Things I haven’t said out loud this week

[YorkieTheRabbit]

1 - No, we haven’t asked you to come over for a meal in ages, no, I don’t care how many hints you drop, it’s falling on deaf ears.
I don’t expect you to help prepare or cook when you’re here BUT I do expect you to supervise your kids, not plonk down on the sofa and completely ignore them. Accidents may happen but if you actually looked after them instead of scrolling through your phones, we wouldn’t have had a house plant tipped over the carpet, used toilet roll and wee on the toilet floor, orange juice poured in the dogs bowl plus numerous others. Oh and by the way, we’ve never been invited over to your house in the eight years you’ve lived there!

2 - Im sorry your daughter would rather spend time with her gran but for god’s sake be honest, you spent the first ten years of her life bouncing from one disastrous relationship to another because you were desperate for a bloke. You put them in front of her needs. Her gran might not be perfect but at least she was there for her.

You had one job to do this week, pack your bags for our holiday.
You never bothered packing any creams, shampoos, conditioners, moisturiser, sun cream, after cream, and are now in mine🤨....(teen daughters)

You’ve missed me? Then why did you call me a sexist swear word when I visited? Sadly I’m not sure I can be bothered any more.

Give it a rest with your constant bragging - you live on a rough, scruffy street. Your husband is NOT on a 6-figure salary (or are you counting the pence?!). You bore everyone with your continuous claims of being well-off. You certainly wouldn't be doing the job you do if you had a lot of money. You're two-faced, you call everyone you know (including me). Every single thing you do is posted on social media. You must feel the need to validate your existence.

You're a police officer but you're also an abuser of women. I had a feeling something was off with you but never had any cause to interact with you until your son started to bully my daughter. Which then led to you trying to intimidate me. I could see how furious you were when it didn't work and I didn't back down to you but unfortunately, I've dealt with abusers all my life so I'm not easily intimidated.
I've recently learned that the mother of your children has left you due to your abuse of her and your kids.
You really are pathetic, yet another officer who shouldn't be in the job. I hope that you are caught out at some point and thrown out of the force. Sadly, I won't hold my breath but just know, if that ever happens, I will be celebrating.

It's been an interesting weekend...

a)That's interesting that you're separating from your wife, given that you've always given the slightly unsettling impression of being into me. Don't know what to make of that, because I do fancy you. Revisit the situation in a year, perhaps.

b) yep, you ARE taking the piss, yes you are giving out EXTREMELY mixed messages,and it sounds as if you did exactly the same to X and I can see why she's pissed off with you, and no you DIDN'T stay in touch.

b) and c) (and in fact, even d) I don't care if you're childless and broody/ your adult children don't have much to do with you (with good reason). My kids are not there to help you play out your daddy fantasies. I keep my romantic and family lives separate until I've really got to know someone, thank you.

I think I am making a terrible mistake. I don’t want to go through with the sale of my house and give up my business and move to another county and buy this house jointly with you. I don’t think I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I don’t like your attitude towards my (adult) children. I am considering not giving my permission for the solicitor to exchange contracts when they call on Tuesday but I’m not sure I’m brave enough to back out now.

FVFrog; for heaven's sake, don't do it! Keeping my fingers crossed you'll be strong.

If you have doubts, definitely don't do it.

@FVFrog be brave - follow your gut and do not commit your future to this man

I’m so lonely and isolated.

I fancy the absolute fucking arse off you. Given half the chance, I'd jump the bones of you every which way imaginable. I grind you into fucking dust.

What will it take to separate myself from you?

Sometimes it hurts so much that I have to double over and just breathe until I can stand straight again.

And as I type this...you text me and I cave.

I fucking love you so much.

Dear Lord, don't do it.

That will be a mess that will be very hard to extract yourself from.

Listen to your gut.

How could you give up so much for a man with a poor attitude towards your own children?

Be brave.

Sorry 😞

IT SHOULDN'T TAKE ME OVER TWO HOURS TO TRAVEL 6 MILES!! WTAF!!!

(NC for this)

To my Boss-

You have no idea that I only do what I do and have stuck it so long because of you.
My loyalty to you overrides almost every other instinct I have to the contrary.

I hate what I do but you have faith, you have backed me since Day 1, despite me not being the easiest or most natural fit. You've never lost patience, never waivered in your belief of me.

Our industry is a tough one, praise isn't metered out freely and I know you're beaten with a stick from above more often than you let on but you never, ever pass that on to your team.

You're one of the most astonishing men I've ever worked for and have absolutely no idea how unique you are in your position, in our industry.
You're measured, calm, reassuring, firm, fair and honestly, I'd walk barefoot to the moon if you required it of me.

I've told you I hate my job. A job you promoted me into, that I'm looking for a way out. You took it lightly- supportively. You encouraged me to stay, evolve..... move me into any role I wanted.
Why not just let me walk like you have others? It would be easier.... just another one who 'couldn't hack it'.

It's beyond me.

99% of the time you're formidable. Your word is law. You're not manipulated easily and you admit not to being a fluffy, feelings sort of man but I saw you break every rule in the book to help someone vulnerable today because it was in your power to do so. It was also in your power not to, but you did.

You've never lost your cool with me and dear god, i must have tested your patience at times.

You're EVERYTHING, and you have literally no idea.

Thank you for sharing a much more positive “things I’ve not said out loud”.

I really admire you for writing this.

I fancied you and I'm not sure but I think you liked me too after we spent a day volunteering together. We got on so well. I wish I'd said something. I know we live a stupid distance apart, but it would have been nice to know if the feeling really was mutual.

I've heard everything now, big mouth, it'll come back and bite you. Never once have I ever thought you're a nice guy. Ignore me, but I'll hang on as long as possible just to spite you. It's fucking sexual harassment. I can't stand your guts. You wanted to have me on the side for a possible fling while your girlfriend thinks you're loved up with her. I hope the arsehole big mouths let slip.
If I were her I'd be shattered, she must know. Arrogant bastard.

You're amazing, and you are doing amazingly well. Keep going!

Since Thursday evening, I’ve spent almost five hours talking to you on the phone, I’ve listened and advised. I’ve given you the same information I gave you seven months ago, contact details of organisations that can help.
You still haven’t done anything to actually get her some help!
Ring the doctor ffs, at least that would be a start and stop whinging to me!

I am failing my children.

Oh, weird. I have changed my username since I last posted on this thread many months ago and it’s reverted back to that old name. I wasn’t expecting that.

"I've no idea why you are sending me news screenshots re. the minimum wage going up. You're not into politics or workers' rights and you've worked for 1 month out of the 9 years I've known you."

I'm wasting my life, and it's so sad.