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Anyone else feeling really low at the mo?

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SnuggleBuggleBoo · 04/02/2023 20:13

And not even sure why? I have a bunch of small-to-medium reasons, but nothing really big enough to explain feeling so blue. Maybe it's seasonal depression. Anyone else feeling a bit mis?

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RedHead33 · 04/02/2023 20:19

Yep, exactly the same. I'm a bit up and down but mostly down. Like there's a black cloud over my head. Bit of anxiety in the mix. For me and probably a lot of people I've definitely gone down hill since covid and still struggling to back to my usual self. So maybe it's the same for you? I need to get myself back to the gym and interested in things again.

Moonlightsonatas · 04/02/2023 20:20

Yep, I think it’s a combo of SAD, the rubbish weather and just constantly being sick as I have 2 kids in nursery.

LadyJ2023 · 04/02/2023 20:21

I'm the only one who got covid sand never felt so ill in my life anyway luckily I got over it but you know I've never been the same since health wise

EmmaEmerald · 04/02/2023 20:21

Yes, I started a thread in mental health yesterday

Today I suddenly thought of my late father while on the bus. I welled up to the point the tears were rolling down my cheeks. It's not real, if that makes sense. I'm just very low and flat. Nothing feels real at the mo? I think spring will help.

Mummyme87 · 04/02/2023 20:22

Yep. I’m up and down, I’m mainly down as we’ve been ttc since October 2021 for number 3 and it’s not happening. But yeah, it’s that point in the year where a lot of us feel pretty hopeless

Fuckitydoodah · 04/02/2023 20:26

Yes, I've felt quite low since Xmas. Same as you, no particular reason. Even the little things have felt like a mammoth effort. I've got behind at work, the idea of sorting the weekly food shop, cleaning the house etc have all felt too much. I'm struggling to find the joy and can't really be bothered with anyone.

This is unlike me. I'm putting it down to the winter/weather, my age as I suspect I'm entering peri menopause, and the general state of the country/world.

Getting out for long dog walks helps me feel a bit better.

RedHead33 · 04/02/2023 20:27

@EmmaEmerald Sorry to hear about your Father 💐
I totally get what you mean about things not feeling real. Sounds dramatic but sometimes I wonder if I'm having a nightmare and I'll wake up. Haven't woke up yet 😂

Gymmum82 · 04/02/2023 20:29

Yes my best friend has terminal cancer and I’m really struggling with the thought of her not being around. She is honestly my rock. I speak to her every day and I don’t know how to cope without her. I’m not close to my family. Have a few other friends but no one like her.
My husband is an emotional retard.
I feel so sad all the time

FenghuangHoyan · 04/02/2023 20:30

Yes I am. Very. I was thinking about starting a thread about it and felt a bit woe is me about that as well.

I'm tired. It's been a tough couple of weeks with work and home stuff and I spent today realising cars are bloody expensive and feeling like a failure because I can't afford anything half decent. My neighbours are being noisy and I'm sat in the dark scrolling Mumsnet on a Saturday night and thinking I should take a sleeping pill and get some oblivion for a while. My days off are precious and I feel I've wasted today. I also feel the rest of my family don't really care as they're all happy. I feel such a bloody, self obsessed, misery writing this. I can't even let myself be upset without having a go at myself it seems.

Stopsnowing · 04/02/2023 20:31

Yes I am!

bloodywhitecat · 04/02/2023 20:32

Yes, me. Sorry so many others are feeling it too.

LiaFriedEgg · 04/02/2023 20:32

You're not alone. I feel like an anxious fog surrounds me most of the time. Not helped by a difficult work environment and just feel like I'm generally failing at life.

Fragrancefreebabywipes · 04/02/2023 20:33

I’m not properly low but commented to DH that I feel very flat & even a day spent doing my hobby (which normally leaves me buzzing) just left me feeling meh

Alaldlccmemsjzja · 04/02/2023 20:33

Yea defo

nothing seems to be going right and I’m kind of hopeless at this point

just going to take every day as it comes and not really make plans or anything for the future

(just in case some smug wanker replies to this thread citing all of their hints and tips about optimism: I don’t care.)

Moxysright · 04/02/2023 20:33

Yes I have felt like this for a while. Barely get two minutes to unwind between children, work, house etc and the weather / dark nights and mornings definitely affects my motivation. Practically drag myself out the bed in the morning looking forward to spring now tbh!

FenghuangHoyan · 04/02/2023 20:35

LiaFriedEgg · 04/02/2023 20:32

You're not alone. I feel like an anxious fog surrounds me most of the time. Not helped by a difficult work environment and just feel like I'm generally failing at life.

You are me, I claim my £5.

I've told my partner I am really struggling and they're sending me text messages with cheery bloody phrases on them and they're sat downstairs laughing with the kids.

flowertoday · 04/02/2023 20:43

Lots of sympathy to everyone who is feeling a bit rubbish at the moment.

A combination of three bereavements in the last year just the normal everyday worries has left me feeling really low. Feel so sad, and use all my energy trying to keep it together/ smiling on the outside and inwardly howling.

This time of year is a real low point , the spring will come. I am trying to think ahead and hoping that in future I can employ a duel strthe strategy to improve life -

Telling all the utter assholes who bring me and others down to f* off.
Being as kind as I can to myself and to others.

Fuckitydoodah · 04/02/2023 20:44

Gymmum82 · 04/02/2023 20:29

Yes my best friend has terminal cancer and I’m really struggling with the thought of her not being around. She is honestly my rock. I speak to her every day and I don’t know how to cope without her. I’m not close to my family. Have a few other friends but no one like her.
My husband is an emotional retard.
I feel so sad all the time

I'm so sorry. No wonder you are struggling. How long does your friend have?

Gymmum82 · 04/02/2023 20:52

Fuckitydoodah · 04/02/2023 20:44

I'm so sorry. No wonder you are struggling. How long does your friend have?

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They said 5 years at her diagnosis which was 1.5 years ago. But after a pretty good year it’s started to grow again. So it may not be that long now.
I feel terrible thinking about how I’m going to cope when it’s her going through it all but I don’t know how to do life without her in it

AllOutofEverything · 04/02/2023 21:00

Yes. Both my parents died after a car crash last year. My DH is unemployed and my two DCs have a life limiting illness. It all just feels too much at the moment. I work full time and I am keeping the show on the road, but I really just want to lie down for a few weeks.

EmmaEmerald · 04/02/2023 21:00

RedHead33 · 04/02/2023 20:27

@EmmaEmerald Sorry to hear about your Father 💐
I totally get what you mean about things not feeling real. Sounds dramatic but sometimes I wonder if I'm having a nightmare and I'll wake up. Haven't woke up yet 😂

Thank you
He died five years ago! I think it's a combo of things. I get a lot of nostalgia atm and the "unreal" feeling extends to good things as well. So only the past is real and I find it comforting, except today I didn't!

not making much sense. I agree with others it's a combo of things. I have never really felt my age but this winter, it seems to have kicked in! Is it a midlife crisis etc.

sorry others are having such a hard time. I'm really okay, just in a fog.

northstar19 · 04/02/2023 21:00

Yes me. Could have written this myself

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 04/02/2023 21:09

So sorry to hear posters with legitimate reasons for feeling low,

I am, and so are most of my friends in our 50’s, with no real reason. It’s so weird.

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SnuggleBuggleBoo · 04/02/2023 21:10

I'm so sorry so many of you are feeling down. It's rotten isn't it? Sending hugs to everyone, and a vid of a beaver eating cabbage:

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BCBird · 04/02/2023 21:15

Me too. Lost my joy is what my friend said-it's true. So true. Peace of mind has gone. Hand hold to you all.