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Anyone else feeling really low at the mo?

73 replies

SnuggleBuggleBoo · 04/02/2023 20:13

And not even sure why? I have a bunch of small-to-medium reasons, but nothing really big enough to explain feeling so blue. Maybe it's seasonal depression. Anyone else feeling a bit mis?

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Alaldlccmemsjzja · 04/02/2023 21:16

BCBird · 04/02/2023 21:15

Me too. Lost my joy is what my friend said-it's true. So true. Peace of mind has gone. Hand hold to you all.

Yeah it’s like a crushed spirit

Chevyimpala67 · 04/02/2023 21:18

I hear you, op.

I've got long covid (apparently) and am peri menopausal. Great fun. My mum is dying (I think) but no Dr is interested. Rushed to hospital twice last week and discharged home within hours both times. She hasn't kept any food down since last Saturday and her BP is sky high. I don't know what else i can do :(

Siblings are useless/don't care. I'm just so...tired. Of everything and everyone.

zeddybrek · 04/02/2023 21:18

Me too. So tired. All taken it turns to be sick, now mine. No energy and fed up of the cold and doom and gloom reported in the media about how 2023 will be. Think I might stop reading the news now. Sorry OP no solutions but solidarity.

Cantwait4summer94 · 04/02/2023 21:20

Yes, I’ve never felt so bad mentally. Normally I love having something to look forward to but now nothing brings me joy and everything feels pointless. I can’t wait for warmer days, I hope at least that will make me feel better. I have two young children so want to feel better for them

Jellykat · 04/02/2023 21:25

Yep, so fed up of being physically tensed up against the cold, and i cant remember the last time i actually laughed, theres no joy whatsoever.
I wish i could just stay in bed for at least 2 months.

RedHead33 · 04/02/2023 21:26

I've just been thinking and does anyone else feel like since covid people have gone more selfish and out for themselves? .
I think this has effected me cause deep down I'm a people person and very giving (with my time etc) so it's really disheartening. I think this is one big reason I've been feeling low. People just don't seem to care about others. I don't mean everyone, most of family are like this though and friends, what friends? I reach out to people and get no response half the time lol.. I just feel like that sense of community & care has gone.
I'm glad to have mumsnet to talk about things and share problems.

xPissflapsx · 04/02/2023 21:39

Me.
I feel like my get up and go has fucked off.
I keep crying for no reason.
I'm blaming my hormones because yeah, bastarding things.
Aghhhh

I Hope your mood starts picking up soon.

Chasedbythechaser · 04/02/2023 21:41

I'm the same OP
Sorry to read so many of us are in the same boat though.

Jellykat · 04/02/2023 21:45

RedHead33 · 04/02/2023 21:26

I've just been thinking and does anyone else feel like since covid people have gone more selfish and out for themselves? .
I think this has effected me cause deep down I'm a people person and very giving (with my time etc) so it's really disheartening. I think this is one big reason I've been feeling low. People just don't seem to care about others. I don't mean everyone, most of family are like this though and friends, what friends? I reach out to people and get no response half the time lol.. I just feel like that sense of community & care has gone.
I'm glad to have mumsnet to talk about things and share problems.

Completely agree!
I spend days by myself without a single conversation with anyone, i have told a few people that ive known for years but they dont care.
I became aware that all the 'friendships' i had, only existed because i rang them, and were with people who constantly said 'lets meet up' but when i suggested a day would always have an excuse.. so i stopped making the effort - cue silence!
Thank god for mumsnet at least for virtual conversations!

Curtainpoles · 04/02/2023 21:47

I have been feeling the same recently. I asked my husband for a divorce in November. It's definitely the absolute right thing to do for us but I've been feeling terrible about it recently. Like logically I know it's for the best but emotionally I just want him back.
I cried while driving yesterday and have been feeling close to tears a lot over the past week or so.
I'm sorry so many others are feeling unhappy too.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 04/02/2023 21:53

Yes and see no way out. I am just going further and further under at the minute

ZebraF · 04/02/2023 21:54

I’m feeling the same too. I’ve had constant low-level anxiety since the pandemic started, with a few nasty spikes of worse anxiety and I’m just so tired. Tried staff support for help and the wait is 10 months. I’m lonely too. I have no friends, a work colleague I was really close to has just left, and my husband goes out every evening. These are small things compared to things people I know are going through in real life, and also reading on here, but I feel very low.
Someone bumped into my car today. No obvious damage but it has sent me into a spiral of anxiety about whether there is underlying damage and what I’ll do if there is. Completely ruined what should have been a nice day with DD.
I never struggled like this before.

RedHead33 · 04/02/2023 21:56

@Jellykat I know right? I don't understand it but I'm just not made that way. I care about other people, probably too much.
Where abouts are you? I'm in Liverpool.

MovieQueen12 · 04/02/2023 21:56

Yes. Feel really anxious and down on myself.
Everyone else seems so together although I know a lot goes on beneath the surface. Just hard when I feel like a total f up.

IndeedDanielJackson · 04/02/2023 22:09

I've been feeling so low for a while. There was no really reason although I think I'm peri menopausal but then my ds 17 starting acting like an asshole and dd 14 admitted she has been self harming. I feel like I'm low but I need to not be so I can support whatever is causing ds current behaviour and help dd.

Truthfully I don't seem to have any support so I'm just struggling through it all.

Sorry to see so many others feeling down too. Maybe it's partly down to the time of year?

Jellykat · 04/02/2023 22:11

RedHead33 i'm in West Wales..
I know.. i've supported so many people over the last few years, shame that concern has never been returned! It feels like as soon as things improved for them, they didnt need me anymore and buggered off.. So i dont volunteer any help for anyone (other then my grown up children) these days.

JT69 · 04/02/2023 22:13

Same as everyone here, sad, gloomy, menopausal, anxiety….. nothing is right at the moment. I’m sure I’m an absolute joy to live with 🙄.

StarDolphins · 04/02/2023 22:13

Today I cried in my car. I flashed someone through parked cars & for the 6th time this week, no acknowledgement & I just thought ‘Noone actually gives a fuck anymore’ & it makes me so sad. No manners, nothing.

Got home, hugged my dog & realised that I’m just feeling down with the world as it is, I love humour & there’s none, I used to love all the different characters In life & they just seem to have disappeared.

I have the most wonderful life but at the
minute, I don’t feel joy. The NHS, COL crisis, even the poor lady that’s gone missing in Lancs, all just getting to me.

Then I berate myself as I have nothing big to be joyless about. There are people far worse off so how have I gone from happy go lucky to this with no real reason.

I really hope spring improves things for everyone.

BigGreen · 04/02/2023 22:19

Yea, me too. Started taking some iron today and hoping desperately that it adds some energy!

TheDogsMother · 04/02/2023 22:19

Me too ! I'm felling low, flat and apathetic. I have a lot to be grateful for but I a have zero motivation to organise anything.

Ironsoup · 04/02/2023 22:20

Yup. February - every year. Husband has to remind me that I feel like this every year because I just want to run away 🙂

JoonT · 04/02/2023 22:22

Yeah, been feeling pretty low as well. In my case, it always manifests as anxiety, which leads to insomnia, and then a drop in mood. Always the same goddam pattern.

For me, it’s my neighbourhood deteriorating. This was a quiet village 20 years ago. Now, we’ve had the local woods partly hacked down to make way for a new estate. And at the other end of the village they are building another estate that, frankly, is more like a small town. During the summer, kids from the first estate got into the woods (what’s left of them) and caused mayhem. They’ve ruined them. They smoke weed in there, ride round on motorbikes, and even vandalise the trees!! Last week a shopping trolley from the local Tescos was dumped in there. A gang of them were told off by the farmer, and set fire to one of his barns (just behind my house) in revenge. The traffic gets worse every day. Last night I was woken at 3 am by the screeching and exploding of boy racer engines (I can hear them right now). When the second new estate is finished, and the houses and flats have all been occupied, there will be even more kids in the woods, and even more cars. Instead of looking forward to the spring, like I used to, I now dread it. In the winter, the cold and darkness keeps people indoors. Those kids setting fire to that barn really scared me. They didn’t give a shit that my house was near by and that the fire might have spread. I feel more and more exposed here. My house is quite remote, and there have been quite a few kids walking past it at night yelling and shouting. A few neighbours have also had cars vandalised. I feel like it’s a matter of time before we have a break in.

Ah well, shut up NIMBY, you don’t matter. Just suffer in silence - and keep paying your taxes.

Cantwait4summer94 · 04/02/2023 22:25

JoonT · 04/02/2023 22:22

Yeah, been feeling pretty low as well. In my case, it always manifests as anxiety, which leads to insomnia, and then a drop in mood. Always the same goddam pattern.

For me, it’s my neighbourhood deteriorating. This was a quiet village 20 years ago. Now, we’ve had the local woods partly hacked down to make way for a new estate. And at the other end of the village they are building another estate that, frankly, is more like a small town. During the summer, kids from the first estate got into the woods (what’s left of them) and caused mayhem. They’ve ruined them. They smoke weed in there, ride round on motorbikes, and even vandalise the trees!! Last week a shopping trolley from the local Tescos was dumped in there. A gang of them were told off by the farmer, and set fire to one of his barns (just behind my house) in revenge. The traffic gets worse every day. Last night I was woken at 3 am by the screeching and exploding of boy racer engines (I can hear them right now). When the second new estate is finished, and the houses and flats have all been occupied, there will be even more kids in the woods, and even more cars. Instead of looking forward to the spring, like I used to, I now dread it. In the winter, the cold and darkness keeps people indoors. Those kids setting fire to that barn really scared me. They didn’t give a shit that my house was near by and that the fire might have spread. I feel more and more exposed here. My house is quite remote, and there have been quite a few kids walking past it at night yelling and shouting. A few neighbours have also had cars vandalised. I feel like it’s a matter of time before we have a break in.

Ah well, shut up NIMBY, you don’t matter. Just suffer in silence - and keep paying your taxes.

Oh god, this is awful 😢

Cuppasoupmonster · 04/02/2023 22:29

i was feeling very flat and a bit down this morning but a 2 hour walk on the beach sorted me out, I can’t recommend fresh air enough!

QueenOfHiraeth · 04/02/2023 22:33

I think loss of joy is a big thing for many of us at the moment but I think the constant barrage of bad news, media negativity and social media would drain anyone. It is as though the energy of everyday life is low at the moment even for those of us with no major troubles
I'm sorry for those of you who are going through tough times

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