Can I get some positive vibes, had a knock on door yesterday about my house

[SnowWay]

A while ago I was on a home swap group.

I have 4 children, 3 of them in one room age 18,16 and 11.
I've been on the swapping register for years.

A lady wanted to downsize and came to see my house but ultimately decided although the location, garden and other things were perfect it was just a little too small.

She is a fosterer and had a massive 4 bedroom house over 3 floors.

When she decided against it I was really sad for a long time and gave up.

Yesterday she knocked in my door, out of the blue ( I deleted Facebook a while ago) and asked if I still wanted to move?

Her circumstances have changed and she is only having 1 Foster child longterm now. So the house is big enough for 3.

I'm going to see her house this week.

She seems really keen. She needs this area, I have a nice rear garden.

I'm a little apprehensive about the area her house is in but I've lived in this house 20 years, my kids were all born here!

But I just feel like space is the most important thing to us and we couldn't even get a swap on a 3 bedroom with 2nd lounge (to turn into bedroom) so a 4 bed with 2 reception rooms would mean everyone can have their own room!

I'm just scared she will change her mind again but can you please send positive vibes. We really need this.

@SnowWay
🤞and 🙏 it works out for you.

I love when life unexpectedly, sometimes,instead of kicking you in the ass, gives you a bunch of roses.

I've had one of those moments lately and am still hoping it will last.
Like a dream come true moment.
I hope yours is the same.
You thought you'd lost the swop but its come back. Yay !

The area is so important. I would think very carefully about this.

Fingers crossed for you, I really hope it works out 🤞🤞

Good luck!! Sounds brilliant and I hope it all goes through for you

I really hope this works out for you! When are you going to see her house?

@SnowWay I hope it works out for you!!

Moving with 4 kids, after 20 years is going to be an epic adventure!

How old is the one that doesn't currently share?

Donyou have family/friends that will help you move?

let us know when you've been to see her house!!

Sending vibes and love

Thing is for you to move to a bigger house with 4 bedrooms will give you the space e evening if its only for 3/4 years.

If you then decide actually I want to move again, you'll be in a really excellent position to do a swap as 4 bed houses are more like hens teeth, so you'd get your pick of places

I'm crossing my fingers for you! Try to think of it as being onwards and upwards!

That's exactly my train of thought.

Even if it's short term it will give them their own rooms whilst studying

You'll get nothing but good vibes from me😃😃 The very best of luck to you. As someone who has just had a very very stressful loft conversion so my children could have their own bit of space, I would say swapping houses sounds like a dream come true!

Could be genuine reason of cours but I would talk to her neighbours first in case of any problems

Hope the house is right for you, it will be a lovely Christmas for Your family to have something to look forward to.

Only you know what is right for your family

My 13 year old has her own room (box room)

Going the end of this week.

She's going from 4 Foster children to 1 longterm Foster child.

Lol. I don't think my son will ever move out, and I didn't move out of my parents until I was 24.

Good luck @SnowWay, I hope it all works out for you.

I feel like MN is unrealistic when it comes to kids turning 18.

Non of me or my sisters left home before 23!

And these days it's SO much harder financially that I really think they will be home for a long while.

Good luck!!! The new house sounds perfect, like it's made for you and your family - I have a good feeling that it's all going to work out 😊

*I feel like MN is unrealistic when it comes to kids turning 18.

Non of me or my sisters left home before 23!

And these days it's SO much harder financially that I really think they will be home for a long while.*

I was 26 when my mum finally got rid of me! DS1, who is 14, announced last night that he would be moving out as soon as he's 18. I was just about to give him a reality check about rent etc, then thought 'nah, he'll figure out what side his bread's buttered on soon enough'. I was a little bit offended though😬 Also, he has autism and sometimes doesn't seem to see any obstacles. This will happen, inevitably followed by this and finally this ... and life will be just grand!

Bold fail there ...

Good luck OP

Massively big positive vibes to you, we were overcrowded with SEN kids for years and when we got our 4 bedroom it made life so so much easier for so many reasons. Good luck OP x

My son has autism too and I don't think he ever intends to go anywhere! 😂

Sending loads of positive vibes! Really hope it works out for you.