What just happened?! I don't know what to make of this.

[Believers]

I've had the strangest experience tonight and I don't know how to explain it.

I volunteer with a charity, and tonight myself and 3 others from there went out to a pub I've never been to before for a pre-Christmas drink.

At one point I went to the toilet and as I was on my way out a woman was on her way in. We exchanged pleasantries and went on our separate ways.

About 5 minutes after I'd joined my friends, this same woman came up to us, and sat next to me on the banquette thing. She took my hand and said she had to tell me something.

It was all a bit odd, but I figured she'd maybe had a drink, and I had no objection to her joining us. But then she said to me that she had xxx with her and he wanted me to know that he was happy, that he loved me and that it was time I moved on. She was crying as she said this and I started crying too because xxx was the name of my late dh.

I have no idea how she could've known any of this. None of us knew her, I'd never been to that pub before, dh's name isn't wildly unusual but not that common either, why did she come and find me after our brief encounter in the toilet etc.

I can't get my head around it! Any ideas?!

This would have completely freaked me out - my daughter's father died some time ago and our baby too before he died. If anyone came up to me and said something like that I would know it to be true (his name is very rare) ... there has to be something in it but I have never wished to investigate that route .... scares the shit out of me.

I loved your story…..I think someone would have to be so closed-minded as to be delusional to not believe it. I’m glad your baby was ok🙂 xx

"Wifi and aeroplanes didn't exist 200 years ago. They were invented by humans. They work within the physics of the material world.

We are a supremely arrogant species, to think we understand the totality of physics and the workings of the universe.

Never had a spooky experience with a person but did have one with a book!

In the first chapter I learned that the main character came from the same small town as me, had the same first name as my brother and the same surname as my partner (an unusual one).

A subordinate character also had my first name although it's a fairly common one so that isn't unusual.

I'll admit I did close the book for a few minutes as it felt a bit weird but then realised it was all just a coincidence!

If there is an afterlife and I am able to contact a medium from wherever I am, I’m giving my mothers maiden name, national insurance number and last three addresses.

None of this vague shit.

TheOtherHotstepper "She also told me something else, which didn't make any sense until I had a DNA test done ten years later, which proved that we had a Non Parental Event in the family and our surname should have been something completely different."

I can't work out what this means at all. 😕

@EmmaAgain22
"Are you sure he didn't say "pull"?"

Excellent point....

I've literally only got GCSE Physics. I am not remotely arrogant about my knowledge of it. I think that pretending you can speak to the dead is astonishingly arrogant.

When I was in my teens I told someone something about someone else that I couldn't possibly have known. I was on the phone to a friend A, we were talking about A level results just out, and got confused over what she was asking about another girl B's grades. At the time I remember I was thinking of someone else entirely, and yet all this stuff came out about this girl B wouldn't be going to Uni after all (despite decent results) and instead was getting married, and was going to live in (village). It was like I had no control over what I was saying, but I believed it was true. Friend A giggled and I got told to stop making it up, as B had been saying for years that (career path) was her absolute ambition and now she had the grades to (excellent uni of her 1st choice). So I backtracked and said oh maybe I was thinking of C (girl most likely to marry and least likely to go to Uni) .
But later it happened, it was all true. B took a year off, then didn't go to Uni, and did marry, and lived where I said. I can't explain how or why I told A this.

Maybe I’m gullible- though I prefer to describe myself as keeping an open mind- but I do think there’s more than we know and that maybe the loved ones who leave us are still around, wherever that may be. I’ve had enough experiences of my own to think this way but I keep quiet because, well, so many of the answers here show that people really don’t want to entertain this stuff. But in an infinite universe I don’t think it’s unreasonable to assume there are things we don’t (yet) understand and can’t explain. In fact, it seems arrogant to assume we have all the answers.
That said, who knows in this situation? Perhaps this woman was a genuine clairvoyant who was passing on a message from your late husband or perhaps she was a chancer who gets a kick out of doing things like this.If you hadn’t discussed your dh then why would she just guess that you’d lost him? She didn’t want money and had nothing to gain from telling you he was sending a message.
Either way, you’ve got a great story to tell and if you’re so inclined, comfort.
Personally I think this is a lovely story. Treasure the experience.

I hope @Palmfrond sees this. I do feel sorry for poor Paul but can't help giggling at the possibility the man said "pull" which seems very likely!

also, the simultaneously farting while exhibiting supernatural knowledge.....oh my god, I'm crying now 😂😂

It's odd, my mum went to a medium once who perfectly described our dog (he's gt 1 blue 1 brown eye etc)...n told mum not to worry about the mass on his stomach as mum's dad dead said it was fine. Mum told her she was mad and there's nothing wring with the dog...3 days later found a huge belly lump that was a tumour (which was benign)

Same meet the woman said to buy her mum 3 roses on her birthday of specific colours (1 yellow and another something obscure). Mum again thought it was mad, but did it anyway. Nan cracks up big time - apparently her husband had always done that every birthday (the spare 2 roses being from their 2 kids) but mum had no idea of the tradition. Spooky

A family member of my DH seems to have this ability. A few years ago, whilst socialising with friends in a local pub (no, not drunk; he's a tee-totaller, always has been) he got this 'message' come through to him and that he had to pass it on to a lady on the other side of the bar; he'd never seen/known this lady before. He ignored it but it got so persistent that in the end, he did approach this lady and he told her the message. Her face fell and she cried; everything the family member had said to her had come from a passed close family member and included things that our family member would never have known. Both family member and lady were shocked by what had happened. They remain friends now! There is absolutely NO WAY that our family member would do this for kicks; he is an absolutely lovely guy.

All very odd.

Oh… 😔

I think some people are very good at extracting information, especially in the age of social media, its so easy to look up someone and their family, theres always a relative with no privacy settings that would allow someone insight into deaths, births, illness in your circle. Your linkedin. Google map view of your house. I could very easy pain a vague enough image of someones life online. Not to mention, those who approach a medium almost always have perhaps something they feel guilty about relating to someone who passed, or desperate grief that they need a sign that a loved one is ok.

That being said, I truly believe there are some people who can hear and feel energies from those passed on.

We cannot prove it...but we also cant prove it doesnt exist.

My sister had a terrifyingly accurate reading with a medium and she had given no information other than her first name and mobile number. Accurate naming of passed relatives, situations that had occurred.

Considering this happened in a public place and you hadnt paid her, I would be inclined to believe it.

If she had stayed and offered you a reading for money...then no

All very interesting🔮

Years ago I was working in a local pub in Edinburgh, just standing at a table talking to regulars. It was packed with folk watching the football. A very elegant woman kept looking at me across the crowded bar and suddenly made her way over to me and apologised for interrupting us. She had to pass on a message from my grandmother, Annie who had died some 9 years earlier. It was all accurate, there was nothing in it for her. She was English, up visiting her daughter at the University and said she occasionally had persistent spririts push for her to delivery messages. She was a cardiologist by profession. Staggers me to this day but was hugely comforting as I was absolutely devasted at the manner of my grandmother's death.

What if they told you things that they couldn’t know or guess and you couldn’t just dismiss as nonsense?

This has happened to me.
I’ve given messages to people, often I’m told the name. It just happens — I “see” a scene and there’s often a name spoken or written.
I was at a theatre and I saw a the figure of a woman standing behind two seated women, her arms around one shoulder of each of them. No name that time but her clothes were very distinctive. Another time I saw a couple, their house, knew it wasn’t in Britain but there was a Scottish connection, had 2 names —- all confirmed as 100% accurate I don’t guess, I say exactly what is shown to me, I don’t add or take anything away.
It happens, I ask the person if they want me to tell them. No, I wouldn’t expect anyone to ever pay me or reward me in any way.
So it’s perfectly possible your DH said to this woman “ hey, there’s my DW —- tell her I’m here, I’m ok”

“We are a supremely arrogant species, to think we understand the totality of physics and the workings of the universe”

Couldn’t of said it better myself. There are many on here who fit that category.

Not RTFT, but my 6'6", no nonsense, unemotional friend becomes a gibbering wreck if you mention a moment that a medium mentioned something that his long dead mother said to him when he was thirteen and struggling.
It was so specific that it was beyond guesswork and very relevant at the time that the medium mentioned it. I can't explain it.

@Palmfrond

sorry, I should have kept my trap shut! I do actually believe a lot of woo stuff! Sorry.

I’d be inclined to believe it because you didn’t pay

@CustardySergeant , what I meant was, the second message made no sense at all until subsequent DNA testing proved that my paternal Grandad was not fathered by his mother's husband, but by a random person whose name was given to me in the message.

Read Fludd - is excellent (nothing like Beyond Black, but very good).