What time does your 12 year old go to bed?

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DS is 12 (13 in may) and I aim for bedtime/lights out at 9:30pm on a school night.

He claims this is too early (yes lots of his mates are still up which I reckon is driving this).

He gets up okish,7:30am wake up.

I know every child is different,my dd (14) needs far less sleep than him.

Interested to hear other 12/13 year old bedtimes.

13 yr old. Phone not allowed in bedroom and is put away between 9pm and 9.30pm he reads and faffs about before he heads up to bed usually around 10pm but sometimes 10.30. He gets up at 7.30. If he goes to bed around 10.30 he is way more tired in morning and sluggish getting ready which puts him under time pressure. He hates being rushed so he knows himself not to stay up late.
Some kids need more sleep then others.

DS 12 goes up to his room around 9-9.30ish, asleep 9.30-10, up between 6-7am.

Any time between 10 and 3.

im serious and no I’m not a bad parent.

dd3 is waiting for a neurological assessment as we’ve suspected since she was two that she has adhd ( I was exactly the same as a child and I have it too)

we’ve got to the stage now that I can’t sleep until I know she is as she wanders round the house. She also has extreme anxiety and ptsd.

we all struggle to sleep in our house. It’s a nightmare

dd still gets up for school though and has near 100 % attendance 🤷‍♀️

Mine is 13 nearly 14 and goes up at 9. He's generally asleep by 9:30 and then the alarm goes off at 6:45.

I expect it's much later when he's at his dad's at the weekend, holidays I might extend to 9:30/10.

Dd is 12.5 and goes to bed at 9 - she’s up again at 6:30 for school and needs all the sleep! They are so young still- she goes up at 8 and reads with in her room until 9-9:20. Weekends anything up to 10:30 but then she sleeps in until 10ish

About 10.30-11

I wish they would go earlier but they won't.

When mine were that age they were in bed at 8.30, lights out at 8.45.
They didn't have a TV etc in their rooms and it was pre mobile phones.

Mine goes to bed at 9 ish and reads, usually till about 10. If I spot her light still on after about 10.15 I stick my head round the door and suggest she goes to sleep. She’s up for school at 6.30.

Heads to bed at 8.30 lights out at 9 can end up as late as 9.30 if he's been doing activities as he's not then tired. Up at 7

Dd in yr7 and she goes up at 8.15 so very early in comparison to most. She reads till about 9 at the latest. She is up for 6am for school. I go to bed earlier than most teens I think! 9.30/10pm is as late as I can manage!

Their wi-fi log-ins close down at 9pm, so they tend to wonder down and we watch an hour of TV together until 10pm, just after sometimes, then they get sent to bed and can read or sleep. Up 7am ish. 12&14.

Intend to keep it like this for as long as we can

13yo, TV off half eight, read until 9. 6.45am start and still difficult to wake up so definitely needs the sleep 😅

Well Me and DH are in bed by 9.30 latest. Him straight asleep. Me scrolling. DC is 12 , he will go upstairs around 8pm to give us a bit of chill time (he's not interested in what we watch ect) he will game, facetime friends, then when we come up tech off, sometimes he will read until 11ish but always gets up nice at 7am

Usually between 9 (if she is very tired) and 10.30 during the week. She has to get up at 7 and doesn't seem tired during the day. I'm missing my evenings in front of the TV because by the time she's upstairs it's too late for me to put anything adult on 😕.

I always see these threads and think surely it depends what time they need to get up in the morning?

My DS is the same age as yours and is in lots of music groups which practice before school so he’s up at 6.50/7am most days to be able to get to school by 7.45. He’s usually asleep before 9.30pm to be able to do this.

in the holidays they can do as they like.

Upto bed at 8pm. Reads until 9pm. In bed asleep probably 9.20pm. Still tired when I wake him at 7.20am.

My DS (12 in April) goes up to bed at 8 on a school night and 10 on weekends and holidays. Gets up at 6:30 school days and about 7:30 weekends. He hasn't yet asked to stay up later so will keep going with it. He listens to an audio book in bed so can listen to that if he isn't quite ready for sleep but usually he goes off fairly swiftly.

Bed at 9.45. Lights out at 10.15 on school nights or 10.45 on holidays and weekends. He has adhd and doesn't sleep though so can often still be awake after midnight.

10pm on a weekday. Weekends doesn't have a bedtime just has his iPad taken off him at 11pm but regularly awake till 2-3am.

He has a sleep disorder that isn't medicated on the weekends (so he doesn't become immune to it).

My 12 y o is an insomniac. Bed time is between 9.30-10 weeknights, but they may easily still be awake at 11 or even 12.
Have to be coaxed to get up at 6.30, but generally all OK.
Weekends I don't bother - go to bed whenever.

As a child (and even now) I would have periods of poor sleep/no sleep. Being sent to bed at 8.30 when I was 11,12,13 really didn't help.

9pm. He’s always been an early riser so is generally up between 5 and 6am. He should really go to bed earlier imo but he understandably doesn’t want to.

My 13yo is the same as yours - upstairs at 9, lights off around 9.30. He definitely needs that much sleep!

I have an 11 year old but hopefully still relevant. It's such tricky territory. I actually go to bed at 9 as I get up early and DD goes around then BUT a lot of the time, I have to wait up til 9.30-10 because she is on the phone to her friends who are also up. If I go to bed, she would probably stay up til midnight or worse. I find the whole thing madness and want to take technology away from her at night with a strict time but she is going through a sensitive time and I really don't want to affect her friendships and exclude her. Her friends also have issues and I'm not sure which came first... technology at night or emotional stuff.

I know Mumsnet is very traditional on these things but I feel 9-9.30 is acceptable.

10.30. We had just this conversation yesterday. I would prefer 9.30. However, he gets up at 5.45 and is doing well at school, so maybe that’s ok for him. Nb his mate (when visiting ours) told me he’s up until 3am. (Likely once on a Saturday, in the holidays. I know his mum.) They spout a lot of bullshit, and the kids believe each other.

DS is 13, and bed time is getting later. At 12 he was in bed by 9 and asleep at 9.30 but he has been pushing it to bed at 9.30 sleep at 10.
to be honest I expected his sleep pattern to change in adolescence, it does for most kids. He is a child who needs a lot of sleep so the 7am starts are beginning to give him trouble. Up till this year he was up at 6am everyday without fail.