What are your definitions of vanilla vs kinky!

[GlamGiraffe]

Id be fascinated to know people's thoughts on this!

I've always thought my relationship was quite vanilla, however conversations with a couple of friends (like you do) have said they think I've had a kinky marriage

What do you think counts as generally vanilla compared to kinky.?

Ps long term member not a ţroll!

Thanks @Igglepiggleslittletoe , and for risking the google search!! although I definitely laughed more at the ‘wrong answers only’!!

Oh and what makes it better is that I forgot I was on the company laptop when I googled.....

I do not understand threesomes. I could not share but also I am not even up for 69ers. I cannot concentrate on giving and getting at the same time. Has to be one or other for me.

Beautifully put 😂

Vanilla - anything you'd not be too concerned your boss or mum finding out about.

Kinky - anything you'd be mortified if your boss or mum found out you liked it.

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I'd say anything that involves a 3rd party is kinky. Blow jobs/69 - vanilla. Pegging - kinky.

It's a mindset thing. Anything that the average mumsnetter says is disgusting, the average kinkster thinks is delicious.

Such an odd idea that mums are on average prudish.

Yep. And it's a MN chicken so you can get five shags out of it, then rinse it off and serve it up for dinner.

No judgement on your sexual preferences but your use of the word “delicious” makes me want to yak. Like something Phil would say while trussed up like a chicken and being pegged by Kirstie.

A spank during sex and using 'kinky' names for a partner is vanilla. Fluffy handcuffs and new sex positions are vanilla.

Kinky to me means properly involved in kink (i.e. educated, experienced) either just in the bedroom or full time. I've been told that having children means Dh and I and I aren't full time kinky but kink is flexible and not just sex

My point exactly 😂

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Oh come on. I'm currently watching Location location on catch up

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That's because it is a subjective matter with a varying scale.

Vaginal sex more than once a week is kinky by most MN standards.

Saturday night lights out and he pulls ya nighty down when he has finished…. Vanilla

sunday morning , gimp masks to hide identity, on the swing in the back garden … kinky

IRL no idea tbh just grateful when kids are out of house!

A vienetta is kinky.

vanilla is my favourite.

Vanilla - what he does with you.

Kinky - what he does with the woman from the office.

🤣🤣🤣 Having sex for pleasure and not just reproduction is kinky by MN standards. Oh no I said the word sex. The horror!!!!

Vanilla - doing what you enjoy with your partner. Kinky - building an identity out of it and feeling compelled to tell every one else about it.

And yet, backed up by quite a few responses on this thread.

Blowjobs and Anal as kinky !! Come
on

This is rather ignorant. I'd bet a fair amount of money you know quite a few people who enjoy something kinky but which you have no idea about.

Anal is vanilla? Most of my partners didn't want to do anal. I thought that it was kinky. Maybe I only ever dated very vanilla men.