'm thinking of cancelling, unless you want to go halves?"

I can’t let you use my discount card anymore, the manager is being really strict about it now

I cancelled Prime, I hardly ever use it myself

You’ll have to order it yourself.

There you go

This I could not get worked up about.

I let anyone use it, makes me feel like I am getting my moneys worth

This is also a good way of saying to her..

You need to get a backbone and say no. Not anymore

Cancel the use of catalogue/ prime/ staff discount etc. If you lose your job, will she support you? Say you’ve cancelled the prime etc.

Don't lie, and don't ask to split the bill.
Just be honest and when she asks again say something along the lines of "this is the last order I'm putting through my prime account for you, let me know if you need a hand setting up your own account." Same with anything else she's piggybacking off you.
No reasons need to be given.

@patrickbatemansbusinesscard it's not just the Prime account. It's my Freeman's account, my store discount card and there is another subscription I pay for too which she uses.

Op you've had some really good advice on what to say, so are you going to say anything to the CF or just let it carry on?

Tell her you've cancelled it or suggest splitting the monthly subscription. Me and my friend do this with a next day delivery yearly subscription - we both pay half and both have access to the account to order stuff. Depends how close you are though I guess.

Yes just say its your partners / sisters account. Using your account a few times a year is OK but multiple times a month is a piss take. Because of the admin time required from you

Grow a back bone and say its not longer convenient and she needs to make her own arrangements for shopping

@MamOfFive I will be saying something. I guess I just wanted confirmation from you all that she is being a CF and I'm not a cow for stopping her using the things I pay for and making me feel like her secretary

Oh FGS.
It doesn't matter what a bunch of strangers think. If it's bothering you do something about it.

More than a couple of times and I think she needs to chip in. Haven’t the prices gone up recently? That could be an excuse to say, sorry it’s got too expensive to keep doing favours for people. Cost of living and all.

i dont have prime,just order over £20 get free delivery.it comes very fast .usually next day or day after,say you have cancelled it

I wouldn't for a friend as anything more than a one off. I do for my mum but she's put her credit card on my account so I use it for her purchases so it's no stress.

Can you ask her to contribute to the subscription fee? She will decline and then leave you alone.

I agree to just tell her no. You’re not being unreasonable to do so. If she falls out with you over it then that’s on her.

Thing is she is costing you a lot more than the cost of Prime. She is stressing you out and she is not paying you to be her PA. Sometimes it is difficult to get out of a situation like this as she is highly skilled at freeloading off other people. I think the poster who said you are stopping doing favours for all your friends now as it's too much. Tell her to sort her own account out. Whatever excuse she comes up with say no. She'll proposals try some sort of emotional blackmail on you. Just say no. You may have to repeat it several times. Good luck.

Also I wouldn’t bother asking her to chip in. It’s not just the money but the hassle of it all.

Who could be arsed with all that faffing, telling to what to order exchanging money ( bacs, cash ? ) to save £8.99 a month.
Just tell her you’ve cancelled and she needs to sort her own subscription if she wants fast delivery, otherwise just use the regular free delivery that she doesn’t need a subscription for.
Same for the rest.
Don’t understand why anyone gives these parasites free reign over their stuff.

Say that you have cancelled it but your mum gave you her login for the TV.