Would you get a piercing if you DH/DP said he wouldn’t like it?

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Have been desperate to get my nose pierced for years and haven’t had a chance due to pregnancy and breastfeeding etc. I’m now considering getting it once I’m finished breastfeeding my second Dd. DH has said he hates the idea of it. Tbh he doesn’t compliment me anyway so not much will change in that regard! Would you do it? Not sure if it’s an early onset midlife crisis as I am turning 30 very soon!

No, but that’s because I don’t like nose piercings.

Yes. I did. My partner didn't speak to me for over a week.
My body my choice.

Married someone more aligned to my tastes

I’m not quite sure which side of the debate you’re on so apologies if we are on the same side of things but surely the feelings of the partner who’s body it is trumps the feelings of the other partner as it isn’t their body?

Absolutely on the same side.

There shouldn’t be any grey areas when it comes to my body my choice.

The one with the feelings needs to get over themselves.

It’s quiet sad really that adults need to get permission from partners to try new styles etc. It’s a perk of being an adult not needing consent from parents.

It’s quiet sad really that adults need to get permission from partners to try new styles etc. It’s a perk of being an adult not needing consent from parents.

It's also sad in a way that people don't think their partners opinion matters.

It’s quiet sad really that adults need to get permission from partners to try new styles etc. It’s a perk of being an adult not needing consent from parents.
It's not about permission though in many cases.

I have no issues asking DH his views on things because it's a mutually respectful relationship and I know that he's not going to sulk or be unpleasant if, having talked about it, I choose differently to his preferences. Same in reverse. He asks my thoughts on things but he's totally free to make whatever choice he wants without worrying that I'm going to be stroppy and moody.

I do have huge issues if the situation is a case of getting permission (e.g. husband will sulk, withdraw emotionally, and be unpleasant if his wife changes her hair colour/has a nose piercing, wife refuses any form of intimacy until husband gets rid of his beard because she doesn't like it, which comes up on beard threads on here. Obviously anyone can refuse intimacy and kisses for any reason, that's the nature of consent, but withdrawing it as a weapon because you don't like a small change isn't a healthy dynamic in my opinion).

I disagree about the beard thing. I will not be kissed by a beard because it scratches. It physically impacts on me and our relationship. A piercing doesn't do that

Yes I would. Fortunately he likes them and has some himself. If he had an extremely good reason I may not but not just because he doesn't like it.

Not without further discussion. Some things are just deal breakers and you can’t help how someone feels.

I got my nose pierced a few years ago, DP said he didn’t really like nose piercings. I asked if he would find me less attractive with one, he said no but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like them. So I said I wanted one and if it wasn’t a deal breaker then I’m getting it done. And I did.

However, for example. We both agree eyebrow piercings are deal breakers. I absolutely cannot stand them and I wouldn’t choose to be with someone who has one, but that’s just me and DP’s opinions, so I wouldn’t go off and get an eyebrow piercing if it meant DP found me less attractive with one because I don’t value a piercing over our relationship.