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Friend using my Prime account

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Codliveroil89 · 05/03/2023 09:09

Friend keeps sking me to order things for her on my Prime account. This is about 2-3 items a month, sometimes more, eg at Christmas. She always pays me straight away, that's not an issue.

I order to her house - or her mums/sisters/sons house if it's a gift. I now have 5 different delivery addresses for her on my account. She messages me to ask me to check the eta on the day of delivery.
I begrudge her using my Prime. It costs me around £95 a year.

AIBU to be annoyed at her using it ?

I feel like her secretary sometimes.

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chronictonic · 05/03/2023 10:23

I have a friend who asks me to order stuff sometimes.. SOME times being 2-3 times a year..
Your friend is taking the mickey.
Maybe say you've realised that you're basically using it as much as she is so you're thinking either cancel or go halves?

GCWorkNightmare · 05/03/2023 10:25

She’s not using your prime, your freemans account or your discount card. She’s asking you to order/buy the stuff and YOU ARE DOING IT. Every request gives you an opportunity to say NO.

You can’t whinge about it happening when it’s you facilitating it EVERY SINGLE TIME.

GeorgiaGirl52 · 05/03/2023 10:26

She pays for it immediately and it comes to her house, so no packages to accept. Also, you get all thefree points and your charity gets the donations. Why not continue to place her orders? It's a small favor.

fdgdfgdfgdfg · 05/03/2023 10:28

As it's not actually costing you anything (as you'd be paying for it anyway) the real issue is that she's taking advantage of your time.

So come at it from that angle, just tell her you don't have time to be ordering stuff for her any more. Or if you really can't deal with confrontation, just "forget" to do it a few times when she asks

roses2 · 05/03/2023 10:35

Amazon let you link one account and share the benefits. Offer to link hers if she pays half.

Hiddendoor · 05/03/2023 10:36

Does she have your password to access the accounts? If so, just change them.

I don't know how I'd approach saying no. It's not as easy as just saying the words sometimes. But I'd explain you haven't got the time to be her personal ordering service any more.

patrickbatemansbusinesscard · 05/03/2023 10:40

As long as they were paying it back I cannot see the issue.

Jeeze precious much about the discount card.

My child works for a very well known popular high street brand and happily shares her 50% discount card with not only her friends but my friends also!

Call your 'friend' out but I know in my circle this would never happen we don't mind sharing especially if it's going to help one another out.

kitsuneghost · 05/03/2023 10:49

Sounds like she has a problem. Just tell her you have cancelled.

Sugarfree23 · 05/03/2023 10:52

GeorgiaGirl52 · 05/03/2023 10:26

She pays for it immediately and it comes to her house, so no packages to accept. Also, you get all thefree points and your charity gets the donations. Why not continue to place her orders? It's a small favor.

Actually it's the administration of ordering it, and getting the money back.
The friend should set up her own prime or at least pay half the Prime subscription.

MamOfFive · 05/03/2023 10:55

Codliveroil89 · 05/03/2023 09:40

@MamOfFive I will be saying something. I guess I just wanted confirmation from you all that she is being a CF and I'm not a cow for stopping her using the things I pay for and making me feel like her secretary

You're 100 percent not a cow op. It's annoying being asked where are my parcels, when are they coming, what time, can you check on a weekly basis.
Surely she can set up her own discount card it'd take minutes and her own prime.

Guis23 · 05/03/2023 10:55

Just say that you won't be doing the ordering anymore. Don't wait for her to order something. New year etc. You can tell a white lie and say that you are also doing it for others too and frankly it has become a pain. So are calling time on it.

Guis23 · 05/03/2023 10:57

Codliveroil89 · 05/03/2023 09:23

She also uses my Freeman's account to order clothes occasionally and a store discount card I have. I could lose the discount card if it got found out.

Say you cannot do the Freemans thing anymore either. It has become a problem. If she is persistent or comes up with 'but' or 'how about' just keep saying that no, you aren't doing it anymore.

LakeTiticaca · 05/03/2023 11:00

She's a freeloading CF. Don't be a doormat

Shitfather · 05/03/2023 11:10

You aren’t a cow but an enabler. This is appalling behavior from your “friend”.

Homeeducatortoone · 05/03/2023 11:13

Just tell her no you can no longer afford it . If she sees it just say someone has kindly given their details to use and no you won't order for her .

The discount card say you no longer have it as they found out about it being used by others and you've cancelled your Freeman's . I find it hard but this is taking the Mick .

boboshmobo · 05/03/2023 11:17

Does she pay you back religiously ?

Iris1976 · 05/03/2023 11:25

Tell her you've cancelled it as the price increase wasn't worth it to you.

ZeldaB · 05/03/2023 11:30

Easy route - tell her you’ve cancelled it. This doesn’t work if she watches tv at yours though.

Harder route (which is better for the friendship in the long run if she’s a genuine friend) - next time she asks, say “Hey dude, I’m feeling like your secretary what with sorting out your deliveries so much, I don’t want our friendship to get spoiled by me resenting all this extra admin and paying £95 for a service you use way more than me. So can you stop asking me to sort deliveries for you and just sort out your own shopping? 😬”

Want2beme · 05/03/2023 11:35

Yeah, that's too much. Next time, just say - can you open your own accounts now, thanks!

Daffodilsandtuplips · 05/03/2023 11:43

Codliveroil89 · 05/03/2023 09:23

She also uses my Freeman's account to order clothes occasionally and a store discount card I have. I could lose the discount card if it got found out.

She’s taking the piss, big time. I have Prime too, can’t you change the password for your Amazon account. If you do that she won’t be able to log on to your Amazon account. She’ll have to set her own up.
Stop her using your Freeman’s account too.
Get your discount card back off her too. I had a staff discount card from the shop I once worked at, we got 33% off.
My dozy father in law nearly got me the sack when he strolled into the shop to buy a telly and asked for my discount. He didn’t get it, the department manager wouldn’t do it. The bosses knew it went on but turned a blind eye so long as it wasn’t blatant.
I’d told previously him I’d get him the discount but I’d have to buy it as if it was for me and I’d take it to his house and he’d pay me back. He was an impatient bugger, he decided he’d go in on the day I was off and cut the middleman out (me) and get it himself.
I knew nothing about this until went back in after my day off and was called up to the head manager. I got a serious telling off.
I was furious with FIL, I nearly lost the discount perk over it.

GCWorkNightmare · 05/03/2023 11:46

Daffodilsandtuplips · 05/03/2023 11:43

She’s taking the piss, big time. I have Prime too, can’t you change the password for your Amazon account. If you do that she won’t be able to log on to your Amazon account. She’ll have to set her own up.
Stop her using your Freeman’s account too.
Get your discount card back off her too. I had a staff discount card from the shop I once worked at, we got 33% off.
My dozy father in law nearly got me the sack when he strolled into the shop to buy a telly and asked for my discount. He didn’t get it, the department manager wouldn’t do it. The bosses knew it went on but turned a blind eye so long as it wasn’t blatant.
I’d told previously him I’d get him the discount but I’d have to buy it as if it was for me and I’d take it to his house and he’d pay me back. He was an impatient bugger, he decided he’d go in on the day I was off and cut the middleman out (me) and get it himself.
I knew nothing about this until went back in after my day off and was called up to the head manager. I got a serious telling off.
I was furious with FIL, I nearly lost the discount perk over it.

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If the friend was ordering herself she would be able to see when parcels were coming. It’s the OP making the orders and then complaining about it!

Cococomellonn · 05/03/2023 11:47

She's a CF and if she buys that often she should either get Prime herself or would get free delivery if she spends £20 anyway?

Xol · 05/03/2023 11:51

Codliveroil89 · 05/03/2023 09:35

@patrickbatemansbusinesscard it's not just the Prime account. It's my Freeman's account, my store discount card and there is another subscription I pay for too which she uses.

You need to find some boundaries. Tell her that if she wants to save money at using your subscriptions then she must pay half. If she won't, then she doesn't get to use those accounts any more.

Also tell her that you've given up the store discount and the subscription.

Daffodilsandtuplips · 05/03/2023 11:51

patrickbatemansbusinesscard · 05/03/2023 10:40

As long as they were paying it back I cannot see the issue.

Jeeze precious much about the discount card.

My child works for a very well known popular high street brand and happily shares her 50% discount card with not only her friends but my friends also!

Call your 'friend' out but I know in my circle this would never happen we don't mind sharing especially if it's going to help one another out.

Letting others use her discount could get her the sack, I know of several stores that have it written into their employment contracts that the discount is for the employee only and not to be shared or given to family and friends.
The card could be taken off her or she could lose her job.

SugarSyrup · 05/03/2023 12:43

mum2jakie · 05/03/2023 09:11

Or ask her to pay half of the costs as otherwise you're thinking of cancelling as you don't use it much any more for your own orders?

This!