Is it rude to read someone's wall calendar?

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I have a friend who does this.
She will always stand by it in the kitchen and read it.

It doesn't usually bother me but I have a private appointment noted down and I purposely wrote it in small. I noticed she leaned in closer to read that one.

Is it rude to read someone's calendar or should I be keeping private appointments in a diary or something?

Yes. To deliberately read it as you describe is rude IMO.

It's on open display in your house and she (presumably) is an invited guest. If you don't want people to see things, keep them out of view.

Yes! I always hang mine so only the front cover is showing if I have people over.

I guess so but I don’t use a calendar as I wouldn’t want people reading it.

I think it is rude to actively read it like you describe but obviously as it's on your wall there's always a chance it will be read. I would have written 9:15 appointment or initials though for something very personal.

I also think it’s rude but I guess if it’s on your wall in an open space (eg your kitchen as mine is) then it’s likely to happen.

I rarely have people other than my family round but my mum will sometimes have a look so I just don’t put anything too personal on there and save that for my phone calendar that only I can see. The wall calendar is mostly for family things.

I think if you’ve displayed anything (such as a calendar) then don’t blame people for looking at them.

It wouldn’t occur to me to add anything more personal than ‘Dr Appt’.

Unless she is going through your drawers as well, this is on you.

I can't say I would deliberately do it, but I wouldn't care who read mine if I had one

If I am bored waiting for someone to get ready I may look atcthe page i can see without thinking about it

But if I didn't want anyone to read I would not have it easy to see

It's on display, what do you expect?

If you want it to be private then buy a diary.

Not necessarily rude.

Some people would be more subtle about it but you've left a calendar on the wall with your appointments on in a space you invite people into.

If you don't want people knowing private details then write them down somewhere private!

This is why I use a diary

My PIL have been known to write on mine when they were alone in our house. Pissed me right off to be honest. It's not a diary but it's still fairly private.

I’d have some fun with this the next time she comes.

‘Tues - Swingers’ Party’
’Fri - Bondage sesh - remember bring lube’
’Sat - Morris Dancing Auditions’

Not rude if it’s open on your wall. Same as Christmas cards put out on the mantelpiece, or a planner left open, or a bill/official letter chucked on the side. You’re not allowed to flip it over to read the next month, or unfold the letter, but whomst among us doesn’t enjoy a good nose?

Of course it's rude. Just because it's on display doesn't mean someone should read it. I had a delivery driver once comment on something on my wall calendar! I don't tend to put details anymore on my calendar anymore just the bare minimum to help me remember I have something on.

Yes it's rude. I had a friend do this, so now I put basic information e.g. Dr's app instead of smear!

@DuncanBiscuits

😂😂.

To glance isnt rude. To lean in and stare is.

I hang mine with the cover at the front because people are nosy.

Maybe it is. Just realised I do this at my friend's house! Never really thought about it...

Yes - it’s very rude to give it more than a cursory glance.
Its on display on a ‘need to know basis’ - it’s not in the same league as a framed picture/photo.
Surely, in your own home, it’s acceptable to have things that are of a functional nature and not for general consumption.
Not sure why anyone is trying to suggest otherwise.

She might have been bored if she's reading your calendar. Bit awkward, yes.

Just close it to the front cover when people come over

Add a few spicy things.

It’s rude.

Not different to me than making a point to read a letter left on the table.

I'm amazed by the people who say they turn their calendar to the front cover when they have people over!!