How important is it to you what you look?

[Worriedagainmum]

In terms of appearance etc

personally I am quite vain in terms of what I use on my face and skin but I'm too lazy to exercise and I only wear nice clothes if I'm going out somewhere special.

What about you, @Worriedagainmum ?

It was really important to me and my well-being until I started having health problems and aging

wish I was wasn’t as bothered about looks as I am
but I know when you look good people are nicer to you

Vain but lazy. I was naturally attractive when young and was not used to making much effort. Now that I am a bit older, I realise I need to up my game slightly, but not interested in spending hours of my time. I use a good day and night moisturiser, use sunblock, an anti aging serum, and spend 1.30mins a day applying concealer and lipstick. That is it, oh and brush my hair.

I laugh at women 20+ years younger than me, running between back to back appointments for hair/nails/brows/feet/botox/facials/fillers etc.
They are literally wasting their youth. It should be carefree and smug, that none of that needs doing because they have youth! They say youth is wasted on the young and that saying is never truer than with today's current generation.

I laugh at women 20+ years younger than me, running between back to back appointments for hair/nails/brows/feet/botox/facials/fillers etc.
They are literally wasting their youth. It should be carefree and smug,
Well laughing at them is a bit harsh. Some of us, even with youth on our side would never be described as 'naturally attractive', what is the harm in getting a little bit of help? If it gives them a boost I say fair play to them!
I have kids now and can't afford to get beauty treatments but if I had the disposable income I would definitely be getting a few things done!

People worth associating with are nice to you no matter what you look like.

I don’t give much thought to what I look like, apart from basic hygiene.

don't care... assume I'm plain at very best or maybe ugly so I don't look in mirror. DC & my parents don't like how I look much, shame they are bothered but they are bothered, I'm not bothered. They can own what they dislike.

It matters a lot to me. I'm naturally attractive I guess but I work out, buy nice clothes, have a skin care regime, style my hair and wear make up if I'm going out and seeing people and to work, I get my nails done, eyebrows threaded and tinted... I'm considering Botox at some point. Im in my early 40s but good genes mean I haven't needed it yet.

I am not going to lie. I take care of my appearance. I do my hair, wear makeup and get my nails done.
I did the same thing even when my dcs were young and I had a full time professional job.
I work from home most days so I tend to wear leggings and hoodies. However, when I go out I like to make an effort

I like to look a good version of myself but not can’t be bothered to look the best version.

I don't necessarily think looking nice means people are nicer to you to be honest. Unless you class inappropriate comments and gazes from some random men as "nice". I look young for my age, am slim, and conventionally "good looking", but it definitely doesn't bring positive attention. Infact so much so the opposite, these days I actually hide my figure under baggy clothes and don't do my hair, or nice makeup for work as I was so sick of it. If I have a friendly conversation with a man, I instantly have colleagues telling me I was "flirting" or "he fancies you" etc, and it's actually really depressing being made to feel like I'm only worthy of anyone's conversation, because of how I look. I've had men who's partners have given me disgusted looks while stood there, and one woman actually called me a "slut" while I was at work, because her husband looked at me! Definitely don't go looking for attention from men, I'm happily married with children, so it really upsets me when I'm made to feel wrong, for literally standing there doing my job. Some young blokes shouted "f**king hell, look at that!" When I was walking to my office one day, and I felt genuinely anxious and sat there in tears afterwards. I would much rather blend into the background, and just be free to get on with my day without feeling glared at, as it causes huge anxiety and stress.

but I know when you look good people are nicer to you

Not my experience.

People worth associating with are nice to you no matter what you look like.
I don’t give much thought to what I look like, apart from basic hygiene.

I agree with this.

I just mean random people around like in the supermarket more people will smile at you chat to you etc

I care even less about the attention of random passers-by.

I like to be well groomed and well dressed if I'm out meeting someone. It gives me confidence and makes me feel good.

At home, I'll happily spend the day weeding and caked in mud.

I don't care at all. I'm old now but was never bothered when I had youth and looks. Never look in a mirror apart from to put a brush through my hair once a day, never wear makeup. I like clothes but don't care about fashion.
I notice when some people glance in every mirror they pass, don't understand vanity.

Studies have shown people are (generally) nicer to more attractive people. People may not have experienced this personally but it doesn't mean it's not true.

But nobody needs Botox.

As long as I’m clean and tidy I don’t really care that much.
I usually get my hair and nails done regularly and have a good skincare routine. I look ok (I think). Always looked younger thanks to oily skin (not always a blessing!)

I'm middle aged, never been vain but try to be well groomed, natural makeup when going out, and wear clothes that suit me rather than what is 'fashionable'. I am amazed at all the perfectly nice looking young women who go to such lengths and expense to look like blowup dolls/identikit airheads with the duckface pouts I know there are trends in makeup but it's all gone bonkers IMO.

I was attractive when younger so do feel it when I don't bother now. Every day I will put on basic 3 min makeup, style hair in an up do and wear classic clothes with one coloured item and some jewelry. Am pondering botox but feel actually most of my loss of looks is weight related so need to get back to fasting but can't be arsed right now.

I care much less now I'm in my 40s and I like myself much more.

I'm also much less judgemental and less likely to make assumptions about other people too.

Very vain

Really really vain

It's just what they define as attractive that is sometimes the question !

I like to look clean and sane, and when I’m in a good mood, friendly. I look in the mirror to check hair hasn’t gone wild and I don’t have spinach in my teeth. I think I look like a “normal” person. I eat healthily, exercise and wash, and wear clothes that fit and don’t have holes in and don’t attract attention.