Question for those born in December & January!

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Do you like your birthday being in December or January (and around Christmas time)?

We are at the beginning stages of going through fertility treatment. I’m not sure if i’m over thinking things but i’ve been wondering whether it would be best to continue as planned or avoid TTC during the two months which will most likely mean I give birth during December/January.

i’m not even sure it’s ethically or morally ok to avoid certain months! Please let me know your thoughts

If it doesn’t happen straight away for you would it be more difficult to have to wait even longer or more difficult to have a Dec/Jan birthday?

I have a December birthday and two of my children have a December birthday - one on Christmas Eve. December birthdays aren't great (difficult to arrange children's parties in such a busy month, children get all their presents in one go etc) but it wouldn't put me off at all.

I love it! December here, just a few days after Christmas. Everyone is happy & cheery, people are usually at home for my mini birthday party, I'm still in the Christmas/holiday off and both me and DH are off from work as our workplaces close during christmas until January.

My birthday is late January. It gives me something to look forward to after the dark days post Christmas.
People are starting to get paid so it's good to celebrate.
I was nearly born on boxing day but don't think I would have liked that.

Have a January birthday AND went through assisted conception. While I wouldn't active choose a birthday at this time of year, such preoccupations quickly get submerged by the importance and difficulties of having a baby at all. I wouldn't sweat it, and just focus on staying healthy and giving yourself the best chance of conceiving your child. Good luck!

Don't lose months for silly reasons like this!

My husband and youngest are middle and end of jan, eldest is beginning of Feb. They generally get presents for Christmas, and money for their birthdays. Perfect

All my family are December and January birthdays. We love it. It makes December a magical month for us lots of celebrations. Then when everything is a bit flat after Christmas we have the January birthday celebrations to cheer us up.

Nope hate it. Nothing ever opened, no change of a real birthday cake or party. Lucky if I get a text on my bday as everyone is just to consumed by Christmas stuff.

I hate it. My birthday is early Jan. Everyone is broke, doesn't want to meet up, doing dry January and really doesn't want to do anything. I feel lonely and unloved every year.

I have a January birthday and it's rubbish. No one wants to do anything because they're skint after Christmas. And it's cold and dark which limits what you can do anyway (unless you live in the S. Hemisphere!)

But as someone who went through several (unsuccessful) rounds of fertility treatment and is now coming to terms with never being a parent, I'd say the birth month doesn't fucking matter if you get the outcome you're hoping for. Don't wait, just go for it. Good luck.

I like having a January birthday - always get good deals on hotels and restaurants post Xmas!

I do and it’s absolutely fine. As a child a couple of weeks away from Christmas feels a lifetime anyway, as an adult I couldn’t care less. The only time I would try to avoid would be a August birthday due to schooling but that’s not the end of the world either. Good luck

It doesn't bother me much other than the weather is usually rubbish but at least that's a given. Better than planning nice summer plans for a July birthday for it to rain and be a washout!

I’m not a fan. Too dark and cold to do anything fun, everyone is skint and burnt out because of Christmas, plus you get joint birthday and Christmas presents even as a child from some relatives, if you even got one at all. It’s not so bad as an adult, but it would have been nice to have an outdoors birthday party just once.

Love it, never went to school or worked on my birthday as irs so close to crimbo, and everyone remembers the date ,it’s fab.

My DS has an early December birthday (unplanned pregnancy as I think I’d have had similar concerns about being close to Christmas if I had been planning) . I love Christmas so the start of festivities beginning with his birthday feels lovely. It is a little awkward that he gets all his gifts in a short span of time, unlike his summer-born sibling but I imagine that will be less of an issue as he gets older. I do think being in the older half of his school cohort will be a benefit, his sister was 6 weeks past her 4th birthday when she started whereas DS will be 4y9m when he starts.

I like it. Mine is a few days after Christmas. It takes the edge off the post-Christmas blues, and I often get a clear, crisp sunny day (as I did this year). Some friends forget the day, but the important people remember as they get reminded.

Just a note OP, I tried to do that with ds2, we worked out the dates and realised we would conceive a Christmas baby so we used protection for a few months, then when dates worked out to Feb, tried again. I conceived straightaway, then Ds was premature 🤦‍♀️

I have an early Jan birthday. It’s not the best for parties BUT it is a massive advantage being one of the older ones in the year, which is tbh more important than the ability to have a sunny birthday party. Nothing to stop you having an “official” birthday later in the year which is what I did as a kid. If I was going to avoid months I’d avoid July and August.

If you have challenges with fertility and want a child then just go focus on overcoming that, don't put extra barriers in the way.

My son is a January baby, it's not the month I would have chosen but it doesn't matter.

My birthday is a few days before Christmas. Love it as everyone is in the party mode. Your child will know no different

I'm mid December and I wouldn't choose it - people are too busy with Christmas plans to meet up, as a child and an adult. Also I'm pretty outdoorsy and the weather is usually rubbish and dark. Neither of my children have a midwinter birthday.

However, I'd much rather I (and they) were here than not so if you have any complicating factors (e.g. age) then I'd say don't wait. There will always be some disadvantage whatever time of year! A friend hates their May birthday as it's often the FA Cup final and their team isn't playing 🤷‍♂️ you can't win! (Neither can their team 🤣)

As a child I always liked the fact that at my birthday parties when it came to cake time which would probably be about 5pm, all the lights would be turned off and the cake with lighted candles would be carried in and placed on the table in front of me, then Happy Birthday would be sung by candlelight before I blew the candles out. My summer born friends would try to do the same by drawing all the curtains but it would still be too light to get the same affect. I believed this made my parties superior over theirs.

Me to @Stepuptowardsinfinity
Shall we have our own party?

I promise to buy you a present not regift some shit from Christmas.

Im end of November and my daughter is very early January and yes it is a bit naff all the celebrations are together but after 4 years of infertility we couldnt have dreamt of delaying just in case of a tricky birthday