What’s your gut reaction to a 38 year old being pregnant?

[Pegfriedrice]

Do you consider 38 old to be having a baby? Just interested in how people honestly feel hearing it as obviously most people would be polite in person but I’m not sure if secretly they’d think it was quite old to be having a baby?

probably overthinking but hey…

Completely normal. I had my last babies at 36 twins. A joy.

Goodness late 50s now and me and dh run round after grandchildren and as retired ho go the gym daily/swim never been fitter. Some people don't have their health and some just lazy.

Your dsis is being very silly

I think good for her.

My gut reaction would be congratulations, assuming they want the baby.

I was 31 when I had dd 20 years ago, I was considered an older mother then but I have had friends and colleagues having babies well into their 30s in recent years and no one ever comments on their age.

I had my eldest 20 years ago. 31 wasn’t considered older. At 31 I was the youngest in my NCT group and the first of my friends

Yes, I'd think it's old to be having a baby but that's just because of my own personal circumstances. I had a baby when I was 18, so when I'm 38 he'll be 20. I wouldn't pass a comment on it though! Each to their own and mine or anyone else's opinion shouldn't matter.

People think 18 is very young to have a baby, and it is. I wouldn't be offended if someone said that.

@Travelationjubilation We possibly live in different places !!

I personally wouldn’t have a child at that age I had mine all before 30. But all that is is preference I didn’t want them older. However if you are happy, feel healthy and fit enough then it’s absolutely not anyone’s else’s business. Good luck to you 😊

I had my third child when I was 39. My sister likes to make her feelings and opinions known but that’s sisters for you. Don’t worry what anyone else thinks, do what’s right for you😊

What a ridiculous question! I would consider 38 perfectly normal. I had twins at 48. They are 15 now and I have loved every minute. Being an older mum may not suit everyone but it's been perfect for me. Everyone is different - some are mature enough in their 20s to take on motherhood and some are not. Some people in their 50s are stiff and slow while others have as much energy as those in their early 30s. It's small-minded to judge people just because they do something different to yourself.

This is totally normal to me. Lots of my friends are 39/40 and having babies.

None of my friends had babies before they were 30. I was 35 when DD was born.

I’d be happy for them. I think women are judged all the time for when and in what circumstances they have babies. We’re either too young, too old, not financially secure enough, not far enough into our career, not married, not with the right person - women need to support other women and stop being judgy. It’s nice to see this thread is full of non-judgmental, supportive women.

I was 45 so

To be quite honest I'm shocked that this even needs to be asked. There was a time, many moons ago, that it was unhealthy for Mum's to get pregnant after 40, but before has never really been an issue. My Mum was 36 when she had me (57 years ago) and 42 when she had my brother. I was, 39, 40 and 44 when I had my three children. And 20 years ago I was a member of a forum of women trying to conceive after the age of 35 and many of us did and I still have many friends from that group.

My MIL,now passed, had her two children at 38(myDH) and 40(husbands brother) over 65 years ago.
I would be really happy for you.

id be happy for them as everyone was for me ! My boy is now 9! And one of the best things that’s happened to me . My parents were concerned and now take it back as they love spending time.

Congratulations should be the reaction.

@AllTheExtraClouds They were in perfect health! My mum is now 79 and walks miles with the dog but my point was that they were no longer in any way young and spirited. They couldn't relate in anyway. Not like I can to my child with whom I enjoy playing with and happily crawl round soft play with etc. They'd had their excitement, travelled round the world and were slowing down in their interests, not just physically.
I can’t articulate what I mean.
They were sat watching Gardener's World & Antiques Roadshow whilst my friend's parents were taking them to the cinema and having movie nights with them. Going to the ice rink and taking part with them.

I lost my Dad at 26 when he was 71. He had heart issues. I can’t help feeling that had they had me when they first got married (1967) that I'd have been 47 when I lost my Dad instead of 26

My grandmother was 46 when sh had her 6th child

This thread has made me feel so much better I could cry! Thank you

Absolutely this!

My sister told me when I turned 35 that my fertility had ‘fallen off a cliff’ and I’d probably left it too late to fall pregnant. I had my son at 37, almost 38. Go for it, good luck!

Does anyone else have ovulation pains around 4 to 5 days before they start showing positive on an ovulation stick? I can't be ovulating now as I am only CD7, ovulation test is negative but I have some pains and EWCM.

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