Just wanting perspective.
FIL (ex) to whom I was very close.
He has since passed away but my ex didn’t tell me, he had quite a prolific career and extensive travelled past - part of his ‘history’ included a v expensive (at the time) watch.
His son (my ex) always wanted the watch but his Father would never give it to him - anyway over the years we had 3 sons - Grandad promised the watch to the eldest grandson, managed to get hold of a very similar watch for second grandson which he allowed his son to wear until grandson would be old enough to have it - 3rd grandson arrived -grandad has dementia and no thought about watches for him as his own father wasn’t even bothered with him - yet dementia ridden grandad adores him.
So, me and the children’s father split up.
He quite literally left me in lots of debt etc etc and emptied the house of anything valuable including my jewellery.
However, I discover that somehow he’d managed to take the watch (the original one from his father) and he left it hidden !!!
He has never said anything about it I presume he doesn’t know where it is - however going with Grandads wishes the watch now belongs to my adult eldest son to whom it was promised.
however
eldest son for whatever reason, perhaps having lived with a narcissistic father, perhaps he himself having narcissist tendencies has not behaved very well - lots has since happened and unfortunately he no longer chooses to speak to me or his younger brother (I don’t want to bad mouth him and I hope one day it will reconcile, however he is prone to financial abuse and emotional
abuse very similar to his father)
well here’s the crux …… I’ve got the bloody watch - what do I do with it??
wait until one day he returns (he is abroad) although he doesn’t know I have it.
or
give it to youngest son??
middle son is also estranged and in contact with his Dad who has told him he gets his watch when he dies (when the dad dies the son inherits the watch).