Crying my eyes out.

[Rachell1]

Probably heightened by the hormonal changes tbf (heavily pregnant) but I am so so upset and just feel like a useless mum.

Yesterday I posted a thread asking everyone what they do with their toddlers all day (DS is 2 years old) as I struggle to fill the day with fun things for him.

I admit I have been very slack re the playground and playgroup visits etc because he tends to catch everything going when around other kids (as do I) and after three tummy bugs last year I kinda gave up.

Now being heavily pregnant I struggle to find much energy at all tbh.

But all of the responses were so…. Organised and regimental and everyone seems to make SUCH an effort with their toddlers (playing trains, building blocks, going to groups, painting, baking etc). I just don’t do this.. I want the best for him but at the same time I can’t imagine the amount of mess baking and painting with my 2 year old would cause!!

I did take him out this morning on the bus just to town to run some errands. Right now he is bored out of his mind again, doesnt play with his toys unless I play with him but I still need to make dinner which is going to take a bit of time tonight. He will just hover whilst I make dinner/get everything out of the cupboards/climb on kitchen table so I will be feeling as though I’m constantly saying ‘no’ and taking things away from him which I hate because he gets upset.
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I want the best for him, I think I need to make more of an effort but sometimes it can feel lonely and when I see him bored it makes me so sad and stressed. I downloaded peanut as I have no mum friends but so far no responses on there. Perhaps a mum friend would help…

Do you have a pond near you take him to feed the duck's or a farm arrange a day out somewhere fun, visit relatives even if they don't have children different people around him change of scenery it all helps, if he doesn't want to sit and play with toys and the weather's crap let him have toys to climb jump and use his energy indoors it wouldn't hurt to bring a small slide a ride on one of those little trampolines indoors temporary, a lot of people are same some women are just too poorly to do anything during pregnancy I take my toddler to playgroup but I keep away for a while when more things are going round and always dread if I'm taking her to get ill because she has other things wrong with her so weak immune system catches things easier gets worst case of everything longer to get well again and that's exactly what happens to pregnant women they have small immunity and can't take anything there's a lot of single mum's are you with his dad can't he take him out somewhere for a run around and play he's more likely to catch something at playgroup than playground go to playground at a time when it's quiet during school hours and when playgroups are running there won't be many people at the playground then are you entitled to any free childcare or couldn't you afford nursery a child minder even 1 day per week, talk to midwife about your mental health.