WhatsApp nonsense from friend

[Catcatty]

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My friend is WhatsApp obsessed
If she messages you but you go online and don't read it then she gets peed off
If you read it but don't reply for hours then she gets peed off
She sends a shitty one word reply to indicate she's peed off
She checks peoples last seen. If you turn this function off then she gets peed off.
I find myself turning on airplane mode on my phone, checking my WhatsApp from other friends & family, then turning airplane mode off. That way she can't see I have been online.
I'm just getting fed up with it tbh. I feel like I need to be glued to my phone to keep up with her messages & expectations. Am I being a cow ?

Oh god she sounds exhausting! Can you tell her you will reply when you are ready and it has no bearing on your friendship if you don't respond immediately. If she gets pissy tell her to send texts in future and block her from WhatsApp!

Block her on WhatsApp and tell her you've deleted it if you can't face admitting the truth.

There’s a new feature for turning off the ‘online’ sign which lets people know you’re on the app. Then nobody can know.

But that’s not the solution. The solution is to lose the friend. Or block her on WhatsApp, and tell her you’ve reverted back to text messages / phone calls. That way you can still use WhatsApp with other people, but to her it will look as if your account isn’t active anymore.

As that’s too much work, I’d still recommend ditching the ‘friend’.

You can just set your WhatsApp so she can't see you've read the messages. Just tell her you've done something daft with your phone by mistake and changed the settings by mistake.

ignore her, or block her! why are you letting her behaviour intrude on your life?

Yy I changed a setting so my 'last seen' couldn't be seen by anyone for a similar reason. I think most of us have someone like that among our family/friends :

Like PP suggested you could say you don't know how you did it or your DC (if you have) we're messing with it... good luck 🤞🏻

'Were' - ODFO autocorrect

If you turn off the last seen function she gets pissed of??? Seriously?
Are you 12 and is she your mother?

Tell her you'll only communicate via text messages and not WhatsApp

As I've said all along, it's a stalking app

I set one person so they can't see when I'm on line and turned off the "ticks " and archive them.
They commented I hadn't replied to there message, I just said " oh sorry, must be a problem with my phone, they then started to text me 🙈

I'd just ignore them til you're ready

Just say “I am not glued to my phone, I have a life!”
Repeat regularly.

Why haven't you told her to stop? "Please stop sending aggressive messages if i don't respond to.you in 10 seconds".

Although frankly, someone like that would very quickly be blocked and ignored by me completely.

Why would you want to be friends with such a controlling arse?

Turning off read receipts is sort of counter intuitive because the ticks dont ever turn blue so if you did reply to her she would question why the ticks didnt turn blue and scupper your plan anyway. And Turning off last seen, although they cant see when you were last online, If you are online when they are in your messages they can see you are currently online. Its a very annoying feature of WhatsApp.

I have a cousin, who is like that. If she notices you have viewed her WhatsApp or Facebook stories without interacting, she’ll send you a “HELLO” or some guilt-inducing remark about family bonds.

Turn off your 'last seen' and send her a message;

'In case you notice and wonder why I've turned off the 'last seen' feature in WhatsApp it's because I've had various issues with WhatsApp contacts hounding me in the app and checking my online status and pressuring me to respond when I'm busy, I need to gain some privacy and space on WhatsApp and plan to spend a lot less time on the app from now on'

Just carry on checking your phone and replying when it suits you.

What’s she like generally?

I've turned my tick alerts off. I don't need any 'pressure' via my phone to read and respond to anyone. I'm using it like the old texts.. I'll read and reply in my own time.

And you are friends with her because??

I was going to say turn off the last seen and online functions.

But honestly you need to manage this if you want to keep her as a friend. Next time it happens explain that you'll respond to her message when you have the time to give it the head space. And just leave it there.

I have mine set so no one can see ‘last seen & online’ and read receipts turned off so no one can see whether I’ve read the messages or not. It means I don’t worry about people getting stressed over when I reply and I don’t see whether they’ve read mine or not so can’t get stressed over whether they reply. It’s very freeing. Change your settings and just let her, and everyone else, know you’re happier that way

She’s a stalker.