What are your definitions of vanilla vs kinky!

[GlamGiraffe]

Id be fascinated to know people's thoughts on this!

I've always thought my relationship was quite vanilla, however conversations with a couple of friends (like you do) have said they think I've had a kinky marriage

What do you think counts as generally vanilla compared to kinky.?

Ps long term member not a ţroll!

Sorry OP, that was a mini joke in case you missed it?

So what's he dressing up in? That might be a bit kink depending on the outfit. Do they play doctors and nurses and he's the nurse?

In a new relationship anything different probably seems kinky. If you can buy it at Ann Summers it's pretty vanilla would be my way of looking at it - but if he's in the dresses, maybe not!

First off, I wana know why people are so outraged this was posted in chat? 🙄

I don't like using the term vanilla, I think it hints at being boring. I prefer kinky v normal 😂 I used to think dressing up and using toys was kinky until I talked to others and realised it's very normal.

I always thought vanilla was just plain sex. No unusual positions or added extras.
Nowadays, threesomes, bit of dressing up and toys are probably classed as vanilla too.

Vanilla
Usual sex positions
Foreplay

Kinky
Anal
Sex toys
Golden shower
Spanking
Multiple people

Jeez another competitive thread on mumsnet.

Did someone mention chicken?

#@ArcticSkewer
As hilariously entertaining as it would be to see him in a dress of any kind of costume, for that matter, its never happened😂
Only something like me wearing just an apron, or being bossier than normal, super sexy underwear, etc. Nothing as fancy as leather, plastic, chains or the like!!
This made me laugh at the sheer thought of it!

Ah, so vanilla then. If you want to spice things up, put him in the apron and beat him with a wooden spoon 😈... instant kink

Anal isn't kinky is it? Pretty mainstream surely?

Love pat on the bum or swat mid sex vanilla.

Actual spanking - beginner kinky.

Full on implement play proper kinky?

I genuinely think everyone is different. If you look at a "limits list" for bdsm you'll usually find a ton of things you wouldn't do, even if there's stuff that looks fun/would try once etc.

I feel it’s practically a kink these days to just enjoy a good old fashioned face to face root.

A blow job is kinky??

Dear god I am in a kinky relationship and did not know it. We thought we were fairly vanilla lol

Well surely it depends on the costume and who was wearing it?
If it was her wearing a naughty nurse/sexy santa costume I'd agree its fairly standard. If it's him wearing the bunny outfit as a precursor to role play because he has a furry kink then, that is by definition kinky (although not particulalry extreme!).

But it is of course very subjective! And who really cares?

What is pegging?

I do not want to google it.

Do you think your husband tells his mates what you get up to in bed, and asks them to rate it vanilla or kinky ?

Kinky is when I allow my dh to have sex with ALL our clothes removed.

@Cherryana it’s when both of you peg your washing out on the line.

No, it’s when you have sex with clothes pegs on your noses because you’ve only just been able to get the kids to sleep and you’ve got exactly 30 minutes before you both pass out from exhaustion/ennui, and besides which you took a shower the day before yesterday, how bad can it be? Real talk. Tough choices. Bad smells.

Oh that does sound kinky @Palmfrond

if you don't want to google it, you may not want to know.
Rumours are that Prince William is the Prince of Pegging.

I doubt anyone would pearl clutch or even care actually. As long as things are legal and consensual, I’ve never met anyone that cares about anyone else’s sex life.

if you don't want to google it, you may not want to know.

It's when a man and a lady love each very much and they have a different kind of special cuddle where they take turns by swapping places, with the aid of something additional in place of something that the lady doesn't have, because the man prefers not to use his own one.

Interesting that a PP basically listed kinky as stuff done including other people, dogging, threesomes etc. Imo there's plenty to be done in a monogamous relationship that is kinky!

Its attaching a strap on and giving it to him up the arse.

And yes I had to google it too.

Vagina/oral/masturbation - all lovely lovely vanilla ice cream

Anything else kinky and revolting to me 🤢 (porn/anal/videoing/photography/other people/s and m)