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Original poster

Please help - Scared for my daughter

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Bepis · 31/12/2022 04:33

My daughter is 18 years old but she has special needs so is a lot younger in her mind. She has suffered with anxiety for the past 5 years or so, to the point where it stopped her attending school and she had to be under CAMHS. Her anxiety was mainly around people she didn't know and new situations.

The past couple of weeks have become so difficult and I just don't know what to do or where to turn.

I noticed her hearing things and she would say to me that her stepbrother swore, or I swore etc when that never happened. That went on for a while but now she is panicking if her sister is on the phone. Her sister will talk to her boyfriend in the evening in her room (they have separate rooms) but my eldest daughter is just flat out panicking about it and refuses to go upstairs. When I finally get her into her bedroom, she will not get in bed but just sits on her bed until 7/8 in the morning.

I tried laying with her this morning so she would get some sleep and she managed an hour or 2.

She's also started putting her fingers in her ears whenever someone talks. Not in a rude way but it's become a reaction. This is within the last couple of days.

She says she can hear her sister talking on the phone at 5/6/7 in the morning despite her sister being fast asleep.

She is also zoned out (I can't think of a better way to describe it). Like when I talk, it's like she doesn't understand me. She's also started whispering instead of using her real voice and is even starting to become non-verbal.

I'm so scared, I don't know what's wrong with her and I don't understand.

I took her to the doctors today and they prescribed Sertraline. She had her first tablet tonight. This seems like more than just anxiety though.

Has anyone else experienced this? Im scared and in tears.

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kateandme · 03/02/2023 22:55

they can even organise tranpost with an ambulance etc. the gp has everything at their disposal to deal with this via phone calls if needed and not in house.

DesertRose64 · 04/02/2023 01:10

Bepis, I hope this may be of some help to you.

www.mind.org.uk/information-support/legal-rights/nearest-relative/sectioning-and-guardianships/

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Bepis · 04/02/2023 05:12

Won't even go to the toilet now. Convinced there is someone in the house on the landing

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kateandme · 04/02/2023 06:48

Bepis · 04/02/2023 05:12

Won't even go to the toilet now. Convinced there is someone in the house on the landing

So what's happening I thought you were going to hospital. Call 999. Tell them she's had a psychotic break.not eating drinking hearing voices.defacating and wetting herself due to not going to toilet as their are people in the landing.and the other voices she heard.twll them to come right now you are scared for your and her safety.and you have been pushed over the edge.
How come no hospital earlier?
I don't understand now @Bepis sorry.you need too act.

Whydidimarryhim · 04/02/2023 07:38

You take her to a and e and get her seen by the psychiatric team there.

helpyhelperton · 04/02/2023 07:51

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Sending love and strength - I have rushed through the thread and haven't seen all your posts in detail.

Is she still on the sertraline?

If you go to a and E, insist that you advocate and stay with her. She may be 18 but is not an adult. Just make sure whoever helps her is understanding, be strong. Take nice stuff with you - her headphones, familiar nice stuff.

Our county have a well-being team that helps with 18-25. I have so much more I can say but if you want to pm me, I'll look out for it.

Love to you both. you're doing an amazing job and I know it's SO hard, try to be as calm and as kind as you can be. She must be so frightened.

Sandra1984 · 04/02/2023 10:46

Sending a big bear hug OP but you’re not trained to take care of this, it’s too much and beyond you. As big as your heart i and good intentions you may have You DP needs urgent psychiatric care asap, get sectioned and professional people to deal with this problem. It’s like someone who just had a bad car accident, they cannot be taken home and have family take care. Looks like that setraline stuff is doing a number on your daughter. Sending big hugs and support to your family.

CrescentMoons · 04/02/2023 12:14

Call 999 and if an ambulance won’t come out call the police she needs sectioning but they won’t do that whilst you are caring for her.

my friend got her mum
sectioned she was hearing voices came to her house and woke her up at 2 am and then ran away

Original poster
Bepis · 04/02/2023 12:19

I agree she needs sectioning. Currently waiting for a call back from 111 and hoping they send ambulance. Is it wrong to phone 999 though with it not being life threatening?

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Bepis · 04/02/2023 14:10

111 called back and they have referred it to urgent out of hours GP. I'm digging my heels in when they call back. Not taking no for an answer regards the help she needs.

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Original poster
Bepis · 04/02/2023 14:11

CrescentMoons · 04/02/2023 12:14

Call 999 and if an ambulance won’t come out call the police she needs sectioning but they won’t do that whilst you are caring for her.

my friend got her mum
sectioned she was hearing voices came to her house and woke her up at 2 am and then ran away

I will be doing this if the out of hours GP won't help.

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PaulGallico · 04/02/2023 14:48

My son with Special Needs had a psychotic episode quite recently. Phone 999. We had ambulance and police. She will not be category 1 so you will still need to wait. My son tried to commit suicide and was getting violent so for us they were here in 20mins (police in 10mins). She will be admitted but very likely not sectioned as mentioned earlier (they try really hard for this not to happen) my son was in for 3 days under sedation and slowly recovered over 7-12 days. Thinking of you.

kateandme · 04/02/2023 16:17

Call 999. Police.or ambulance whoever will come. The police have now emergency powers under the 136 section( don't quote that number! 🙄) to take you to a place of safety .for 12 journey initially then extra until the Amhp assess you and decide ingoing treatment.
She us at current risk.and or a risk if her health gets worse.thus us the very guide line for section or emergency help.

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Bepis · 04/02/2023 16:36

Phoning 999 now

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Hairyfairy01 · 04/02/2023 16:58

Good luck OP. I hope your dd gets the treatment she so desperately needs.

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Bepis · 04/02/2023 17:10

They won't send an ambulance but I'm taking her up to A&E in my friends car.

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PaulGallico · 04/02/2023 17:14

Hope she complies and gets into the car - take someone with you in case she gets distressed- tries to get out of the car. If she doesn't get in the car - ring the ambulance again. Be clear about the situation- if they initially refused I suspect you haven't been clear enough.

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Bepis · 04/02/2023 17:21

PaulGallico · 04/02/2023 17:14

Hope she complies and gets into the car - take someone with you in case she gets distressed- tries to get out of the car. If she doesn't get in the car - ring the ambulance again. Be clear about the situation- if they initially refused I suspect you haven't been clear enough.

I told them everything even the latest one of her thinking her sister has been killed and her saying she can't do this anymore etc. they consider it not life threatening but they did say I need to get her to A&E as she needs help.

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PaulGallico · 04/02/2023 17:27

I don't want to sound harsh (I have been in your shoes so understand). However you really need to stop posting and get your daughter some appropriate help.

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Bepis · 04/02/2023 17:29

PaulGallico · 04/02/2023 17:27

I don't want to sound harsh (I have been in your shoes so understand). However you really need to stop posting and get your daughter some appropriate help.

I'm waiting for my lift. Nothing I can do right now. And you are right, that was harsh and have you thought posting might be my way of coping with this?

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kateandme · 04/02/2023 17:43

Bepis · 04/02/2023 17:29

I'm waiting for my lift. Nothing I can do right now. And you are right, that was harsh and have you thought posting might be my way of coping with this?

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No she does not Paul.she needs to be here as long and as much as she needs us.

kateandme · 04/02/2023 17:45

Make sure to tell them 999 told you to come

kateandme · 04/02/2023 17:46

Stay put in a and e op.

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 04/02/2023 17:50

As someone who also has 5+ years of first hand experience with this I too thought my knowledge might help the OP @PaulGallico but she’s not engaged with any of my posts. I was thinking of hiding the thread.

PaulGallico · 04/02/2023 17:50

@kateandme okay I do see your point. However when my son with SN was in the middle of a psychotic episode and we were waiting for an ambulance posting on MN was the last thing I was thinking about - we are all different.