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Do your husbands/other halves help with putting up the Christmas Tree?

147 replies

ByeByeMr · 11/12/2022 08:25

Every year I do it and he shows no interest. I sometimes wonder if I wasn't here would he even put one up at all.

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Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse · 11/12/2022 08:55

Yes DH gets it out of the shed, puts it up and does the lights. I decorate what I can (can’t reach top area, tree is 8ft I’m only 5ft) DH helps with finishing touches then decorates outside and then helps with the rest of indoor decorations such as garlands. Children and I decorate their trees together for their bedrooms and change all bedding to Christmas bedding.

sausage767 · 11/12/2022 08:56

My husband gets down all the boxes, puts the tree together and puts the lights on, then puts the star on the top. I decorate it. Same as my dad used to do.

Iamagenius · 11/12/2022 08:57

I had a nap yesterday afternoon and husband and children did the whole tree. He usually does it so I'm very lucky.

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bananaboats · 11/12/2022 08:58

Yes do it together. Our tree is significantly taller than both of us so its really a 2 man job plus we both enjoy doing it together

YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake · 11/12/2022 08:59

Dh does it by himself, me and the kids aren't allowed to touch. I choose the colour scheme though. Me and the kids decorate a second tree in the back room and it looks crap compared to the main one 😂😂

Sandysandwich · 11/12/2022 09:04

Mine does,
He likes taking our son to go get one from the farm he worked at when he was teenager.
I do the decorations and he does the lights- I like that he enjoys putting it up.

mondaytosunday · 11/12/2022 09:07

Physically getting it upright and secure in the stand yes (I'm a widow now, but when he was alive). Then the rest is down to me - which we were both quite happy with!
Since he died I had a male friend help, then when my son got old and strong enough. This year my daughter and I managed it (son away) - big tree so it wasn't easy.

BelenaConhamHarter · 11/12/2022 09:09

DH does the lifting and carrying. Everything else is me.

He would no way put one up independently.

Multipleexclamationmarks · 11/12/2022 09:11

Came home from work the other day and he'd put the tree up, decorated it, decorated the house and put the outside lights up.
i was very relieved, not one of my favourite jobs.

whoruntheworldgirls · 11/12/2022 09:12

God no, don't want him to help! Daughter has her own tree to decorate

Yogagrandmum · 11/12/2022 09:13

Please no. It’s my only obsession at Christmas.

Brandymakesmerandy · 11/12/2022 09:15

My partner puts the artificial tree together and the kids decorate it.
I leave them to it 🤣

Fizbosshoes · 11/12/2022 09:16

When I first started seeing DH it was Christmas time and as we walked to his flat I said I bet you dint have a Christmas tree. He took great offence and said they did have one (he lived with a male flatmate) . They had a (artificial) tree but that was it. No tinsel, no lights, no baubles or any decorations just a small bare tree! 🤣

His contributions to Christmas are removing the tree from the loft and cooking Xmas Dinner.

yadaya · 11/12/2022 09:16

Yep, it's a family task.
He's Christmas mad though do spends slots if time making the whole house Christmassy.
He went out the other day and bought loads of new Christmas kitchen wear the other day as we've started hosting Christmas for his family.

Believeinyou · 11/12/2022 09:16

yeah he helps lug it in the house and sets in the stand, and do the lights, then me and the kids decorate and he makes us baileys coffees . Kids do a bit and get fed up and wander off here and there

he wouldn't hVe a tree as big i don't think without me and probably just stick some lights on and not bother with decorations

Orangebadger · 11/12/2022 09:19

My DH goes nuts about Xmas decorations! So he does it all! We all decorate the tree together. But I leave the rest to him,

RaininSummer · 11/12/2022 09:23

No he doesn't care about it at all. He does carry the boxes down for me and back up again afterwards though.

VahineNuiWentHome · 11/12/2022 09:25

Doing it with the dcs basically.
dh helps with the heavy lifting of the tree, taking boxes down etc….

Tripsabroad · 11/12/2022 09:28

Yes, it's no fun here unless done as a family, reminiscing over the baubles from childhood. Our tree is definitely "more is more". No tasteful matching colours here!

When I was single I didn't bother putting one up.

Doowop1919 · 11/12/2022 09:31

Yes, family event here. Dh and I always put it up together with Christmas music and some chocolates then in the evening, we watch our first Christmas movie of the season. This was the first year DS helped (2 and a half).

EL8888 · 11/12/2022 09:34

Yes. In all honesty it has to be a team effort -l do the arranging and he does the putting together as we have a reuseable tree. I can’t even get it out of the loft at the moment as lm pregnant and our loft hatch is high / small

milawops · 11/12/2022 09:35

We always do the tree together. Usually it's a real one with lots of glass and matching colour schemes. This year with 2 young kids it's an artificial one with an explosion of cheap gaudy baubles. I've complained about not having my posh decorations up for the last week but to be honest I kind of love our tree this year.

evtheria · 11/12/2022 09:36

DP and DS do it all. I stay out of the way, if I did the tree I'd want to do it on my own.
What I do is make the room ready for them (music on, christmassy snack and a brew nearby) and I do any decor in other rooms, like garlands etc. I also come in afterwards and give lots of effusive compliments (my natural instinct is to be neutral-faced and suggest things, which instead of being helpful can come off as critical).

TitanicWasAGreatMovie · 11/12/2022 09:36

The heavy lifting and construction (fake tree).
And, tutting if I drop the glass baubles and they smash 😕

janglealltheway · 11/12/2022 09:36

Yeah he has to help to get it out of the loft at least! But he'll also help with actually building it and putting lights on. Tends to leave the baubles to me/ DD though.