Can I get some positive vibes, had a knock on door yesterday about my house

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A while ago I was on a home swap group.

I have 4 children, 3 of them in one room age 18,16 and 11.
I've been on the swapping register for years.

A lady wanted to downsize and came to see my house but ultimately decided although the location, garden and other things were perfect it was just a little too small.

She is a fosterer and had a massive 4 bedroom house over 3 floors.

When she decided against it I was really sad for a long time and gave up.

Yesterday she knocked in my door, out of the blue ( I deleted Facebook a while ago) and asked if I still wanted to move?

Her circumstances have changed and she is only having 1 Foster child longterm now. So the house is big enough for 3.

I'm going to see her house this week.

She seems really keen. She needs this area, I have a nice rear garden.

I'm a little apprehensive about the area her house is in but I've lived in this house 20 years, my kids were all born here!

But I just feel like space is the most important thing to us and we couldn't even get a swap on a 3 bedroom with 2nd lounge (to turn into bedroom) so a 4 bed with 2 reception rooms would mean everyone can have their own room!

I'm just scared she will change her mind again but can you please send positive vibes. We really need this.

Hope it all works out for you OP. We moved from a pokey 3 bedroom house with no garden to a really big 4 bed with 2 reception rooms, conservatory, garage, huge garden. It is a lot more work and harder to heat (we also have mice occasionally ) but despite all of that it is so worth it for a bit of space.

You said your children had SEN

in that scenario the difference between 1 and 2 mile walk can be… significant

The OP knows her children. It she says that they can handle the extra distance then they can hranel the extra distance. Everyone needs to stop harping on about it.

My son has autism. He doesnt give a damn about taking different routes or changes to his schedule or the time things take but if I move his lego buildings to dust then he goes crazy over it. He could handle a move miles and miles away from friends and family and school. His problem would be his stuff having to move.

Sending good vibes! Sounds really promising, hope it works out ❤️

I'm absolutely amazed that from me saying my children have SEN that you know their complete diagnosis, abilities and limits! Despite knowing absolutely NOTHING about them you're telling me, their mother, what they are capable of! That's amazing. What a gift.

You obviously know what's best for you and your family..it sounds like it's a good swap with her mum living near you...very exciting for your kids...Great to have their own rooms at last..you'll probably never see them for days. Good luck and hope it all goes well for you all.

Talk about the third degree eh?

So hope the swap goes ahead for you. What a wonderful Christmas gift that would be!!!

You do realise SEN doesn't automatically = mobility issues?

Sending you a shit tonne of positive vibes. Could you possibly send some back that my daughter gets a place at an SEN school soon please 🙏

This made me laugh because it's SO TRUE people who have never met my child seem to think they know their needs, including an ED Psych who wrote a report for my daughters EHCP....

It’s meant to be !!!
What a lovely end to 2022

To be fair, you kind of gave the impression from the outset that they weren’t “capable” of much at all!!

My children have SEN.

They won't be moving out.

Yes of course

I meant In terms of willingness / mood / behaviour etc to walk 2 miles to school

All the very best to you and yours OP. I hope the move happens, that it’s everything you’re wishing for.

Good luck 🤞🤞🤞

Glad that made you smile OP. Ignore everyone here who is pissing in your cornflakes. Move the bowl....😎

How the hell can a house swap thread, that the OP really wants, turn into a bun fight. For the love of Christ MN.

Because read my posts. I was asking about logistics as a relative in a similar position understandably saw the extra space and thought bingo, but when moved it was so stressful for her… further from school, friends, work - and she moved back to same area as before accepting a smaller property

but on mumsnet unless unadulterated “YAY OP”, you’re an outlier with sinister intentions. So I will bow out!

IT'S 10 MINUTES AWAY. FFS

So because I can't see them moving out immediately at 18 you assume they can't walk 2 miles to school?

And completely ignore the fact I've said about 6 times they will be driven there anyways?

take it easy OP
the PP made a valid point and didn’t seem remotely to be criticising you

🙄

It wasnt valid. It had been asked and answered more than once. They just wanted to keep harping on.

She is moving 10 minutes away. It is the same area. She will have a car. The kids will not need to walk one regular basis. She knows her kids and what they can and cant handle. She was quite clear that the extra distance to school wouldnt be sometbing they would find challenging.

But PP decided to ignore all that because they knew better.... no.

Good luck Op!