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Celebrities like Stacey Solomon and their Instagram perfect lives

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theblackradiator · 13/02/2023 21:04

I heard the news today that Stacey Solomon and Joe swash have welcomed baby number 3 together so thought I'd Google to check out a picture of the cute new arrival. Google led me to her insta. How the hell do these celebs have such picture perfect lives? Every photo is perfect, Babies & toddlers all look immaculate in matching clothing with big beaming smiles no snot, tears, tantrums, refusing to look at the camera. perfect backdrops be it in the home or out & about. It's just too much perfection. It's actually quite depressing and makes us normal families lives look shit or is that just mine 🤔🤣. just how do they get these perfect family moments, pics and vids without the kids playing up and getting bored and just point blank refusing. Do they have professional photographers in their daily lives doing it all for them?

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Treacletreacle · 14/02/2023 06:59

I think what should be the bigger question is her children and many other Instagram influencers are growing up having all of their life shown to others. Children actors have protection these poor children don't. Not just Stacey Solomon but a lot of them show the school uniform, them on the potty, making ads. Her older children less so now thankfully but the smaller ones are not able to say no. Its like the truman show for them. She's often posted being home alone when Joe is away and seeing as her two eldest kids bedroom are not even in the main house I would be worried one of her online family members took it too far. The Internet is amazing for finding out information. She's shown the layout of the house Google pickle cottage. It's scary what private information they share perhaps without even realising

Oblomov23 · 14/02/2023 07:08

It's all staged though isn't it, it's not real life.

MattDamon · 14/02/2023 07:10

I like her positivity, but she has five kids now from infant to teen, a huge house to maintain, three baby daddies to negotiate with and a teenage stepson (not suggesting he's a 'problem' but it's another relationship to navigate).

The big house isn't even that big: the older boys (15 and 10 I think) have to bunk in an outbuilding by themselves because there are only 4 bedrooms.

I bet her days are properly manic trying to balance it all.

Spidey66 · 14/02/2023 07:11

I like the pair of them, they both seem genuine and I loved both of them on I'm a Celebrity.

And to quote Forrest Gump.....that's all I've got to say about that.

Remmy123 · 14/02/2023 07:22

I find her so annoying I can't follow her

but it's not real life it's an illusion of perfect shots that just take ages to create!

mushy captions Under photos it's all too much for my liking and prob not even true

Remmy123 · 14/02/2023 07:25

PS. I used to follow an Instagrammer 600k followers her life looked amazing - I just had a baby and until I realised it was all bolllox and everything was gifted (not declared) I felt really crap about myself.

She then got outed as she was trolling her 'friends' in Tattle and it all came crashing down.

Beetlewings · 14/02/2023 07:27

You'd never put your shittest photos on Instagram would you? Neither would they.

NeonRaptor · 14/02/2023 07:32

I think we all know their lives are not perfect when we step back and think about it. Money can help in all situations but it doesn't stop worry about kids and family or health issues etc. They still have to 'work' be that posting photos of their perfect lives or acting or presenting when they feel like shit as mentioned upthread - influencers out with a 2 day old newborn - I'm pleased I never had that pressure.

But as someone who did get pnd and did for a while get caught up in a lot of insta influencers projecting a perfect life it can be very dangerous. Insta was my escape and torture and still can be when I feel down.

But I tell myself my home and life will never look like someone whose literal job is to receive free stuff and photograph it in pretty ways or spend their working day faffing in their house rearranging vases of flowers or find the most photogenic areas of our city to take pictures of their outfits or get gifted free days out that even I in a 2 person both working relationship couldn't afford or choose their child's outfits, bedroom colour/decoration so that the end result is insta worthy.

I know I'm doing the best job with the time money and resources available to me and it does not make me better or worse than them - just different. I know I share the best pictures of my life on social media because I don't want to share the times my dd won't get dressed and I've lost my shit shouting at her or my husband has pissed me off being a tit again or the beige shit tea I've just made because I'm knacked from a day at work.

So good luck to the insta gang of perfection I'm glad it's not me living like that.

Wonnle · 14/02/2023 08:04

It's as fake as Katie Price's tits that's why !

Weirdknor · 14/02/2023 08:14

It's their job not their reality, set up like an OK magazine shoot etc. They want the perfect ig pics to increase engagement, followers, brand deals not show their reality.
Social media for big personalities is polished, edited, planned etc, I edit YouTube videos for creators, an hour video gets cut to 10 mins, the umms and errs get cut, the 5 restarts they do on a monologue gets cut, the whole thing gets colour corrected and so much more.
Social media is big business, entertainment and planned, edited, choreographed beyond belief. The same way ads, magazine shoots show you the "best" version.

Puddywoodycat · 14/02/2023 08:18

It's a photo.
I take good photos as well.

Literally a snap shot. I wouldn't take a photo with snot or a child wailing.

newnamethanks · 14/02/2023 08:19

She's got 5 kids. FIVE. One brief snapshot isn't real life.

skippy67 · 14/02/2023 08:22

Treacletreacle · 13/02/2023 21:49

It's all lies and carefully planned. Love everyone to the moon and back... Next minute oh look at my new clothes range. And she's very much far from perfect if you look at the kids they are often dirty and never have a routine fall asleep anywhere. Poor Rex had a dogs bed.

She bought him his own dog bed because he liked sleeping in the dog's one.

skippy67 · 14/02/2023 08:23

Beetlewings · 14/02/2023 07:27

You'd never put your shittest photos on Instagram would you? Neither would they.

Exactly. Can't believe people need this spelling out to them.

TheDogsMother · 14/02/2023 08:23

But she's Joe Swash so not that perfect 🤣

WordtoYoMumma · 14/02/2023 08:24

But I could make my life look perfect on social media if I wanted to? You just ... Don't put pictures of the crap stuff on there!

heartbeatt · 14/02/2023 08:26

Remmy123 · 14/02/2023 07:25

She then got outed as she was trolling her 'friends' in Tattle and it all came crashing down.

Ahhh I remember this! What a shit show

musicinspring1 · 14/02/2023 08:26

I think it's awful that these celebrity influencer mums can use their children for likes and advertising with no safeguarding of them / the money personally. Child actors and models have regulations , Instagram doesn't

TheFairyCaravan · 14/02/2023 08:38

It’s all fake and pre-records that’s why. Don’t forget her dad is a photographer, too. He does a lot of her photography.

If you watch her carefully, she will make the bed and her nails will be one colour, then she’ll make the kids a snack, but her nails will have changed colour. It will be time to play with Rex and Rose and her nails will have changed again, then it’s dinner time and they’re back to the same colour as snack time. What she shows as a “day” isn’t the same day.

I unfollowed her ages ago because people like her and Hinch make other women feel inadequate with their lies.

Snugglemonkey · 14/02/2023 08:45

lemmein · 14/02/2023 01:03

When my DGS was a year old we took him to get professional photos done. He's was a moody little sod throughout the shoot, didn't wanna engage at all. There was 4 of us making complete dicks of ourselves trying to get a smile out of him....nothing....he was like this 😐 all the way through.

When we went to view the pics they were perfect; he looked so happy and content. Amazingly they'd manage to catch every little micro-smile, which gave the impression that he'd really enjoyed it.

So, I would say that contrary to popular belief, sometimes the camera tells massive fucking lies and the most important element for that perfect insta-look is a professional photographer

This. We did a newborn shoot. My baby wouldn't settle. Cried most of it. Photos are amazing!

lollipoprainbow · 14/02/2023 08:50

Explodingatomickittens · 14/02/2023 06:30

If you want perfect check out upper class insta profile of Yoanna Hanbury wife of polo player Charlie Hanbury... Gorgeous hubby, huge country estate in home counties, three beautiful clean children.. I love her page for the escapism!

No thanks, makes me feel even more inadequate.

WFHbore2023 · 14/02/2023 08:58

She's got to be one of the worst 'influencers' out there.

She's built up a little following of people believing that they are her 'extended on line family' and that she 'loves them to the moon and back', all the while absolutely everything she posts will be to benefit her, every announcement she makes to these people that line her pockets and keep her relevant will be posted at 7pm, prime insta engagement time.

Her life looks far from perfect to me - she has monetised all aspects of her life, her children being the most abhorrent one to me. I'd rather live in a shed than share my children with millions of unknown people on line.

When I used to follow her I'd regularly notice her son featuring on her stories with a nappy so full it would sag to his knees.

I've never understood why people look up to her as a mother

ImAvingOops · 14/02/2023 09:08

I really like her - she seems kind and cheerful and the sort of person who throws herself wholeheartedly into whatever she's doing. And no one could say she isn't a grafter - she was clearing out a warehouse in the week before her wedding!

I love her 'sort your life out' show. Weirdly there's an identical one on channel 5 with Nick Knowles, which lacks all the warmth of Stacey's version.

Catspyjamas17 · 14/02/2023 09:14

I think she is absolutely brilliant on the Sort Your Life Out programme. Very kind and heaps of emotional intelligence. I don't think she pretends to be perfect, she certainly doesn't on that programme.

Can't stand Nick Knowles.

GoodChat · 14/02/2023 09:27

The other thing is, of course they need help. They both have to travel for work. They don't get to commute to the same office every time like a lot of us do.

Joe had to go away for 3 weeks while she was still working. She often travels a few hours away for days at a time. That's not something I'd want to do heavily pregnant or with very young children.

She only had 12 weeks off with Rose.

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