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People that document their life on SM

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shesadramaqueen · 30/12/2022 21:25

So I admit I'm not overly a big user of social media but I do have it, mainly to book hair appointments and the like but I have one girl that I worked with about 15 years ago who literally lives out her entire day through her 'stories' she's stunning, great job and lives an incredible life but I find it so tone deaf at times I mean she has had about 20 foreign holidays this year ( honestly) and is always posting about eating in the most expensive restaurants ( with her moet and Chandon) it fascinates me and I love watching her stories but I think im supposed to be incredibly jealous... surley that's her intention? Making the nobodies like me envy her lol!
( maybe I do a little) but isn't bit such a show off things to do??

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Mrstumbletap · 30/12/2022 21:28

It's very narcissistic yes.

Some people think 'I have done this with my kids so I need to let everyone of my old school friends know'. Why? Who cares? Just live your life.

Their lives at home must be very dull and their self esteem quite low to live for likes and views.

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shesadramaqueen · 30/12/2022 21:32

It's very strange and it irritates me that it's so blatantly done to me people envious of her. I find that a bit of a dick head thing to do- especially when most people
Are struggling atm

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erikbloodaxe · 30/12/2022 21:38

It's insecurity though. Are you jealous of insecurity? No, thought not. Pity her or just adjust your settings so you don't have her in your feed.

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shesadramaqueen · 30/12/2022 21:40

@erikbloodaxe I enjoy the performance she puts on lol I quite like watch the blatant determination to rub my nose in her lavish lifestyle 🤣

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TeapotTitties · 30/12/2022 21:41

Honestly, when will these threads end?

They're providing entertainment for you, and giving her a diary to look back on, so surely it's win-win?

If you're jealous or envious or anything like that, unfriend her and find some other entertainment. And given it bothers you enough to start a thread about her, I'd suggest you do the latter.

I use FB to keep up with what's going on in my community and to see what my family and actual friends are up to. I can't imagine why you'd have someone on yours who you haven't worked with for 15 years if you feel this way about them.

pilates · 30/12/2022 21:42

Yes, I think it stems from insecurity.

MassiveSalad22 · 30/12/2022 21:43

I often wonder if the daily sharers think us who don’t share much are just sitting around doing nothing 😄 it’s a weird phenomenon. The old joke of ‘photos of it didn’t happen’ taken way too seriously.

DuplicateUserName · 30/12/2022 21:43

shesadramaqueen · 30/12/2022 21:40

@erikbloodaxe I enjoy the performance she puts on lol I quite like watch the blatant determination to rub my nose in her lavish lifestyle 🤣

Yes because it's all about you isn't it?

You who haven't worked with her for FIFTEEN years. I'm sure every single post and photo is published just for your benefit.

If you're struggling ATM, give social media a rest maybe?

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shesadramaqueen · 30/12/2022 21:44

@pilates do you think? I think people love the feeling of people envying and coveting their lifestyle. I think this girl thrives on it and loves that she can splash the cash and others can't.

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erikbloodaxe · 30/12/2022 21:45

She's doing it for validation because she's insecure. That is all.

DuplicateUserName · 30/12/2022 21:46

I think this is about the OP's insecurities and she's started this thread to get others to help 'justify' her feelings.

If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence OP, see what you can do to start watering your own.

There will always be other people with more exciting lives, whether they put it on SM or not.

SisterAgatha · 30/12/2022 21:47

It’s not insecurity in all cases. I do it as a diary and journal. I lost my dad very young and have nothing of him, no photos or items. If I had been able to watch him on SM, see his pictures, his words, the songs he and chosen, his likes and dislikes etc… oh would be a gift. So mine is to my kids. It’s a love letter to myself and them. It’s not for you or anyone else and however you feel about it is yours to own, not your friends.

Liuckle · 30/12/2022 21:50

I think you sound mean and jealous

Sneering. People can share their lives if they want to. You don't have to look.

JessesMum777888 · 30/12/2022 21:52

SisterAgatha · 30/12/2022 21:47

It’s not insecurity in all cases. I do it as a diary and journal. I lost my dad very young and have nothing of him, no photos or items. If I had been able to watch him on SM, see his pictures, his words, the songs he and chosen, his likes and dislikes etc… oh would be a gift. So mine is to my kids. It’s a love letter to myself and them. It’s not for you or anyone else and however you feel about it is yours to own, not your friends.

I could have written this word for word since I lost my mum.
❤️

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shesadramaqueen · 30/12/2022 21:53

@SisterAgatha sorry you lost your dad young, awful to go through that.

Doing a journal about your dad is entirely different.

I'm happy for the girl. I mean my DH have amazing lives too and could do som seriously top notch 'insta' stories if we wished but it's not how I want to be known. I prefer to be humble and discreet

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shesadramaqueen · 30/12/2022 21:54

@Liuckle I'm not being mean lol I'm expressing my opinion lol I enjoy watching her, I just wouldn't choose to deliberately try to make people feel rubbish- as I'm sure not everyone on her feed can afford such luxuries lifestyles.

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notacooldad · 30/12/2022 21:55

It seriously doesn't bother me what people post as long as it isn't offensive.
I rarely post but I do like seeing what my family are up to, especially those who live far away.
I have a few people on my face book that post everything but so what? Each to their own and all that.

PinkBuffalo · 30/12/2022 21:56

I am not like you friend but I am a bit of a prolific poster on social media. I never used to be but then I ended up completely alone through bereavement and very often have days (like today) where I have not spoken to a single other person
I guess I am the sad person who use it to feel less lonely and I fully admit that

DuplicateUserName · 30/12/2022 21:57

shesadramaqueen · 30/12/2022 21:53

@SisterAgatha sorry you lost your dad young, awful to go through that.

Doing a journal about your dad is entirely different.

I'm happy for the girl. I mean my DH have amazing lives too and could do som seriously top notch 'insta' stories if we wished but it's not how I want to be known. I prefer to be humble and discreet

I'm happy for the girl. I mean my DH have amazing lives too and could do som seriously top notch 'insta' stories if we wished but it's not how I want to be known. I prefer to be humble and discreet

Discreet as in bitching behind her back rather than to her face?

DuplicateUserName · 30/12/2022 21:59

And the irony of you NN is not lost here OP.

You're the drama queen, assuming this woman is trying to make people jealous rather than just documenting her own happy memories.

Branleuse · 30/12/2022 21:59

Some people talk to people about more stuff on the phone than others.
Some people write blogs.
Some people write long letters to people theyve never even met.
Some people go to pubs or parties and tell people things about their lives
Some people tell random taxi drivers or strangers at the bus stop, their life history.
Some people put stories about their social lives on social media on a regular basis.
Some people actually seek out fame and notoriety

I think really if you find her social media use to be annoying and makes you want to judge her so negatively, then really you should do both of you a favour and unfriend her, rather than be two-faced and pore over her pictures, meanwhile bitching about her and her 20 holidays and fancy restaurants.
Maybe she is insecure, or maybe shes just having a great time and enjoys social media more than you do.

deplorabelle · 30/12/2022 22:00

Most people who do this are selling something. Does she have a little MLM business on the side?

On the whole I like to hear what people are up to on social media. But sadly most of my friends have given it up. Except for the ones trying to guilt trip their friends into buying the tat they're flogging.

Brefugee · 30/12/2022 22:01

Get over yourself, OP. You don't like/do it. Other people do.
You are free not to look

Brefugee · 30/12/2022 22:03

I prefer to be humble and discreet

your judgy pants are hoiked up so high, careful you don't get thrush, OP

2023yearofchange · 30/12/2022 22:09

I think the problem with SM is you almost have to document elements of your daily life etc to fit in with what everyone else is doing!! I came off instagram a month ago and honestly it feels like a weight has been lifted. I don't miss it at all. Am not on fb either. I get what you are saying OP. I just felt that there was a little pressure to record what was going on in my life and pressure to comment on others' lives... without the good part of meeting up wirh people!! I mean what is the point, honestly. If you really are friends wirh someone you are going to be in contact / meet up / chat about stuff anyway.