Anyone else feeling really low at the mo?

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And not even sure why? I have a bunch of small-to-medium reasons, but nothing really big enough to explain feeling so blue. Maybe it's seasonal depression. Anyone else feeling a bit mis?

Can you move? What on earth are the police doing? This sounds dreadful.

@Jellykat I see what you mean. I've always had the mentality that I won't let other people change me so I still try to be kind and giving, but I guess I am more picky with who I give my time to these days. Feel free to PM me if ever want to chat.

JoonT what you say is very relatable for me. My area has turned to shit. I am moving, but not for a couple of months at least. The general decline of my area is reflected across the country I think. Moving on is going to give me a breather but I think there's a chance that area will be the same in five years.

I will be near mum, in the place I grew up. That also used to be a village. It's still way nicer than my area, but it's nothing like the village it was.

hence the nostalgia. I know places - and history - moves through cycles and circles. But there is no way a lot of those villages will ever go back to being so nice.

the complete absence of action to deal with noise and anti-social behaviour definitely impacts on mood. I find I have to put myself in a protective shell in order to deal with it, and I suspect that feeds into feelings of unreality.

Jellykat same as you re volunteering to help.

Sorry, wasn't clear - I think where I'm going will be the same in 5 years, as in, turning to shit.

Yep. Same here. But look what we've been through. 2 years of Covid and rise of cost of living, people being made redundant all over the place and then the seasons being all over the place and the weather so changeable that no one can keep up with it. Also loads of places closing and no one really back to normal going out etc plus can't afford it and wondering just how they're going to afford their energy bills. Everyone looks miserable everywhere you go. It all looks flat.
Yes also think people have become more insular and selfish. Its survival of the fittest it seems.
Everything seems meaningless to me at the moment. I feel lost but am hanging onto the fact that spring and longer lighter days are round the corner so hopefully it make everyone feel a bit better.

I feel so rubbish at the moment. I was looking forward to Xmas and it was awful as two of my adult sons (and their partners) fell out. They are still not talking and it has created such awkwardness in the rest of the family and it just rumbles on. I don't feel I can arrange any family events cos they could just upset me even more. I'm 70 and I'm too old for such nonsense and I feel more miserable at the moment than I have ever been before.
I should be taking life easy in retirement instead I wish I was still working as it was a distraction from any problems that I had. One of my adult DS's and his wife are living with us, she has been ill since last May and is unable to work the Doctors keep fobbing herv off and she is now ill and depressed too.
I lost my only grandchild in Traumatic circumstances in 2019 and its like its been downhill since then.
As PP's have said its like all joy has been sucked out of life

RedHead33 aw bless you, thats kind... have to admit ive shut down and gone into myself, but i'll defo PM if i come back a bit!

@Jellykat Ah I understand, no problem but the offer is there x

Hope everyone starts feeling better soon.

Thank you RedHead33 x

I feel like this. I seem to have been struck in a spiral of constant stress and it’s really affecting my physical and mental health. Three adult children all struggling. One of whom lives at home and has mental health problems.
The few friends I have have all become relentlessly negative and suck the energy out of me. Everyone seems to need to be propped up but no one is there for me. I’m totally exhausted.
Im retired, but it’s not at all what I hoped, just new things to worry about along with the old things.
I am unmotivated, very overweight, anxious and depressed almost constantly. Everything around us is breaking down. Doctors, dentists, public services. Prices are skyrocketing. Businesses are failing due to overheads. The news is relentlessly depressing. There literally feels like there’s nothing to live for.
I can’t motivate myself to do anything much and can’t remember what happiness feels like. On holiday all I want to do is sleep.
I really don’t know how to get out of this cycle .

The telling point is that I no longer look forward to seeing friends. I just have no energy or interest whereas before being with friends would give me a boost. Everything seems bleak with constant money worries and the price of food is so ridiculous I can’t even economise further.

yes me ! So glad I’m not alone.

Yes, I do. I haven't been the same since having covid in the first wave and desperately want my health / the old me back. I was ill all over Christmas and again last week. A month respite in between.
I also can't shake the feeling of the world shifting, not for the good. I look for the good everyday and laugh and appreciate sun rises and nature, all the small things. But I do feel low.
Sorry to see that lots of other people do too.

Glad I found this thread...I've been feeling pretty shitty recently but didn't want to 'vent' in case got told I was being selfish, twelve months out of an abusive relationship, made a new life for myself but as fast as one thing goes right for me something else happens to put a dampener on it, today I'm just going to hibernate at home with a good book and a face pack.

I also run out of conversation really fast

though I'm grateful to have a moan on here

lovely sunny day, not feeling it, though I had to take mum out which is a chore.

I think part of it is that the future doesn't have as much promise as I thought? Potentially x more years of elderly parent stuff.

@EmmaEmerald I can relate there. My dad is 76 and can be quite demanding for time and attention. He's so capable of doing things himself, this is the thing. He can drive and is 100% mobile, he just gets aches and pains like most people do. He's in such a good position financially. If I was him I'd be sunning myself abroad somewhere enjoying life but instead he spends most of his time in his bungalow expecting meals on wheels from me, moaning and wanting everything to just fall in his lap. I'd love to be his situation financially with so much free time on my hands.

My sparkle has gone. Im going through the menopause but i think its more than that. HRT didnt help me.

I’ve already been to the GP just a few weeks ago as i was feeling low, very tearful, losing weight ive lost about 9lbs in a short space of time and down to 8st. I have no appetite, no passion for life, my hair is thinner and losing it. She did tell me to go out every day (really cba most days), eat well but i have no desire to eat a meal as i have IBS.

to top it all my DD is also struggling with uni life and has to come home due to stress. She went missing the other night and i was called by her friend who was really worried. I spoke to dd once she was found and she was extremely tearful. She will need a gp appointment immediately. Im worried sick about her

how can i help her get better when im not well myself?

Sending more cyberhugs to everyone today.

Thank you

I think it’s a lot of “end of era” stuff. I didn’t think the zeitgeist was affecting me that much but I read an interesting article today which made me realise. That and flipping ChatGPT, which feels like a key moment in the tech future I never wanted to see.

Hello everyone, I know this is an old thread. But I’m feeling like everything you all describe. I think for me it’s a combination of health anxiety, work stress, general loss and disappointments and perimenopause. Did it get better for you? What helped?

Sorry to hear you're feeling low- all of you on here. I am really up and down too.

I love the colder months but do feel as though this year I just want to hibernate/retreat with my kids, DH & the dog and just be there until 2025. Don't care about DDs schooling, feels like a waste of time. We are doing work on house too but I just don't care as I hate the bloody thing, the area we live is grim and it's 8.5 years in a boring nothing place.

Just give me a caravan in a field. Call me Esme Shelby 😆

I keep fantasising about moving abroad. We have a cat otherwise I would honestly like to try living abroad for a year, or just become a sort of nomad. OH a bit dubious, but I think I could convince him!

I am sorry for your losses this is truly awful @AllOutofEverything