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Would you get a piercing if you DH/DP said he wouldn’t like it?

59 replies

Itsallfallingout2 · 15/01/2023 21:06

Have been desperate to get my nose pierced for years and haven’t had a chance due to pregnancy and breastfeeding etc. I’m now considering getting it once I’m finished breastfeeding my second Dd. DH has said he hates the idea of it. Tbh he doesn’t compliment me anyway so not much will change in that regard! Would you do it? Not sure if it’s an early onset midlife crisis as I am turning 30 very soon!

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gamerchick · 15/01/2023 21:07

Yes.

Husband detests tattoos. Didn't stop me getting them though.

SpangoDweller · 15/01/2023 21:08

Yes. Same as @gamerchick my DH hates tattoos. I had some when I met him, I have more now.

why doesn’t he compliment you?

StrapOnYourHeroHair · 15/01/2023 21:08

Yes.

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BigFatLiar · 15/01/2023 21:09

Personally, no, doesn't mean you shouldn't.

FormerlyPathologicallyHappy · 15/01/2023 21:09

No.

Dacadactyl · 15/01/2023 21:09

No, I wouldn't at all.

Lessstressedhemum · 15/01/2023 21:10

Yes. I have piercings and tattoos. My husband hates them but I don't really care. It's my body not his.

FloydPepper · 15/01/2023 21:10

Are you ok with him getting one?

RagzRebooted · 15/01/2023 21:10

DH prefers long hair on women, I still cut m

SanFranBear · 15/01/2023 21:10

It's your body so why not?

HPLikecraft · 15/01/2023 21:11

Yes, I would, but I can’t imagine DH saying anything anyway.

GlassBunion · 15/01/2023 21:11

No I wouldn't.

Butwhytho · 15/01/2023 21:11

I did, and probably would again. I got four piercings this year and every time my husband, when asked, has said he wouldn’t be a massive fan. I just don’t care that much, plus once they’re done, he soon comes around and they’re just part of me and he likes me as a whole so they’re then okay, iyswim.
Same with a few tattoos I’ve had done since being with him. He isn’t really a fan of tattoos himself but I am so 🤷🏼‍♀️
I think it’s sad that he never compliments you though.

Urguth · 15/01/2023 21:12

Yes, i have And I will

LolaSmiles · 15/01/2023 21:12

It depends what it was and what his feelings were because I'd also expect him to take my ideas into consideration too.

Something like a small piercing I would do anyway, but something more drastic I'd take it on board.

Your husband is an arse if he doesn't say nice things to you and then criticises something you'd like to do for yourself.

RagzRebooted · 15/01/2023 21:12

Arghh
I still cut my hair short when I fancy it.

I wasn't keen on his beard, when he went through a beard phase, but I tolerated it.

So yes, I'd get the piercing. Much easier than a tattoo as you can take it out again if you don't like it. I've always wanted my nose pierced too, DH not keen but it wouldn't stop me, I just haven't got around to it.

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/01/2023 21:14

Yes, my ex was very shitty about me getting my nose done but I did it anyway. I’d had it done before, I love it, current/second DH loves it too.

My ex had actually had a nose piercing himself before we were together, he was a hypocrite and a knob.

Do it, you’ll probably love it. And if you don’t just take it out. I highly recommend nose screws instead of the annoying L shaped ones.

WandaWonder · 15/01/2023 21:17

I am in two minds, I am all for a person making their own decisions and just being in a relationship does not make people the same

But I also take others opinions so I would find it odd to deliberately go against something deliberately

Would I like it if I my husband did something I really don't like? (Hypothetical I presume as I can't think of a time we have done this)

GNR2022 · 15/01/2023 21:18

Completely off topic, but why have you waited? And why are you waiting till you finish breastfeeding? Am I just being dim and not seeing the link between pregnancy/feeding and getting a nose piercing?

Puppers · 15/01/2023 21:24

Yes.

But I'd never be in that position because DH would keep his opinion to himself in that scenario. He wouldn't want me to not wear something or have a particular haircut or piercing or even a tattoo just because he didn't like it.

RicciardoPerez · 15/01/2023 21:25

My DH was against it. I still got it done (nose piercing). After I had it done, he said I really suited it.

Suzi888 · 15/01/2023 21:25

Not sure.
Would depend west the piercing was I think.

KangarooKenny · 15/01/2023 21:26

If I wanted it, yes I would.

RicciardoPerez · 15/01/2023 21:27

GNR2022 · 15/01/2023 21:18

Completely off topic, but why have you waited? And why are you waiting till you finish breastfeeding? Am I just being dim and not seeing the link between pregnancy/feeding and getting a nose piercing?

Some tattoo and piercing studios are against it for health and safety reasons and due to risk of infection etc.

nc1013 · 15/01/2023 21:29

To all the people saying straight "no" or "no, i wouldn't", do you mean in general you wouldn't want to get your nose pierced (for whatever reason) or do you mean you wouldn't do something to your appearance because your DP/DH wouldn't like it?