To have a fifth baby at 38/39?

[Pineapplestropical]

Context is 4 kids 11, 9, 7 and 3. As i had a large gap between 3 and 4 we wanted a sibling closer in age to number 4 so she wouldn't be growing up without the others. We got pregnant but sadly miscarried one year ago. Tried again for a bit and then stopped. . I completely went off having another when dd4 got closer to 3 (maybe baby hormones died down) but also older kids need me more mentally. But there's a nagging feeling at the back of my mind that i may regret not going for number 5? Finance and space is not an issue. Time for each child can be made. Hubby happy to go for number 5.But am i just past it all now and getting old now (hence the miscarriage maybe? Also had 2 chemicals before dd4). Please any advice from people who have 5 or wanted big families or even had another for a closer gap between siblings?

What could be remedied by having 1? Or 2?

Yes, along with twins. But that's not "if the new child has any disabilities then that’s it for the rest of your kids in terms of education and future lives" is it?

By that logic, having had 2 there was nothing that 3 could possibly add to my life so I shouldn't bother. But no 2 was twins so I had little say. Does that mean that the third one brings nothing to my life, nothing to our family? He's just thr BOGOFF Burden?

The gap thing is a red herring because the gap will be about the same between 4 and 5 as it is between 3 and 4, if not bigger.

I have three children, a supportive and involved husband and a pretty laid back lifestyle and I can't imagine 'finding' the time for another child. Three is pretty standard, four seems a lot and five? Well... why? What will a new baby bring that the other four didn't?

Another thing about the gap - my first was 4.5 when I had my third and my second was 2. I figured the second and third would be close but they can stand each other! The eldest and youngest are best of friends.

My brother is 16 months older than me and we haven't spoken in nearly a decade and no much before that. We've never got on.

So having a sibling, even one close in age, is no guarantee they will be close.

Funny how we all have a completely different perspective on things.
Maybe we are basing opinions on our own family and childhood? Because for me, I think how lovely it is for your youngest to be the baby of 4. She doesn’t need another sibling, she already has 3!

I know this is an old post but I just wanted to say, if you wanted baby number 5 I really hope you went for it and some of the comments here didn't put you off, because honestly, some of them were ridiculous.
Alot of people made assumption that if you had another child, your oldest would have to be responsible for the older one's......what a load of rubbish. Having another doesn't make you neglect any of your other children and they probably will help out but they'll actually want to because that's what families do. I have 4 children and also considering a 5th and I don't think I'll ever have a child and think 'I wish I never had you.' If your family is like mine, the more the merrier. Children are joyous and we have a household full of love. Chaos....but love. Myself and my husband work hard and yes, there are times where it is full on but imo family makes you the wealthiest person in earth. There's nothing better. That's my experience anyway x