How do monologuers keep thinking of things to say?

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I don't mean any offence by this but I've come across quite a few people in my time who are happy to simply talk at you, going into great detail about their lives and opinions, rather than converse. Many are aware of this. I've got better at politely not entertaining it but it still occurs sometimes.

My mum is one, a woman I work with occasionally is another to an extreme extent. As in, I knew about her menstrual cycle, contraception usage, travel history, marital issues, sons health, husband's career, neighbours etc etc before I think she had even remembered my name. She just didn't stop.

Today, my mum rang to ask me how my holiday to Italy was with my partner who is from there. Within 2 minutes, she had launched into a detailed account of a coach trip she took years ago in a totally different part of the country.

It has got me wondering how people like this keep thinking of stuff to say and why others' input is so unimportant to them.

Honestly this isn't a critical post of enthusiastic talkers, I am genuinely interested! If you have any insight, I would be so interested to hear it.

I think if you're in this thread saying "I do this!" then you are probably just a bit longwinded - rather than a monologuer - as you are showing too much selfawareness and concern for other people to be a true monologuer.

I'd agree with this. The monologuer I'm thinking of wouldn't be able to conceptualise the idea that people might think he's a tedious dickhead.

Stars don’t need input, just an audience.

@SaturdayGiraffe has summed it up beautifully

Some I've spoken to seem aware, possibly because they've been told before.

My mum regularly says 'oh, I do rattle on' or similar, after killing the conversation with a long monologue about nothing. Or quite defensively sometimes, as though it's an endearing trait. The extreme woman mentioned said 'my husband says I always talk at people', but then proceeded to continue. This was after everyone else was sat stunned after she had delved into the depths of her marriage with near strangers. The one with anxiety said something about how when she tries to empathise, she can only ever think to give her own equivalent stories. So I think some are aware, they just genuinely don't care enough about other people's feelings or contributions to attempt to change.

I have a monologuer in my life, her whole family are chatter boxes who can and do converse, and are not repetitive, but she is exhausting.
Also constantly negative, to the point I sometimes end up going home in tears at times after an hour long session of repetitive moaning.
If I suggest a solution to whatever that days problem is she'll either say she's tried that and it didn't work, or completely change the subject to a different problem and come back to her original moan at a later time.
If I manage to get a word in, she'll maybe say I've already told her that, or listen for 5 seconds and that will remind her of something else she needs to moan about.
To coin a phrase "she's never as happy as when she's missed the last bus home".

This is my mum. She talks at me constantly. Even if I do try and make a comment she just talks over me. Then when she’s eventually finished and my head is still spinning from it all she will bark at me. “Well don’t you know anything then, haven’t you got any news!” But there is no point me trying to share anything as she will only allow me about one sentence before starting about herself again!
It is sad really because I actually dread seeing her now. She didn’t used to be like this, it’s only been since my Dad passed away a few years ago.

My husband's aunt narrates. The entire dinner menu, including all extra ingredients and what she thinks about those ingredients, the exacts details and box instructions of every present opened on Christmas day, plus what she thinks of it, plus questions about why you chose that for her...

It always takes fucking hours to do gift opening.