Have you ever fancied/ become attracted to someone with a facial disfigurement or is that something that would put you off ?

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Absolutely no judgment on this what so ever at all so be as honest as you like. Have you ever fancied someone or gotten to know someone that has become really attractive if they have some kind of facial difference. Does some one you know have an amazing personality that outshines their disfigurement?

I'm a single male so I'm intrigued at the answers

I have a friend who was left with some permanent facial damage after Bell’s Palsy, he has had several girlfriends since.

I would say in quite a shallow manner that I have never dated or been in a relationship with anyone who wasn’t very attractive or had a disfigurement or disability.

BUT I once met Simon Weston and he was absolutely lovely and I was so charmed that if he had been single and I had been single and he had shown an interest I would definitely gone on a date and seen how it progressed. He has a lot of charisma which I found very attractive.

My first serious boyfriend (from age 16-20) had a large port wine stain on one side of his face.

We’d been friends since we were 14 and he’s just such a lovely person that it wouldn’t have mattered if he’d had two heads. You get used to things and don’t notice them as much.

We are still good. friends in our 40s and he’s was always very popular with women until he met his lovely wife a decade ago. He’s funny, generous and very, very kind. He’s got all the things that matter, so why would a port wine stain make any difference to that.

I really believe that attractiveness is something that grows/diminishes with interaction.

I have met handsome men whose personalities have hindered their attractiveness and vice versa.

Style, wit, intellect are the real package imo.

@SleepyCatOnTheLap similar to Beric Dondarrion in GoT. I could listen to him for hours.

Loving hearing all your thoughts/ stories thanks for taking the time to reply

I fancied a man once who had a pretty bad facial disfigurement. His skin was smooth and unblemished but it looked like the side of his cheek/jaw had been squished in. After a period of time I asked him nicely what made it like that? He said his mum had been sick whilst he was in the womb and he was born like it. What attracted me to him though was his nice respectful manners, so yes, it's perfectly possible to be attracted to someone like this. Women will overlook all sorts if the inner soul is nice. I guess men are the same. The people who might comment negatively on it aren't the ones you'd want to be with anyway.

& as others have said, some very handsome men act like jerks.

I become attracted to people as I get to know them, and a facial disfigurement wouldn't put me off.

I've previously dated people with minor facial differences such as repaired cleft lip and palate, wonky lazy eyes, very disorganised teeth, my current partner has a very interesting standalone face that's hard to describe.

I do have prosopagnosia (face blindness) and my history of choice of long term partners demonstrates a possible level of attraction to people with faces that I find easier to pick out in a crowd.

I am not put off dating someone who has a facial difference, I've also found several people with treacher collins to look attractive - I'm more about the person than the gender or physical features, but my sub conscious definitely pushes me towards less conventional looking people.

Me too. He’s gorgeous.

I think it depends how that person carries themselves. Male or female if they carries themselves with a woe is me attitude I wouldn’t consider it, that being said for anyone with or without any physical disfigurement or disability. Confidence is sexy in both sexes

I agree. I once had a huge crush on a very handsome man, but then one evening I went out with him in a group to the pub as he was part of my friendship circle.
He wasn’t very clever, he was immature, and a bit annoying -crush instantly dissolved !
I knew someone as a teenager who my friend said she found very attractive. I had only seen this man from a distance. I was a shallow 19 year old who liked thin, elegant young men. This man was older than us, not tall, definitely stout, and called Nigel. What on earth is the appeal I thought ?
Then one day my friend and I bumped into him and she introduced him. Wow ! He was so charismatic. He was charming but not in a fake way, very funny and clever, beautifully dressed and interesting. Every one of my friends who met him thought he was gorgeous, yet in a photograph he wouldn’t have been especially attractive at all.

Thank you for starting this thread op.

I have a slight facial ‘difference’ - in my case it is eyes (different colours). I am also recently divorced and would like to start dating again.

but - nervous of making an online ‘profile’ because of this. And don’t think I’m tough enough to withstand rejection because of it.

finding the replies on this thread heartening. So thank you and good luck!

Very interesting thread. Afraid I've nothing useful to add only I hope you meet mrs right one day. 26 is young also

I have one and have been dated and am now married. Have you discovered the Changing Faces charity OP? If not it has all sorts of handy factsheets.

@Wonderifitsme thank you for your kind words. It's funny how there's so many people living with differences but we are to afraid to talk about it. I want to wish you all the luck in the world , and for what it's worth I totally fancy the pants of that famous actress with the different colour eyes so you'd be up there in my books lol

Is it Bell's palsy? Cos I thought that's only temporary not a long term disability?

Is the op collecting data /public opinion for a survey ???

I have a scar on my face under my nose where I was bitten by a dog when I was 3. My wife says she hardly notices it.
When I was at school I had a crush on the sister of a classmate, she had a "port wine" type birthmark on her face (is naevus the correct term?) she was beautiful, it was just part of who she was.
I'm a bloke for clarity.

@quackquackwoof while
It's not Bell's palsy that's the look
That I have ( if that makes sense)

It’s humour and intelligence that attract me. I am rarely attracted to people because of their looks.

@Kriskristoffifee nope, genuine bloke here!

I spent two years with a woman with a huge scar from forehead, cheek, to chin. Take the scar away and she'd be the most conventionally attractive person I ever went out with. I fancied the crap out of her from the moment I met her, and the splitting up had nothing to do with how she looked.

A good female friend of mine is married to man who is missing an ear and a good chunk his nose. Met him after the accident, he made her laugh within seconds of meeting her and she was besotted with him from that moment

I don't think it's a facial difference but for some reason I'm attracted to men with big/bucked teeth! No idea why.