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Ever slapped someone across the face?

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HaroldInTheDogBowl · 07/01/2023 21:58

Settled down to Midsomer Murders on the telly and there was a scene of a bickering couple which ended with the woman slapping the poor chap across the face.

Anyone actually had a go IRL?!

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loopyloutoo · 08/01/2023 06:38

I do find it a bit weird that violence like this from woman to man or woman to woman can be deemed justifiable. If the tables were turned etc.?
It's odd to me how nobody has really mentioned that?
I had an emotionally abusive ex and I nearly did it but I didn't. The look on his face when he knew that that was my intention was enough to make me think gosh - what am I doing?! And he was an arsehole no doubt about it.

torquewench · 08/01/2023 06:43

Could you clarify whether you mean violence in retaliation to men putting their hands in unwanted places or violence as a result of the "fight or flight" instinct?

SnitterBug · 08/01/2023 06:57

Many years ago punched a colleague in the face for grabbing my boobs . Made his nose bleed and nothing came of it and yes I would do it again .

Goosefatroasts · 08/01/2023 08:56

@torquewench

For me if was flight or fight. Long story but a woman punched me on a night out due to mistake identify apparently? I was just minding my own business getting on with my own night. No alcohol as I had a flight the next day (she was drunk though). I punched her almost immediately back and I’m not a violent person.

Her nose was pouring with blood and it didn’t go further than that. My hand was sore afterwards and I had a pair of broken glasses which was incredibly annoying.

ThisIsWhyWeCantHaveNiceThings · 08/01/2023 11:09

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 07/01/2023 22:09

Yes. Some random bloke grabbed my arse in a bar

Same. When I was younger, I couldn't walk through a club/bar without some prick thinking he could grope me. I've slapped loads of them. Looking back, it was probably stupid, anything could have happened to me. But it really pissed me off. I hated it.

SnoozyLucy7 · 08/01/2023 11:31

I definitely think to slap some one, in self defence, is acceptable. But I think that generally speaking some how it’s more acceptable for a woman to hit a man, but not for a man to hit a woman. You still hear kids being taught that “boys never hit girls”. I once witnessed a woman slap her partner, during an argument. She really went for him. After the 3rd slap he retaliated with a slap - the entire room lost their minds because the “man should never hit the woman”. Poor guy, he was just defending himself, and she would slap him quite a bit and he was expected just to take it. Such a crap mentality. No one should be hitting any one.

StrictlyAFemaleFemale · 08/01/2023 12:15

Yes we were at school and demonstrating a stage slap. Or so I thought!😁Sorry Vicky!

Bionesque · 08/01/2023 12:48

But I think that generally speaking some how it’s more acceptable for a woman to hit a man, but not for a man to hit a woman.

Almost certainly because a man can kill a woman with one blow.

Eightiesgirl · 08/01/2023 13:04

No, but when I was at high school in the eighties a very famous sportsman's wife was our PE teacher and I was shocked to witness her slap a pupil across the face for talking. We'd been stood round in a group whilst another PE teacher was giving us instructions, when the sportsman's wife's hand suddenly shot out and slapped this poor girl across the face. She had long red nails and was covered in gold rings so she could have seriously hurt her. She was always very nice to me!

SnoozyLucy7 · 08/01/2023 13:27

Bionesque · 08/01/2023 12:48

But I think that generally speaking some how it’s more acceptable for a woman to hit a man, but not for a man to hit a woman.

Almost certainly because a man can kill a woman with one blow.

Yes, I have no doubts about that. But it shouldn’t be acceptable for a woman to be hitting a man. In self defence yes, but otherwise it should be just as unacceptable. That’s why so much woman on man domestic violence is under reported, because the victims feel they will not be taken seriously.

SnoozyLucy7 · 08/01/2023 13:28

Eightiesgirl · 08/01/2023 13:04

No, but when I was at high school in the eighties a very famous sportsman's wife was our PE teacher and I was shocked to witness her slap a pupil across the face for talking. We'd been stood round in a group whilst another PE teacher was giving us instructions, when the sportsman's wife's hand suddenly shot out and slapped this poor girl across the face. She had long red nails and was covered in gold rings so she could have seriously hurt her. She was always very nice to me!

Awful. Well that was just outright assault.

Eightiesgirl · 08/01/2023 13:31

@SnoozyLucy7 Yes I totally agree but in those days teachers could hit/cane kids and get away with it. Times have changed thank goodness.

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HaroldInTheDogBowl · 08/01/2023 13:34

I'm surprised how many people have said yes to this.

And yes, saddened to hear about the circumstances too.

I thought the responses to my initial post were going to be along the lines of 'don't be silly, how old fashioned'.

I wouldn't have the bottle, even if I did have an unwanted hand up my skirt. I would simply push the hand away and give them a stern look and walk away! If it was more serious then in defence I'd have to retaliate more forcefully though more than a slap

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Deathraystare · 08/01/2023 13:40

No. I am actually quite well restrained. Anyway, they might slap me back. However I am lucky that no one has attacked me (tough wood) or been really in my face offensive...

Insaneinthemembraneee · 08/01/2023 13:40

MyWillyBrokeTheDogBowl · 07/01/2023 22:07

No but my brother grabbed me by the collar and broke my necklace 😔

😂😂😂

NeverDropYourMooncup · 08/01/2023 14:02

Once when I was 11 - a girl was having a go at me in the school playground with her friends and went to rake her claws (she had inch long nails that she filed into points) across my face. I knew that was what was coming as she did it frequently to others.

As I'd grown up being regularly battered, I knew on some level that she wasn't actually going to achieve anything other than possibly scarring me for life, but had clearly never been on the receiving end of retaliation/self defence from her usual victims, as she was completely unguarded on her left side. Instead of punching or pushing her (as that would have put my face even closer to damage), I did a full on, back and shoulder into it, bodyweight swing and got her perfectly across the cheek.

The shock in her eyes and the bright red flushing on her cheek just before she ran off howling was quite something. I didn't even get questioned about it by the teachers, so I guess either somebody saw it all happen or they were told by the other kids why I'd done it.

She came back to school after the weekend with her nails all cut down.

I've been slapped and it stings, but as long as your ear isn't caught with full force, it can't actually hurt you. My automatic response is rage, not upset. Being roundhouse kicked so that it lands like a slap really, really stings (it was a training accident), but even that just made me angry - because I knew it was an accident, I walked stormed off and practically took the doors off the gym as I went to get myself under control.

I would never slap a man, as that would be completely ineffective and end up with me in hospital - the only way to deal with somebody that much bigger and stronger is to be far more aggressive if you can't run away immediately - to give you space to run for your life. So I've sent a few flying in my time.

In short, don't slap if you're in danger. Evade and run.

Eightiesgirl · 08/01/2023 14:06

@NeverDropYourMooncup I am so sorry to hear that you were battered as a child. I hope you are safe and happy now and far away from whoever battered you when you were growing up. Flowers

NeverDropYourMooncup · 08/01/2023 14:18

Eightiesgirl · 08/01/2023 14:06

@NeverDropYourMooncup I am so sorry to hear that you were battered as a child. I hope you are safe and happy now and far away from whoever battered you when you were growing up. Flowers

Yup, NC and also safely away from the others who followed her into my life because they never seemed quite as bad as her, thank you.

Ended up with the soppiest bloke - he's currently at the other end of the sofa draped with cats, one of whom is rubbing her chin all over the corner of his phone as he's trying to watch something and he's just ignoring it. ❤

AlwaysCountYourPennies · 08/01/2023 14:44

Once.........my exdh

He had just told me about OW he was in tears and said "she makes me laugh"
I slapped him hard and said "well you are not fucking laughing now"

I never swear and this is the only time I have ever lost it and hit someone.

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 08/01/2023 20:59

Yes. I'd split up with Ex but we were still living in the same house while I waited for the sale of the flat I's bought to go through.

He'd been sleeping in the 2nd bedroom. One night he came home drunk and came into where I was sleeping wanting sex. I was furious! He had broken my heart and thought I was so desperate for him that I'd shag him. Oh boy was he wrong. I slapped him so hard across the face he saw stars. I'll never forget the look on his face. He looked shocked, ashamed and puzzled all in one. He knew how much he'd hurt me and was convinced I'd let him have sex. Wrong!

It took me years to get over him but I'm so glad I had my pride and didn't have sex with the cheating scum ever again.

TeeBee · 08/01/2023 21:01

No. Punched plenty though. If you're going to hit someone, do it properly.

MissingMoominMamma · 08/01/2023 21:03

I punched a colleague in the face, after he grabbed my chest from behind whilst I was bending over.

Peter73 · 28/04/2024 10:14

Yes, my wife slapped me last year. There was a huge crisis in our marriage, but two months later we could sort it out. In the end, we reconciled and kissed each other passionately, but just after that long kiss she slapped me across my face. As my eyes were shut, I didn't see that coming. "You deserved it", she said, as I stood there with her handprint on my left cheek.
I still love her, anyway :P

DitzyDoughnutt · 28/04/2024 11:18

I almost slapped a woman at work who told me the baby I had just lost wasn't a baby just a blob of cells . If I hadn't needed the job she would have got slapped with force

Crushed23 · 28/04/2024 11:20

Other than silly sibling fights when we were younger, I have never been violent towards someone.

I can’t even imagine it.

But who knows what I am capable of if I had to physically defend myself.