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I don't really like going out in the evening- is it just me?

76 replies

mamalove1986 · 18/02/2023 15:21

I have three children, 4.5yo and under.

Tonight I have a night out with 5 of my school friends. We're all married, kids etc, so we're all in the same boat of routine, young children etc.

I just can't be bothered. I never can. I would much rather curl up on the sofa with a movie, scrolling Mumsnet, a glass of red, no make up on.

It won't be a late one because I'll drive and I'll go because I know when I'm there it'll be fine. But that said if anyone cancelled I'd be delighted!

Do I need to lighten up. Is this normal!?

OP posts:
devildeepbluesea · 18/02/2023 16:36

I love it. Nearly 50, 10yo DD who’s with me half the time. I’m always out at least once of a weekend. The thought of my own company for an entire bloody weekend is just soul destroying.

Sometimes I may go out in the day instead, but it’s always a weekly occurrence at some point.

ThreeRingCircus · 18/02/2023 16:38

I think when you have young children going out in the daytime is so much more appealing!

DDs are little. I get hardly any alone time and they're up at the crack of dawn. If I go out in the evening, even if DH gives me a lie in the next day I can still hear them downstairs.

I'd much rather go out for brunch or for lunch to get some adult time and have a catch up and laugh with friends, be home for the evening to chill once DDs are in bed, go to bed myself at a normal time then not be hungover the next morning.

I agree with a PP though that it's important to make an effort when you can and maintain friendships as the children won't be young forever!

Sep200024 · 18/02/2023 16:43

“it livens us up too much”

🤣🤣🤣

Aw, bless!

StrychnineInTheSandwiches · 18/02/2023 16:44

Sep200024 · 18/02/2023 16:43

“it livens us up too much”

🤣🤣🤣

Aw, bless!

made me laugh too Grin

TheGold · 18/02/2023 16:58

I like going out in the evening of I’m going to see something - theatre, cinema etc.

If it’s more of a social thing, like meeting with friends, I prefer daytime. I’m done with late or boozy nights out, and I don’t enjoy sitting in pubs or bars all evening. God knows I did it for years!

rubberchicken100 · 18/02/2023 17:00

I am exactly the same ! Hate going out and I have friends that absolutely love being out in the evening. I am always happiest at home chilling unless it's the weekend then I don't mind as much

Binfluencer · 18/02/2023 17:06

Keeping up with friends is vital, 50 percent of marriages fail.

SplinteredRuler · 18/02/2023 17:09

Binfluencer · 18/02/2023 17:06

Keeping up with friends is vital, 50 percent of marriages fail.

But you don't have to keep up with friends on a Saturday evening.

I have a fantastic social life, but turning out on a cold winter evening doesn't really do it for me or my mates.

woodhill · 18/02/2023 17:09

I don't mind occasionally

But on the whole like being home in the evening

Comedycook · 18/02/2023 17:11

Yes of course it's normal when you're exhausted looking after small children. But do go, you'll enjoy it when you're there.

Catoneverychair · 18/02/2023 17:19

The thought of having to put a bra on once I've taken it off prevents me from going anywhere after about... 5pm.

Adrelaxzz · 18/02/2023 17:34

I love going out, I never get glammed up though. Never have. That might be the deciding factor 😁

Ted27 · 18/02/2023 17:42

@DosCervezas

It's a bit of a sweeping statement to say nobody likes going out anymore, my social needs certainly can't be met sitting on my sofa in my pj's.
I don't know why you think all the pubs are shut.
I was never one for sitting in a pub drinking but they all seem to be full round here when I pass on the way to cinema, theatre, gigs etc

manicthursday · 18/02/2023 17:56

Not just you. For quite a few years now, since having non-sleeping DC I have much preferred daytimes out with friends, brunch or lunch, into the afternoon but home around tea times and plenty water before bed! So much more enjoyable.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 18/02/2023 18:00

Once you get out and catch the sweet scent of freedom you'll want to stay out until dawn!💃💃💃

Obviously don't or you will pay tomorrow.

BHRK · 18/02/2023 18:02

Fine if you don’t want to go out in the evening… but I don’t think you can expect friendships to be maintained if you don’t go out when they do?

MyFlagMeansIceCream · 18/02/2023 18:02

I'm the odd one out then, I love a good night out! My kids are now 15,13 and 10 so maybe I have a bit more energy than when they were tiny.

I'm out both Friday and Saturday evening next week, one for a meal and one going out out for drinks and a local music gig

Topseyt123 · 18/02/2023 18:10

I loathe going out at night. I'd much rather have a nice meal and stay in reading my book.

Sometimes I would enjoy going out in the day for shopping and lunch, but even then I prefer to do those on my own. I'm a bit of a loner really.

megletthesecond · 18/02/2023 18:17

Yanbu. I haven't had a night out since 2015, I don't miss it.

I have started an evening exercise group that starts at 7:30 and it nearly kills me to do it every week but it's getting me out of a rut.

tappitytaptap · 18/02/2023 18:18

SybilWrites · 18/02/2023 16:27

Mumsnet is such a strange place! I don't know anyone who doesn't like going out in the evening. It's so lovely to get out and have a laugh with friends.

Even when I had very young children, I used to love a night out.

Agree that mumsnet is full of introverts who dislike other people, and so you won't get a representative answer here! I'm just waiting for a bus into town to meet friends for dinner and drinks - it's great! Even with young DC (I sympathise as mine are 6 and 4 and the 4 year old has only just started sleeping through) I can't wait to get out and not have to deal with kids bedtime and get dressed up!

tappitytaptap · 18/02/2023 18:19

ThreeRingCircus · 18/02/2023 16:38

I think when you have young children going out in the daytime is so much more appealing!

DDs are little. I get hardly any alone time and they're up at the crack of dawn. If I go out in the evening, even if DH gives me a lie in the next day I can still hear them downstairs.

I'd much rather go out for brunch or for lunch to get some adult time and have a catch up and laugh with friends, be home for the evening to chill once DDs are in bed, go to bed myself at a normal time then not be hungover the next morning.

I agree with a PP though that it's important to make an effort when you can and maintain friendships as the children won't be young forever!

Don't drink too much and wear earplugs so you get a lie in?

DMLady · 18/02/2023 18:25

When it’s cold and dark, and I’m home, I’d much rather stay home. But in the summer, I’m much happier to go out in the evenings. For me, it’s definitely seasonal…

pilates · 18/02/2023 18:27

My own company doesn’t bother me. A lot of the time I cba to go out but when I’m out I always enjoy myself.

woodhill · 18/02/2023 18:30

I think when my dc were young I was desperate to go out and do social things with dh but nowadays I've got lazier.

I like the occasional meal out or show though

JaneJeffer · 18/02/2023 18:33

I read somewhere recently that nothing makes people happier than when something gets cancelled!