Is it rude to read someone's wall calendar?

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I have a friend who does this.
She will always stand by it in the kitchen and read it.

It doesn't usually bother me but I have a private appointment noted down and I purposely wrote it in small. I noticed she leaned in closer to read that one.

Is it rude to read someone's calendar or should I be keeping private appointments in a diary or something?

No that being nozy instead.

I always read my mums. But then I also go straight to the fridge upon arrival, followed by a good rummage in the treat cupboard.

I wouldn't do any of the above at a friends house!

Yes, but I'm nosy so I'd probably do it too

If it's open in a public (to invited guests) space then I would not consider it rude. In your bedroom, yes, closed calendar/diary, yes. I use abbreviations or am often vague anyway as I know what I mean.

I think it’s rude. It may be on display but it’s obvious it’s not for there for random public consumption. I wouldn’t read someone’s bill or letter because it was left out and I wouldn’t read someone’s wall calendar.

Very rude.

Definitely rude.

I’m amazed that so many people use paper calendars still as I don’t know anyone that does! I guess it explains the novelty calendar stand in our shopping centre every Christmas. We use a shared google family calendar.

That said, I would find it a bit rude if a friend went through my digital calendar. However, if it’s openly on display then you’re sort of making it easy for the nosy folk amongst us. I’d suggest putting it somewhere less obvious if you don’t want people reading through it.

Yes I think it is. Ditto with letters or similar stuck to the fridge with a magnet (which we don't do but I know several people who do).

I’m amazed that so many people use paper calendars still as I don’t know anyone that does! I guess it explains the novelty calendar stand in our shopping centre every Christmas. We use a shared google family calendar

We have a Family Organiser calendar in the kitchen - the type with 5 columns, one per person. Our whole life is on it, every activity, appointment, annual leave, school dates, everything.

It has to be literally staring us all in the face every day or shit would definitely get forgotten!

Depends how close you are.
I have a friend who adds silly things to my calendar when I'm not looking. It doesn't bother me.
If I had a friend who was using it to keep tabs of me though then maybe I would be bothered and would hide it/not have them round!

Yes! My friend does this and it's so rude! Then will ask about nights out I have on there etc;

I personally find the reminder notifications on my phone and smart watch more useful but we’re all different.

Absolutely this.

Keep your private appointments of the visible to visitors calendar.

Unless you've categorically asked her and other visitors to not look at your calendar, and they still do, YABU and a bit odd. Your calendar is on open display.

This. I remember the first thing you used to do with other people's calendars and diaries was write "Edith's birthday, must remember to buy lots of presents"

I can understand glancing over it if you near by but making such an effort is rude.
I write only basic info into our wall calendar for this reason and always go and check that there are no bills, appointment letters etc on view around the house if I’m expecting guests.

Yes it’s rude but I still do it!
Mainly to see what I’ve been put on there as tho

I have a kitchen calendar/planner and a diary on my phone-amazing . The calendar in the kitchen the whole family writes on. I don't want other people's appointments on my phone (we're all adults) but we can see each other's work schedules etc if we need to, or if anyone is going away and when they are due back.

Yes it's rude. I moved back to a paper calendar and it really helped my memory. The action of writing helps set in the memory whereas previously I was relying on my phone to notify me of things and couldn't remember anything.

Er, me.

I have a friend who leaves bank statements and credit card bills amongst other things on his kitchen table.

I can't help but see the letter head if he invites me to sit down but I always cover it with something so I can't accidentally catch sight of more.

Yeah I think it's rude to make a point of reading it in the way you describe. I'll often look at someone's calendar but more because I am interested in the picture than any of the appointments... maybe I need to make sure I comment on the picture in future to clarify!

Nosy, but not rude, IMO.

This ^
I'd start writing anal whitening , SAS top secret analysis meeting, genital warts removal @9.20

Yes, it is rude.

But I know nosey MIL people who would then ask me what it's about.

But I prefer a diary. Wall calendar I'll just block out days when I'm busy.